It really is sad that people did marry cause it was (a) the next step, (b) well, we have to marry if we want kids and want to be accepted by society. It was what our parents were taught, and they taught us.

A family is one thing. Marriage is between two people, man and woman, and it is all about those two people being the "end all" for one another. It's not about "Oh, we phucked so good that I want to marry him/her", or "He/she is a great person, probably the best I will ever find, so I guess I should propose cause, ya know...it's the next step". Hell, a marriage really is about a relationship that two people want, and they don't want it with anyone else. Through that, yeah, you can start a family. But, a family always starts with a man and woman, and it grows from there.

Seriously. You chicks out there ever dreamed that you would marry your Prince Charming and them have him phuck the slut next door a few years later after he tired of you? And fellas. You ever wish to marry a good hearted woman who was a freak in the sheets and then decided she didn't want to be your freak? Yeah...didn't think so. Point is.....understand what the hell love is. Goof out!

At least you are not bitter..........

I feel that if you love someone enough, and are 'committed' already to the relationship, marriage is the next logical step. That shows you want that person for life!!

marriage doesn't do those things krupa, people do. all those things happen, or not, whether you are married or not.

being in a committed relationship, unmarried, doesn't keep someone faithful or more enamorous, it is just makes it easier to walk away. it is the original intent of those involved, married or not, that makes it work. over years, people have led to the destruction of the relationship in general. becoming greedy and self-serving and often fearful of, in their mind, a lonely existance. too many people settle, marry as the 'thing to do' and look at it as the vehicle to forever love. there are destructive forces that come in to any relationship, some can be worked through, others not.

marriage is not for the weak of heart, and society has taken a once sacred oath and allowed us to speak, what seems now, mostly meaningless vows. it is the hearts intent that makes it work or not, one must truly know their self to know if it is something they can enter into with another. to find two like minded people these days seems to be a daunting task.

marriage can be a beautiful thing, a committment of that level can be powerful and in its purest intent, forever. it ONLY becomes negative when love does not prevail. its up to the the two to make that happen.

Everyone will have an opinion on this one....

Everyones opinion will be true (for themselves)

I am curious about individual perspectives here.

Personally, NEVER! I see nothing but negatives reguarding the strangle hold of marriage. It does not enforce loyalty. It kills sex drives. The majority of the time it leads to the legal headaches of divorce (often leaving kids with biased and limited information available on what actually happened). It leads to criminal taxation rates against the secondary income. It leaves you socially obligated to deal with in-laws on all major holidays hand half your weekends off (and all the drama those freaks bring with them).

Rarely, it will bring in a person who you really can grow to love but it aint often. (my ex bro-in-law is a great guy and I still treat him like a loved brother)

Someone wing some positives out here cause I need to understand why so many women are hung up on the concept that marriage is the end goal of even forming a relationship.

Cause honestly....unless I get pregnant...I ain't getting married.