For the first (official) time in my life, Just a week before i left fror Texas in July, it happened. I met this beautiful young woman at the local babershop here in Cozumel. her name is Lupita, doasnt speak a word in english but ive been getting vibes from her. And the barbershop owner, Anna who was also Mexican but could speak a little english was trying to fix up with her, right there in front of her. I told Steve (my friend and border who live with us) about it and We went out 3 times but with a "3rd wheel" which was Steve because he was bilingual...VERY awkward. However she acted like she really wanted to be close to me. This NEVER happened before. But i havent seen her in a little over a month. She doesnt have a phone, she was borrowing her sister's phone, and then she had to give it back. And she seems to be missing. Anna (the barber who introduced us) says she's been to her house twice..no answer. Just gone, like she never exsisted
Steve and Anna still insist on giving me false hope about it though. Right now, Steve and my mom are not getting along at all. I'm taking spanish lessons though. Steve takes me and sits in with me, because he claims to know more spanish accurately than the teacher...and the local mexicans. Steve doesnt want me to use the Google Translater or any spanish CDs or any of the internet software and sites like Live Mocha and Rosetta Stone, because none of them are accurate. He seems to hint out only he can help me. Thats kinda scary. I am a bit heartbroken about Lupita though.Someone said maybe Lupita's not avoiding me, she's avoiding Steve. Originaly i wanted it to be just me and Lupita and my laptop with the Google translater, but i think you already know how Steve thinks about that. But here's the clincher: It was her Bday on 9/11. Steve suggested i get her a phone and they sell them at the Mega for only 350 pesos. Steve said i shouldne buy those cheap things. He said you should never get a girl a cheap gift, they consider it rude because thats the same thing as saying thats all youre worth to me. When he said that, i already got her a gift that cost 350 pesos, a pair of ear rings, i didnt know what else to get her. Besides, i guess i just wanted to give her a token of my appreciation for giving me a chance no other woman ever did. I gave it to Anna to give to Lupita when she sees her. Before i left for Texas, on the day of my flight, i gave her a rose and a note written in spanish i translated from english using the Google translater. Steve was saying she didnt understand a word of it. But i told her in the note that i have to depend on my mom for cash so it might be a little hard. And i think Steve told her too...or so i thought. Now Steve is waiting to be paid by Dan (who owes him money) to pay him so he can but Lupita a good phone, not a cheap one (like the one me and mom has which works fine, so i don't why its such a big deal) Inspite what Steve says, it's over and i know it, i know a "brushoff" when i see one...and FEEL one.
Last Saturday, i was at the barber, Anna told me she saw Lupita and Lupita told her she was sick all this time. Last time i saw Lupita was Aug 28, now alot of that time her sister was in town, so it couldve happened after her sister left. Now Anna told me to come back the next day and she would bring Lupita. I did, Lupita wasn't there (i got there at 2:30, thats when i told i'd be there. Anna was doing a manicure fore someone and grabbed her purse and stuff and told me, she'd be right back ( i assume with Lupita, so i waited about 2 and a half hours till they were closing up shop, then i had to go. Again more false hope.

YEALLLLL, That was a drive by my friend.
I tried playing "CAPTIN SAV-A-HO" a few times myself,(not calling anyone a HO) dont get me wrong. but after repeted failures to obtain
a woman that way I looked at my motivies.... changed my attitude, grabbed myself by the gonies and moved on.
Best of luck.

different cultures come with different customs bro. what you think is cool maybe considered a spit in the face to another culture. kinda like when micheal meets apollonia in the godfather. also you have to consider that there is alot of turmoil in mexico currently and you could be getting into some trouble messing with these people. just because your intensions are good, doesn't mean other people are playing fair. even if you were to speak to "lupita" face to face, she could be part of a scam. be very careful bro, and maybe you should just stick to what you know back in the states. there are plenty of "lupitas" in texas.

The only thing i know back in the states is rejection.Another thing here is i keep getting attention here from beautiful mexican women that i NEVER got from any woman back in the states. I feel like i would have a better chance at finding a girlfriend/wife here than i would in the states. Strange but if thats how it goes then so be it.

not tryin to knock your hustle but why in the world would you wanna date someone that doesn't speak English


but i aian't mad at cha

get your rosta stone on with a quickness

Because i was attracted to her and my barber was fixing me up with her. I probely wouldntve had asked her out if it werent for the fact i was sorta on the "rebound" (if i'm using the term right).

Fishy fishy fishy in my book

The only thing i know back in the states is rejection.Another thing here is i keep getting attention here from beautiful mexican women that i NEVER got from any woman back in the states. I feel like i would have a better chance at finding a girlfriend/wife here than i would in the states. Strange but if thats how it goes then so be it.

as a stranger in a strange land you are going to get looks. it is part of the environment to be friendly where you are. and if you look like a tourist some are overly friendly hoping to earn more than a peso. once you bring your submissive mexican bride back to the states, she will talk to her neighbors and they will teach her that she has "rights" so then your in divorce court and back to getting rejected. NOW on the flipside, hit the rossetta stone, and learn the customs. talk to lupita and live happily ever after. just be prepared because once you learn spanish alot of other lupitas will be willing to come to the states. what is boils down to is PLEASE open your eyes and be aware of the dangers. look before you leap, although it seems you have already dove.

Steve finely admitted Lupita and her family moved to Playa Del Carma (across the channel from Cozumel) because Lupita was a poor girl from a poor family and they just couldn't afford it no more, so they moved. Lupita didn't want to move, but just didn't have a choice. she needed money, she needed a job and education (money for that too) and it was just to hard so... Steve and Anna couldv'e just told me. Instead of trailing me along like this.

Sounds like the base of a song........

Family or la familia en espanol extremely important to hispanic population plus Lupita must follow the codes and honor her family and patriarch going along with whatever she must do. Your friend and Anna may not have known about the move or situation.......unless your offer marriage she must abide by her families wishes......and if you do offer marriage you must be approved by her family.....which they probably would not object bcs she can gain citizenship in the US through marriage....

sounds to me like they were putting tobasco sauce in your burrito

I know i havent been on but the reason is urgent. i was wondering if this topic could be deleted? I have reason to beleave that someone i know saw this and now they're not too happy with me. i'm afriad that because of this i could end up having a bad rep in Cozumel. i was only trying to understand what the blazes went on. and now..THIS. I have been getting destressing emails from someone involved in this. im not gonna name names but he might have seen this and...well, yall get the general idea.

Try being more cautious in future. Just be aware if anything seems not quite right.

From a thread 9 months ago????? Right!

Good luck with that. I think the damage is done.... if there is any damage at all?

Didn't mean to make it sound like a difinate fact, i just meant it as a possability. I'm just trying to wipe the slate clean, so i can make sure i have a clean reputation in Cozumel.

[quote/] so i can make sure i have a clean reputation in Cozumel.



How would this damage your reputation? Are we missing somethin here? Your reputation shouldn't matter, to be fair.