Every semblance of or actual demonstration of love towards me seem to have created a beginning pathway towards trust leaving me longing for more of the same. Every moment I spent unselfishly giving love to those I care about tremendously, inwardly becomes like a sacred trust. Whenever that trust of the heart seem lost and love appears to have been trampled upon beyond recognition, what comes next? Is there life beyond a rendered celibacy and suffered wrongs?

no

Some guys find this tough to answer, but I am willing to give it a shot.

Every person makes choices in life and yours is described above. Love and trust are powerful things and once damaged, trust is hard to get back. It takes a strong and very grounded person to forgive someone after a breach of trust.Whether these steer someone towards celibacy depends on the person. I know it is good to talk to someone who understands and who is willing to lend an ear. This is what you need right now more than any thing else. I have seen this and can relate. I wished I was closer to be a good friend, but this forum will have to do. Just know that someone here cares that you get what ever it is you feel that you need.

sometimes you gotta just put on your big girl panties and get through the day! Or for guys...man up! It's not easy, but you retain dignity & self respect

Thanks.

Thanks.

I'm new here. Just signed up as a mater of fact. My best friend of 5 years and girlfriend of 2 years just walked out on me while I was at work 3 weeks ago. We never fought or anything. She stole ove $800. in my stuff and just left without even leaving a note. I was so confused that I couldn't show any emotion over it. I trusted her more then anyone in the world and couldn't figure it out. A few days later she wrote me on Myspace telling me she was sorry but she just isn't happy in a relationship where she gets everything and where everything just seems so perfect.

did she explain why she stole your stuff?

some people are jerks, nothing will make them happy no matter how much you give them but the majority are good and you can't lose sight of that...

Wow cross, something a little similar happened to me, but he didnt take anything but what was his. i say similar because it came out of now where. i thought we were doing good and i got home one night after work and poof, he was gone. on the table was a goodbye letter but it has left a big void in my soul. its been about 9 mths and i still havent gotten over it. i feel i am walking dead amongst the living. no happiness. shades of grey all around. ur not alone.

*looking around for my big girl panties*..hopefully will make me stronger...but probally just meaner.

Same thing with me. I say don't walk around with emptiness in your heart. Life is too short....... Then there are the Forums, where people can cheer you up (if you allow them), or they can send you screaming back to the inside of your mind........ (smile).

Sounds like something she is really going to regret......sorry for your pain and good luck......once you heal you find a girl that will apprciate you for who you are........and you will find happiness

Wao dat girls 4 u afta all her mess she is pleading.

When I was going to school and busy, I had a guy that pursued me. He was an old friend, although the timing wasn't right, some of the things he said and did were. I insisted I needed to study and finish school before I could have a full relationship. He professed his love daily anyway. Telling me "I Love You" and that "I was the only one for him". He did so many nice things. He saw my life was empty in the in the partner department, so he filled it. With his humor, companionship, caring and courting. He said I Love YOU, everyday and offered to cator to my every need. He said I was the only one for him and he wanted to marry me. I believed him. To bad he was saying the same things to many other women,too. I was shocked to see him on the internet seeking women on many sites. Telling them the same things he told me. My heart sank,its broken, and my ability to trust is destroyed. I have cried an ocean of tears and did everything I could think of to forget the memories he so carefully worked to create.

I think & feel everyone deserves love, There are those ppl that have been hurt by love weather from family friends or ex's that aren't healed enough to love you the way they should, you seem like you got it together so I can't say why its taking long for you to be treated right. most ppl also dont understand the choice of celibacy, I don't know if your doing it by choice or not but if you are I say good for you, I know for me I am doing it because i want to know that I am wanted for more then the physicals that will come in time once i find mr right!. I really hope you find everlasting love, so strong and powerful it knocks more then ya socks off. lol . stay positive and have faith, cuz once you relax and stop looking it surely will find you. funny how that works huh? when your not looking your found but when you are it seems impossible. well hun i wish you all the best stay blessed & if you haven't noticed well let me tell you it may not seem like it but YOU ARE! : )

Mizz...you have said it so well! I can only agree with you Doll! Bless you.

life has hard lessons


amongst those I have learned

noone else can make you happy, you have to first accomplish happiness alone


noone else can love YOU the way YOU can, so embrace yourself instead of waiting on someone else to do it

you are valid and perfectly capable of joy and happiness without a sexual partner, sometimes friends and family are all you have and sometimes thats enough(althouth its a hell of a lot harder if you are a parent, because kids deserve the male and female head figures in their lives)

and(for the spiritual), sometimes God removes all other love interests so you can get back to loving him first

"Love and trust are powerful things and once damaged, trust is hard to get back. It takes a strong and very grounded person to forgive someone after a breach of trust."

Heartfelt....these words touched me for I am just learning to be strong with learning who I am after all my losses. What I thought I had lost is now making me stronger...I can and only will be me. I enjoy your words of wisdom...continue to help others, for all that I have read from you, has helped me ...

I hope that you are not beating up yourself and thinking that you did something wrong or that there is something wrong with you.

She has some issues that she needs to work out and there is nothing you could have done to fix that. You will fins someone worthy of you.