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my dealbreaker; if I dont like them. 
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i do wanna say this... just because a woman has kids doesn't mean there is something wrong with her... i think that the guys that won't date a woman with kids could be missing out on something that could be wonderful... but to each their own, just more for me 
Well, I wouldn't be so adamant about it had I not been involved in that kind of scenario so many times in the past. But I've been there often enough to know that it simply isn't for me. And I really don't think there's anything "wrong" with a woman, just because she has kids -- it's just that it shows she and I have an irreconcilable difference in our value systems. Everyone has different values...nothing wrong with that seems sad that someone might miss their soul-mate because of something like that, but then again, if they had kids by someone else, they weren't destined to be your soul-mate... almost a paradox 
I think the whole "soul-mate" thing is overrated. A guy with kids, for me, is more about the parenting issues. If I am not allowed to interact with the kids, up to and including discipline, and am expected to allow the guys kids to walk all over me, that's not going to happen. I don't deserve to mistreated because the child has no parental consistency, has resentment issues, is spoiled rotten, and allowed to get away with things, that's a big problem. I have animals, and while I wouldn't put up with someone beating the crap out of them, or abusing them, once some basic rules were laid down, my critters would be expected to listen to him. More and more, however, there's the facts that children can get away with injury and death to an animal, and that's okay, misguided but okay. That won't happen with mine, and there would be hell to pay. I expect discipline in my animals, and in children. |
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i do wanna say this... just because a woman has kids doesn't mean there is something wrong with her... i think that the guys that won't date a woman with kids could be missing out on something that could be wonderful... but to each their own, just more for me
Well, I wouldn't be so adamant about it had I not been involved in that kind of scenario so many times in the past. But I've been there often enough to know that it simply isn't for me. And I really don't think there's anything "wrong" with a woman, just because she has kids -- it's just that it shows she and I have an irreconcilable difference in our value systems. Everyone has different values...nothing wrong with that seems sad that someone might miss their soul-mate because of something like that, but then again, if they had kids by someone else, they weren't destined to be your soul-mate... almost a paradox
I think the whole "soul-mate" thing is overrated. A guy with kids, for me, is more about the parenting issues. If I am not allowed to interact with the kids, up to and including discipline, and am expected to allow the guys kids to walk all over me, that's not going to happen. I don't deserve to mistreated because the child has no parental consistency, has resentment issues, is spoiled rotten, and allowed to get away with things, that's a big problem. I have animals, and while I wouldn't put up with someone beating the crap out of them, or abusing them, once some basic rules were laid down, my critters would be expected to listen to him. More and more, however, there's the facts that children can get away with injury and death to an animal, and that's okay, misguided but okay. That won't happen with mine, and there would be hell to pay. I expect discipline in my animals, and in children. no one deserves to be mistreated for any reason... especially the children...and i agree with you, no one should ever walk on anyone else. and there are spoiled rotten kids, no doubt about that, but would fall under how you don't agree with the way they were raised, not that they have them... i had to get rid of a dog once because he was snapping at my boys, and as much as i love animals, i love my kids way more... |
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Edited by
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Sat 09/11/10 07:01 PM
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What a great, lively discussion. I am impressed with all the thoughtful responses. It's too bad that most of the profiles in my area either fall into some of my dealbreakers (mainly kids and distance) or haven't been on line in over a month! I should probably add being an inactive user to my list of dealbreakers!
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You have to wonder how many people will stick to their so-called "deal breakers". I mean, you always here people say "I won't date this person..." for this reason, or for that reason. And yet, nine times out of ten....they date the very person that they say they wouldn't date.
I simply ask that a woman (A) not be a nag, (B) even if she has hit hard times, or came out of a bad relationship/marriage, that she is making strides to better herself. And lastly.....give good head. I mean....that is all I ask. 
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You have to wonder how many people will stick to their so-called "deal breakers". I mean, you always here people say "I won't date this person..." for this reason, or for that reason. And yet, nine times out of ten....they date the very person that they say they wouldn't date.
I simply ask that a woman (A) not be a nag, (B) even if she has hit hard times, or came out of a bad relationship/marriage, that she is making strides to better herself. And lastly.....give good head. I mean....that is all I ask.
Holler if she has a twin or she's a Siamese twin!  
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You have to wonder how many people will stick to their so-called "deal breakers". I mean, you always here people say "I won't date this person..." for this reason, or for that reason. And yet, nine times out of ten....they date the very person that they say they wouldn't date.
I simply ask that a woman (A) not be a nag, (B) even if she has hit hard times, or came out of a bad relationship/marriage, that she is making strides to better herself. And lastly.....give good head. I mean....that is all I ask.
Holler if she has a twin or she's a Siamese twin!
Very true. And we could only hope that the God Lord above would bless each and every man with this scenario. But that is asking alot.
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not giving the chance to get to know me. I will never judge women because of their past, their looks, or their points of view. I will not judge a woman period, I will get to know her, and then we will both see. Although if she has ugly feet I probably will pass :)
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You have to wonder how many people will stick to their so-called "deal breakers". I mean, you always here people say "I won't date this person..." for this reason, or for that reason. And yet, nine times out of ten....they date the very person that they say they wouldn't date.
I simply ask that a woman (A) not be a nag, (B) even if she has hit hard times, or came out of a bad relationship/marriage, that she is making strides to better herself. And lastly.....give good head. I mean....that is all I ask.
Holler if she has a twin or she's a Siamese twin!
Very true. And we could only hope that the Good Lord above would bless each and every man with this scenario. But that is asking alot.
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I couldn't start a relationship with someone thats says they never want to have kids
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No hard drugs or excessive drinking,lack of personal hygiene,gold diggers or gold brickers.
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lack of personal hygiene
no job selfish still lives with parents doesn't want kids drugs alcohol racist/prejudist |
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My deal breakers are: Being self centered, manipulative, a drama queen, loud and obnoxious, lack of ambition (current job or income is of no concern to me, just as long as she has a goal and is working to achieve it), excessive apathy, uptight, argumentative, unintelligent (I don't care what level of education she has just as long as she is smart. There's a lot of educated idiots out there, being naturally intelligent is more important because you can always go to school and learn things from a book, any A-hole can do that... LOL), laziness, chronic negativity, no sense of humor, not knowing how to let loose and have fun, poor spelling and grammar, and being closed minded and thinking they're always right. Whew! I guess I have more than I thought.
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Ah crap I have to have goals? That's it I'm outta here!
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Ah crap I have to have goals? That's it I'm outta here!
It helps, but on the other side of the coin it's important to be happy, and if someone is happy doing what they do then so be it.  As the saying goes, a rich person is not one who has the most, but one who needs the least.
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Great point Guitar_Hero_2000. I can't stand loud and obnoxious people. I guess I should add that to my list of dealbreakers.
Keep these posts coming! They're great! 
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