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I used to play online games a lot, online chat rooms. One day when i was 15, i met this beautiful young woman who was just two months younger then me. After a while it became apparent that we were very interested in each other. We lived only a 3 hour drive from each other, so we decided to meet up. When i met this girl, oh my god, she was the most beautiful one i ever seen. Only problem was, all the other girls in the town hated the guts outta her because she was a lesbian. But she was beautiful, her personality sparkled like the stars in the night sky and i loved her with all my heart. So the girls beat me up and threatened to kill me. I asked my lovely new girlfriend to come back to Canberra with me, but she refused because she wanted to stay and live with her mother, and also that she didn't want to interfere with my family. So i traveled back home after our first kiss and i promised i would be back. She called me a few weeks later and informed me she would travel to my house to stay with me during the school holidays, and her visit was wonderful. 3 days in, we had a fight about distance and the strange reasoning to our connection (we were horny!). Then, distraught she returned home with an epic burst of home sickness. We chatted for months on end, and i even apologized for my rudeness towards my attraction (horniness) to her. Then she broke off the relationship and said "It's just too difficult to keep in touch anymore, we're so far away from each other it's breaking my heart", and that was the end of it. To this day we are still interested in each other, and if she moved here, we would be going out again, but for now.. Distance takes it's toll..

So yes.. keeping a long distance relationship is hard. You miss the other person sooo much.

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i had one of those thingys myself 2 hours each way to see them and it lasted 2 years then we moved in togeather. BUT we in the first 2 years broke up 17-20 times for a few days or a week cus of the strain. so yes it can work but its not easy at all we aint togeather now but thats for other reasons.
also i have just started a relationship with a lively girl who means everything to me, she lives down the road from me but she is in the RAF so there will be tours of duty. this will be the make or break for us and i hope it works.

What im trying to say is yes they can work pretty well its when the 2-3 hours travel goes then you notice that its the antisiapation and fleeting moments you love not the person every time.
Thats why i looked closer to home.

hope that helps sorry about spelling dyslexic

its very hard to be in this situation i guess..its like your always wondering if you could still make it and if youccould still trust each other..especailly if your partner is in another country that is really sucks...

I can tell you it does work. There are three couples on here right now. One couple are engaged, have been in a relationship for years and are engaged.(The Captain and Eileena)They are working right now on trying to sell one house so they can be together.
One couple is fairly new and live on opposite ends of the planet *Nebraska and Australia* (Josie68 and Anacondaarms)
Last couple is me and mine (Ready4funn) we live three states away (15hr drive one way). The main thing is trust, you have to trust your partner. And communication *Thank god for free nights/ weekends & cellphones*

So it can work out, just takes two very strong people to do it. Time will tell if they work out or not.
The biggest problem I see is that one eventually at least one has to uproot and move so they can be together.

Trust,patient,

Right after my divorce I went to the Philippines met a wonderful Pinay she was a great sweet girl but it couldn't last I moved all the time and she didn't even have a passport she wanted me to help her get all her documents and take her to the US but it just couldn't be done every now and again she chats with me online and she found out from my friends that I am headed back next month to Baguio for a fight but and she wants to go out again and see me but I am very hesitant. Not that I don't believe long distant relations can last, but they can't last forever at one point someone has to make the move.

Hmmmmm well I dont think a long distance relationship can last long distance forever, you would have to know at the beginning if someone is going to eventually make the move.
I am in australia Have 6 children a good job and close family so moving is close to impossible. BUT if the other half can move there is no reason long distance cant work. Just know from the start what is possible who can and who cant do what.

I think um... Long distance contributes to the downfall of relationships. But It also help u get stronger.... My name is BILL

Contradiction.

Anyway, yes, they can work...depends on the people involved, level of communication, trust, etc.

Hmmm Me again,
I think for me, the distance is not really a big issue. Regardless of where a man was if I loved him I would find a way to make it work. Firstly Like Trouble and others have said, Trust is the major issue. I Trust my man completely. The main thing to do from the very beginning when you are interested in someone is to be completely truthful and yourself, then there are no surprises. Gosh show then your worst photos not just your best, if you have problems let them know, if they care about you , then you will work through them. Dont hide anything, whats the point they are going to find out eventually.
I sure wouldnt have travelled from Australia to America to visit someone if I had not been comletely truthful, otherwise I may have gotten off the plane and scared him away.
Any relationship is a risk, they all leaveyou with the chance of ending up brokenhearted, but with trust. care and comprimise any can work.

They only work out for men with huge penises.

patience doesn't come easy...

long distance relationship really builds one emotional strenght.......bur sometimes it can be hard to maintain and risky at times.

Oh cool, we wont have a problem then.

long distance relationships works if both people are completely honest with each other.
But like any relationship, if there is no honesty, it won't work.
So if you are not honest and you are in a long distance relationship then distance has nothing to do with it.
I there is love, love binds everything...

So you think it is all about the sex??
& not about the relationship & the connection between the couple....
???

Long distance relationships are not for everyone. They take a lot of trust and honesty from both parties involved. And with the them both realizing that one will have to move sooner or later and work towards that happening. Even so if one moves there is no guarantee that after they are together 24/7 it will be the same.

They need to be able to stay with each other while within a LDR more time then just a weekend here and there.

I have seen some that it worked for but many it did not. Regardless how well they got along while in the LDR. I've still seen many of them fail....

Myself if the distance was 5 hours or less drive away I may consider it but not states away....

Erk.

I am, again, in a long distance relationship with the only man whom I have met in five years of dating with whom I thought there was a chance of a long-term relationship.

He dumped me twice and I dumped him once (though he says I dumped him twice). I don't think that either of us would have dumped the other had we lived in an hour or two driving time. He is in Chicago and I am in Springfield, MO.

There are so many variables in a scenario such as this that is almost impossible to say whose relationship will work and whose will not.

1. How well do you know this person? Have you met him/her in person? In-person meetings are different from email and phone conversations.

2. What is the distance?

3. If the distance is a quite a lot, does one or both parties have enough money and time to make regular visits?

4. Is one willing to move if it comes to that?

This period of the relationship has lasted five months. We have seen each other three times and have been in constant contact despite the fact that he has been to Australia, Sweden, England, and Germany. He has been in China for the last two months and is coming back to the US in a week.

I think it will last this time, but who knows? I teach and most of my classes are online; I can take my job with me anywhere in the US.

A couple cannot live on love alone: consider all aspects before truly committing to someone who is not next door.