I went on a date with a guy on Sunday who had a beautiful profile. He sent me a picture...that was (obviously) ten years old. When I met him, I was shocked! The dark hair was white, and he had a full-grown beard....the picture he sent me was of a robust, youthful looking guy/clean shaven. After out date, he finally sent his most recent pic. He looked like an anorexic Santa Clause.

Question. Am I wrong to feel cheated. Am I wrong to feel he was dishonest and/or misrepresented himself? Love the guys profile. hate the way he looks.

Please note-he's 2 years younger than me. Somebody tell me I should give him another chance....or not....

What would you do?

Why should we decide for you? Do what's in your heart and mind.

Profiles are sometimes a crock anyway. One day I could be a Caribbean scuba instructor and the next a pilot for a major airline. Photos are often also misleading or false. The only way, in my opinion, to make any true determination about compatibility is by spending time together.

wow, seems dishonest to me. some people have a way with words, so filling out a profile is not a problem. thing is he isn't the one who has to look at him, you do. if you really can't get over the way he looks, you can try to decorate him up (if you think a hat will help), or see if he has a younger brother. from what you posted it sounds like this is going to be an issue. keep mingling.

you have to be the one to answer this, are you comfortable starting out when you clearly believe you have been lied to? is this the way to forge a lasting relationship?

(keep in mind though that Christmas is just around the corner)

'Ho 'Ho 'Ho !!

a misrepresentation is a lie none the less. yes, you were cheated and deceived. been there done that with women who think a few extra pounds is 50 or 100, not. humans are like all other creatures, drawn by attraction and if you are not attracted to them, why the hell would you want to wake up to them everyday for the rest of your life?

Well, like the others said... it's up to you.

However, I generally have anyone that I am going to meet from online... take a current picture with their cell phone and send it.... so that I know who I am meeting.

But, if you feel it was dishonest... go with your gut feeling!

Som funny replies!!! I guess I'm unsettled about the fact he posted an old photo and pretended it was current. That's all.

didn't consider that...ho ho..haw haw on me...

That's a very common thing to happen when meeting people off of the net for the first time. I reccomend keeping first dates simple for that very reason, and don't judge people just off of their online info, if you haven't yet met him in person then you can't truly know if your ideas about him are true.

True. I think people perceive themselves in a much more favorable light than they are.

don't sweat it girl, there are plenty of other "men" (pronounced liars) who will send you current pics if you like.

I disagree. Otherwise why would they feel the need to be misleading? They are trying to sell product with a false claim, and they are under no illusion about their attractiveness.

It happens so often! Most of the time is just insecurity, It is not intended to cause any harm. These people misrepresent themselves because they want a chance, like everyone else. Would you have gone out with him, or even started a conversation if his current picture was the one attached to the profile? Would the guys give a chance to a funny, intelligent, wonderful girl if she is overweight?
People will do whatever they think it's fair to just have a chance to win you over. I try to get to know people a bit first before going on dates and always a video chat so they can see I look the same as in my pictures. Happened to me too, you know going on a date with a stranger, since the face I knew and liked was from an old picture, and funny thing is that when it happened, I was not upset by his looks, but by the fact he assumed I was so shallow I would not see beauty in him if he didn't lie, and the lie achieved the opposite, made me see him with an unflattering light.

Call them a liar to their face! I hate misrepresentation!

no date first meeting, no dinner first meeting, just go for coffee, and if one or both don't like the meeting, it's easy to scoop ice cubes from the water glass and put in coffee and drink it really fast, lol, and go find something else to do. <wink>

tell HIM how you feel, it will work itself out as it should be

I would personally feel deceived if someone misrepresented their person or their character,,

This could be taken that you do the same.

After considerable thought, I agree. Bait and switch is illegal in most States.....

My pictures--the ones in Pink and the bra photo were taken three days ago. I would never send anyone an outdated photo. Granted, I am not the best looking woman...I do look younger than my age.

Misrepresntation is a form of a lie. Point blank.