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Topic: Giving Up The FWB
sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 11/28/10 08:08 PM
maybe you should be asking your FWB what she thinks.... but that's the whole point - if you agree to FWB you basically have no "right's" or entitlement to know anything or have any influential opinion - what an FWB thinks doesn't count as there is no commitment I mean I would hope people care about each other's feelings, but with FWB u take ur chances....

ChangeofHeart Joined Sun 10/26/08 Posts: 1280	Sun 11/28/10 08:09 PM
maybe you should be asking your FWB what she thinks.... but that's the whole point - if you agree to FWB you basically have no "right's" or entitlement to know anything or have any influential opinion - what an FWB thinks doesn't count as there is no commitment I mean I would hope people care about each other's feelings, but with FWB u take ur chances.... So true

pmarco41 Joined Wed 04/30/08 Posts: 2163	Sun 11/28/10 08:09 PM
maybe you should be asking your FWB what she thinks.... I hope she doesnt think much well then, you are not much of a friend...are you?? I had something similar happen to me, and we talked about it, the implications, what it would do to the friendship and how the other person would feel about he and I continuing to see each other as friends knowing we were former lovers... basically it boils down to taking other peoples feelings into consideration...if that didnt occur to you, then basically you are just in it for the sex (where ever and when ever you can get it) and you shouldnt kid yourself or anyone else...

newarkjw Joined Sun 05/25/08 Posts: 17172	Sun 11/28/10 08:10 PM
maybe you should be asking your FWB what she thinks.... I never met a guy who cared what his FWB thought. Wouldn't that part be the benefits or am I missing something?......

GLG2009 Joined Wed 01/07/09 Posts: 7238	Sun 11/28/10 08:10 PM
This is why I would never be a FWB.

pmarco41 Joined Wed 04/30/08 Posts: 2163	Sun 11/28/10 08:12 PM
maybe you should be asking your FWB what she thinks.... but that's the whole point - if you agree to FWB you basically have no "right's" or entitlement to know anything or have any influential opinion - what an FWB thinks doesn't count as there is no commitment I mean I would hope people care about each other's feelings, but with FWB u take ur chances.... I dont agree...FWB should be no less important than any other intimate relationship...you have all the rights and entitlements of friendship and deserve to be treated with no less respect than any other person.

ChangeofHeart Joined Sun 10/26/08 Posts: 1280	Sun 11/28/10 08:13 PM
maybe you should be asking your FWB what she thinks.... I hope she doesnt think much well then, you are not much of a friend...are you?? I had something similar happen to me, and we talked about it, the implications, what it would do to the friendship and how the other person would feel about he and I continuing to see each other as friends knowing we were former lovers... basically it boils down to taking other peoples feelings into consideration...if that didnt occur to you, then basically you are just in it for the sex (where ever and when ever you can get it) and you shouldnt kid yourself or anyone else... If they were a FWB, i would mostly be in it for the Sex. But i am not a animal. Of course i would care about them. But not for a long term relationship. Sometimes circomstances dictate what type of relationship you have with a person

fireflysgirl Joined Mon 10/18/10 Posts: 2957	Sun 11/28/10 08:15 PM
Pffft. Tap it all! Maybe thats true. Because you know once you commit the sex is going to slow to a begging crawl I'm wondering why it comes to a begging crawl.... I've never had that happen.. Hmmmm.... was going to ask this very question! it should get better with time

GLG2009 Joined Wed 01/07/09 Posts: 7238	Sun 11/28/10 08:15 PM Edited by GLG2009 on Sun 11/28/10 08:19 PM
if you have a FWB, why are you looking for a serious relationship? I bet your FWB is hoping that you two would be what you are looking for. PS What you are looking for in a serious relationship, you'll never get it, maybe you should move your FWB to a different status.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Sun 11/28/10 08:16 PM
I'd be scared that the FWB would go all "Fatal Attraction" on me....and my bunny rabbit.

ChangeofHeart Joined Sun 10/26/08 Posts: 1280	Sun 11/28/10 08:16 PM
maybe you should be asking your FWB what she thinks.... but that's the whole point - if you agree to FWB you basically have no "right's" or entitlement to know anything or have any influential opinion - what an FWB thinks doesn't count as there is no commitment I mean I would hope people care about each other's feelings, but with FWB u take ur chances.... I dont agree...FWB should be no less important than any other intimate relationship...you have all the rights and entitlements of friendship and deserve to be treated with no less respect than any other person. What about just Hitting it, and Quitting it? No names, addresses, or telephone numbers.

ChangeofHeart Joined Sun 10/26/08 Posts: 1280	Sun 11/28/10 08:17 PM
if you have a FWB, why are you looking for a serious relationship? I bet your FWB is hoping that you two would be what you are looking for. NOT!!!!!!!!!!!

pmarco41 Joined Wed 04/30/08 Posts: 2163	Sun 11/28/10 08:17 PM
maybe you should be asking your FWB what she thinks.... I hope she doesnt think much well then, you are not much of a friend...are you?? I had something similar happen to me, and we talked about it, the implications, what it would do to the friendship and how the other person would feel about he and I continuing to see each other as friends knowing we were former lovers... basically it boils down to taking other peoples feelings into consideration...if that didnt occur to you, then basically you are just in it for the sex (where ever and when ever you can get it) and you shouldnt kid yourself or anyone else... If they were a FWB, i would mostly be in it for the Sex. But i am not a animal. Of course i would care about them. But not for a long term relationship. Sometimes circomstances dictate what type of relationship you have with a person well..then it seems you are talking about dumping a lover..FWB is more friendship than sex...and letting go of the sex shouldnt interfere with the friendship at all.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 11/28/10 08:19 PM
maybe you should be asking your FWB what she thinks.... but that's the whole point - if you agree to FWB you basically have no "right's" or entitlement to know anything or have any influential opinion - what an FWB thinks doesn't count as there is no commitment I mean I would hope people care about each other's feelings, but with FWB u take ur chances.... I dont agree...FWB should be no less important than any other intimate relationship...you have all the rights and entitlements of friendship and deserve to be treated with no less respect than any other person. I agree pmarco that would be nice- but that's not the reality. what you are describing is a relationship. the benfit's newark, are pretty much confined to concensual sex w/ FWB arrangements altho I am sure there are various variations on the theme

ChangeofHeart Joined Sun 10/26/08 Posts: 1280	Sun 11/28/10 08:19 PM
maybe you should be asking your FWB what she thinks.... I hope she doesnt think much well then, you are not much of a friend...are you?? I had something similar happen to me, and we talked about it, the implications, what it would do to the friendship and how the other person would feel about he and I continuing to see each other as friends knowing we were former lovers... basically it boils down to taking other peoples feelings into consideration...if that didnt occur to you, then basically you are just in it for the sex (where ever and when ever you can get it) and you shouldnt kid yourself or anyone else... If they were a FWB, i would mostly be in it for the Sex. But i am not a animal. Of course i would care about them. But not for a long term relationship. Sometimes circomstances dictate what type of relationship you have with a person well..then it seems you are talking about dumping a lover..FWB is more friendship than sex...and letting go of the sex shouldnt interfere with the friendship at all. That might be like haveing Ice Cream without the Ice

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 11/28/10 08:19 PM
This is why I would never be a FWB.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Sun 11/28/10 08:20 PM
maybe you should be asking your FWB what she thinks.... but that's the whole point - if you agree to FWB you basically have no "right's" or entitlement to know anything or have any influential opinion - what an FWB thinks doesn't count as there is no commitment I mean I would hope people care about each other's feelings, but with FWB u take ur chances.... I dont agree...FWB should be no less important than any other intimate relationship...you have all the rights and entitlements of friendship and deserve to be treated with no less respect than any other person. What about just Hitting it, and Quitting it? No names, addresses, or telephone numbers. Hit it fast....hit it strong!

fireflysgirl Joined Mon 10/18/10 Posts: 2957	Sun 11/28/10 08:20 PM
maybe you should be asking your FWB what she thinks.... but that's the whole point - if you agree to FWB you basically have no "right's" or entitlement to know anything or have any influential opinion - what an FWB thinks doesn't count as there is no commitment I mean I would hope people care about each other's feelings, but with FWB u take ur chances.... I dont agree...FWB should be no less important than any other intimate relationship...you have all the rights and entitlements of friendship and deserve to be treated with no less respect than any other person. I agree with this! I am still friends with several of my FWBs & that fact does not affect our current relationships. If they are a true friend they will understand your need to move forward in something real and should want to see you happy!

ChangeofHeart Joined Sun 10/26/08 Posts: 1280	Sun 11/28/10 08:21 PM
maybe you should be asking your FWB what she thinks.... but that's the whole point - if you agree to FWB you basically have no "right's" or entitlement to know anything or have any influential opinion - what an FWB thinks doesn't count as there is no commitment I mean I would hope people care about each other's feelings, but with FWB u take ur chances.... I dont agree...FWB should be no less important than any other intimate relationship...you have all the rights and entitlements of friendship and deserve to be treated with no less respect than any other person. What about just Hitting it, and Quitting it? No names, addresses, or telephone numbers. Hit it fast....hit it strong!

GLG2009 Joined Wed 01/07/09 Posts: 7238	Sun 11/28/10 08:21 PM
if you have a FWB, why are you looking for a serious relationship? I bet your FWB is hoping that you two would be what you are looking for. NOT!!!!!!!!!!! Good Luck!