but of course!

You can't go wrong with Zubas brother.......

Technically, one could say you were speaking of a man's wallet size. I mean, cause the wallet does go in the back pocket of a man's jeans. So....you know....this could be a materialistic thing.

Then again, you could be dirty and say "****" but hey.....we all know that you would never do that!

when you really don't need em, want em, think of em, they come a runnin, like goddess's rushing with mighty winds, but only after your own wind hath filled your own sails, findin and doin what you be lovin for youin, the you will have to decide which one you want to sail beside ya, that love doin what you be doin and you love what she already be a doin...

two a strollin their own merry way, doin their own merry thang, two strollin parallel with their own roll and stroll, be the only thing that make a merry parallelin rollin and strollin taintin tappin passion poppin thang.

note to self: scratch using 'inside the clothes' when there's a potential male audience

This is one weird azz thread dawg........

you can be dressed to the nines all you want, but if you dont have self confidence, if you dont like yourself or your life nothing is going to change....

I dont mean to sound harsh but after reading your OP a few times all I heard in my head was whine, whine, whine, if you are like that in real life..sweety, Im not surprised you are single...

start enjoying your life, cherish every moment, get as much out of it and give as much into it as you can and you will become a person other people will want to get to know.

Sophie, you noticed esebulldog's guns too huh??

self confidence is directly porportionate to how much one care about the facts of ANOTHER?

THE MORE ONE CARE ABOUT WHAT OTHER'S WANT, THE MORE SELF CONFIDENCE WILL FLOW NATURALLY, AND YOU WILL "EFFORTLESSLY" FIND, FOR SHE WILL FIND YOU, and tell you what SHE WANTS?

the more one want for itself, the more it's clothes are important, the more it's hair is important, the more it's shoe's are important, but if one like other's being happy, and cares about what they want, and about what they have to say, and about their life, the more one will forget about it's clothes, and shoes, and hair, and you'll dress yourself without even thinking about it?

the more one want to HEAR what another has to say, the more you will see other's, the more you see, the more you care, the more you care, the more self confidence?

hard to do, if while their talking, in one's own head be swimming the sharks of all the things "self wants"?

that which wants the most for itself, has the least self confidence, and all the confidence it does have, be founded in all surface physical things, so very shallow and built on things anybody with true substance as caring can see thru anyway?

just find somebody and start listening to them, and what they want, and what they feel, for the more self stare at itself, the more desperate it become, and the more desperate, the more it think about what it want and itself, and the more it think about what it want, the more and more desperate, and the more desperate energy one puts off, until your a beacon of of self energy that feels like a bandit come to steal happiness for itself at a party.

SWEAR TO STOP THINKING ABOUT YOURSELF.

THAT IS HOW YOU LOVE YOURSELF.

you forget about yourself.

and go find somebody else to make happy, with no strings attached at first, till you get your balanced, half you, and half them, but the half them must come first, or you'll revert right back to narcissistic ways.

the world is a narcissistic place, and to get out will be harder each day, as that energy grows, so get the **** out now and find somebody to create some fun for.

probably not going to be best to even be a "girlfriend" right now, but rather somebody you can do some things for, help them out, instead of seeking for them to help you?

whats the one thing you haven't tried?

helpin somebody else? lookin for somebody else you can make happy, that you like or care about.

your caught up in tryin to help yourself so much, that it's stealin your whole god damn life from ya.

take it or leave it.

the choice is yours.

obviously what your doin aint workin.

kick some *** dude.

But it was a well-written one.

I never understood the clothes thing. If its not something one wears comfortably to begin with, then what makes ya think you will decide to wear a new wardrobe when someone else helps ya pick it out? Personal preference comes into play. I've never cared for what any of my friends wore since theirs tend to run more stylish, while mine is simple, especially since I live a whole different lifestyle then they do.

Good comments from everyone else though. I definitely agree that liking yourself is the most important because its the aura you give off from it that makes the difference.

Uh, yes, guns.
We will go with that :-)

wow, after i went to sleep yesterday this thread exploded all over the place! How do you reply to everyone all at once?
I don't really understand why there is so much concern over what we wear. I tend to wear dark colours or just solid colours, i have never really paid much other attention to my clothes other than that. If someone who really doesnt have any reason to care thinks that they have to help me find some new clothes, then sure, i guess i could own some more pants. He also mentioned polo shirts, but for some reason I don't think i really want to own any polo shirts.

@pmarco41: I know, you're right. I was whining and I regretted doing so immediately after posting. By all rights, the post should have been deleted and I did spend some time trying to find a remove or delete option somewhere. But fortunately, esebulldog replied and i think what he said was exactly what i needed to hear. sometimes you can't see the forest for all the trees. I'm sorry I littered your forum with my gibberish...

davidben1: your writing style is cool. either that, or you've been into the catnip... I like that you mentioned STOP THINKING ABOUT YOURSELF because that is something i was musing about the other week, i remember writing IGNORE THYSELF in my sketchbook at some point. I just need to stop thinking about how awful i feel, because that will probably never go away. what i am feeling doesnt matter, my goal is to move forward and always do my best to improve the lives of others. that and become content and maybe familiar with who (or what? ) i am. feels kind of dumb to still be trying to figure myself out.

lol...

go sailor go.

to focus on oneself only steal from self, and steal the view of the world, and sky, and beautiful people, and kids running and playing, and grandma and grandpa hugging, and reudce the insight, which control the eye's, to a mere portal to look out...a self dungeon

and your own brain told ya the same, or you would not have wrote it yeself last week!

WHAT HUMAN'S THINK BE THE "NEGATIVE" FROM OUR OWN BRAIN ABOUT OURSELF, ACCEPTED AS TRUE, AND THE "MOST" OF WHAT BE DEEMED AS REAL, UNLEASH AND CREATE ALL GOOD THINGS THAT SELF EVER WANTED TO FIND ON PLANET EARTH.

peace to peace