Hello community I need some advice. I am 26, about to turn 27 and am recently divorced. I have been single for 6 months and have had to radically change my life since the divorce which means new house in a different neighborhood, I got a new job in a different job market, I am not with my daughter who is 4 very often due to the seporation, I have had to make all new friends...basically my life has been like a tornado and I am finally settling down.

I am not used to being alone since my ex-wife and I were living together for six years, so I have decided to start dating and everything seems to be going really well then will just flat line.

I have already gone on dates with about a dozen women in the past 3 months, and have had one relationship form that I thought was meaningful, but it ended abruptly when I found out that she was not over her ex.

I have no problem meeting women and going out with them, I just am having a difficult time transitioning to girlfriend/boyfriend which is where I would like to be. I am looking for a somewhat consistant relationship with someone, atleast going out once a week and talking regularly. Is that so much to ask for? Do I need to give it more time? I have never really dated so this is all so new to me, I just want to know if I need to change my expectations for the time being...

Thanks

First off Breathe.... Okayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

A good relationship should start with an incredible friendship
so work on creating that trusting bond through friendship,,,
being open to what both parties want and need,,, and let the
relationship flow from thier

Good Luck and welcome to Mingle

Since you are only divorced a few months you will need to take some time and get to know yourself as a single man again. Find out the things you like doing by yourself, things that will make you grow.

Don't rush into any kind of relationship just yet because you will find that old feelings and problems from your marriage will come back when you least expect it. When the time is right, you will know it and so will the lucky lady you meet. Good luck.

<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< Sending big Kiss's to (Eileen)

I would have to agree with LAMom and Eileena9.

Take your time in getting back into the dating game. Everything is a process. You'll find someone...no worries.

Thank you, I know you are right. I have had to do some serious soul searching and am in the process of rediscoverying my passions in life which I hope to share with someone. For now I really dont mind just dating and having fun, I just kinda feel like a fish outa water...I dont know what is normal behavior for a single person when you start to have feelings for someone. Do I just hold it in, or tell them. Up till now I have held in all of my feelings, then the relationships end and I feel like I never got to really express myself

Big kisses back to you, {{Denise}}.

Hi Chicka

Clancy, don't say it right away but also don't act nonchalant about it. If she isn't ready to hear it, you will just scare her away. When the time is right, you won't have to ask.

Hi Eileena!

everyone seems so afraid of spending time alone these days..its not the end of the world, solitude can be a great healer, a great opportunity for you to get to know yourself and develop a relationship with yourself..when that happens you will discover that you are not so eager to give it up and become much more choosy about who you want to form a "relationship" with.

I started dating almost as soon as my ex and I split. It was a BIG mistake! I was looking for men that had qualities like my ex. And when they didn't I dumped them. I didn't give them a chance. I just closed that door. Then I was mean. Treated men like they were a rug to beat. Because my ex hurt me so bad I wanted to do others like that and not show any feelings.

Then I met someone (from here) And he changed my life. Made me see things clearer again. I am happy and a better person.

My only regret is I wish i would have waited to date atleast 1 year. Find who i was solo. Find my strenght on my own 2 feet. And not have treat some men like crap..

But good luck

Being alone after my late husband died was the hardest thing for me.. I married at 18, had 4 children by age 24 and then divorced after 17 yrs.. Was single only 3 yrs and then remarried for 26 yrs. I went from my fathers home to a marriage and then another marriage. I have been single only 6 1/2 yrs of my adult life and it took me a long time to adjust.. At age 67, I bought my FIRST car..lots of firsts for me recently.. just never had to deal with it but I'm doing well and now enjoying my life more...lol

At age 26 I never really dated before I got married. We never even had much time to even make friends. All we had going for us was the sex and the compatibility. Which meant we were both capable of having sex. That was about it. Even years of marriage and then a remarriage when she met me by chance it was always, "Hello, stranger." We had kids during the two marriages. The next woman I married we spent more time getting to know each other. I think dating is a great idea. I just never really had much experience with it.

Slow down, if you feel like a fish out water it is because you are.
No hurries-No worries.
Take more to rebuild your life, then look around for someone to date

Good for you Ms Silver.. my boyfriend lost his dad a couple months ago and his mom is having a hard time. We been spending as much time with her as possible. But its not the same. She miss' him so much that it scares us that she does not wanna continue in this world without him.

Hi. While I am definitely not the expert on dating...otherwise I wouldn't be here...I do know this:

To have a friend is to be a friend. How do you want to be treated? Are you "interested" and not just "interesting"? If you like her, do you make a second date while you're on the first date? Girls aren't into wondering....and it sucks to call or text a guy when you like him, had a good time...and then he disappears.

You sound like a good guy. Stay positive, laugh often, and be yourself. Good luck.

what one "knows", create all situation's into existence?

so, ya wanna a girlfriend, not a friend that be a girl, lol...

so, what data does one MOST NEED TO KNOW?

not what itself WANTS, for self gets WHAT IT WANTS FROM "ANOTHER"?

can self "make another", give it what it wants?

would self WANT TO?

in most cases, thankfully no, lol...

SO, THE MOST AND ONLY THING BEST FOR "YOU" TO STARE AT, IT WHAT ANY POTENTIAL "PARTNER WANTS"?

is there a MATCH OF WANTS?

to stare at self want too hard, MAKE IT HARD TO SEE WHAT ONE ACTUALLY NEEDS TO KNOW TO CREATE IT INTO EXISTENCE WITH ANOTHER?

so, the goal to accomplish what one wish, in ANY SCENARIO, be most against the natrual inclination, of staring at SELF WANTS, but rather SEEKING TO KNOW WHAT ANOTHER WANTS?

then you will have FULL CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF, not give off "taking or self centered energy", which believe me, a women can feel a thousand miles away, (even if many disregard it in the hopes of getting what they want) and you will aquire many women as friends along the way, each of them helping you to understand women better...

good luck

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