So a guy came to talk to me today about the new book I just had published, the one about internet dating. And he mentions that he met his current girlfriend on eHarmony and they've been together for FOUR YEARS.

Well, I've seen the TV commercials for eHarmony, and those are some majorly scary-*** people they got over there, and I'm wondering what's up with this guy and if his girlfriend is one of the scary people.

Anyway, I took their 29-point-matching-personality-profile-and-chicken-gumbo thingie a few years ago, and they told me I was "unmatchable." They said 20% of the people who take it are "unmatchable."

Then somebody told me that the guy who owns the site is a religious whackjob, and they don't want people on the site who aren't Christian enough or homophobic enough, so after that, I was glad I didn't qhalify.

What's the point of all this? I have no idea. But I'll be damned if I'm going to pay them $29.95 a month to fix me up with some psychotic lunatic. I'm betting I can find someone to do it for HALF of that.

I will match you up with someone from Mingle for free

Really? I did'nt know that info about the owner, makes sense though.

I can tell you that you're totally right about fixing you up with some psychotic lunatic. During my time there this happened to me twice and it was very frightening!! I don't scare easy either.

A friend of mine was also told that she was "unmatchable". I will admit that I still use it from time to time, and I have yet to be matched with somebody who might be even 20% of a soulmate to me.

Oh, and get this! They will also give you what they call 'flexible' matches that they relax your preferences just so they still send you matches.

I still wonder why I should be matched with 2 psycho stalkers, a total drunk, various control freaks, a sex crazed maniac and unhappy ladies with constant jaded questions?

What the heck? I'm a decent guy. I really hope that there is more out there, so I hopelessly wait

really? Can you do that for anyone?

This has got to be one of those "....but there's a catch...." scenarios....!!

So does that mean Dr. Phil is also a Whack Job Christian too? Wouldn't surprise me but he is a mouthy opinionated piece of work isn't he?


eHarmony is BS. That or Christian Dating in disguise!

I did some research on this one day, because I was bored and had nothing better to do, which is pathetic, but that's another story.

Anyway, the guy's name is Neil Clark Warren, and he reportedly has a long-time religious background. I have occasionally referred to him as Neil Patrick Harris, which is funny because they both have 3 names, they both start with "Neil," and NPH is wrongly-orientated for this sort of thing, heh.



I have a theory that there are some sites that ONLY accept psychotic lunatics. I have nothing to base this on, other than the fact that there are obviously so many of them on certain sites, but that's good enough for me.



I've seen other sites do that, too -- it's amazing, why even bother to set up preferences if they're just going to ignore them anyway!

There's one site where they have a little disclaimer on the matching page that says something like "We may occasionally send you matches from outside your search parameters if we think they would be good matches for you." Hey, how about you let ME decide who's a good match, huh?



Oh, I understand this. I've had an arsonist, a newspaper columnist who wanted me to write her column for no money and no credit, a phony bank teller, a phony kidnap victim, I mean it's like the cast of a play Kafka might have written if he'd been on crack. Actually, that might make a pretty good play....

but he is a wife beater. wonder how thats workin out for him?

Sure, but you can't complain about WHO I match you up with.

Well, who's going to sign up with a dating site called eWifeBeater?

Sadly some people really do see themselves the way they portray online. I've run into this quite a few times. They believe they have the resolve or cleverness to pull it off in real life too. Very scary.

....and here's the catch....!!

After compareing several of the Match Site "interview questions" and results I have pretty much figured it was just some dingbat student graduate project and have no real truth as to the results like most so called tests for mental health. I am sure they have fun compileing the data and probably make a bundle selling it so who is the whacko?

What I find interesting is how many of the sites are changeing their names after they get bad PR. Dr.Phil was associated with Match.com. Now that is a site with some really strange characters.

A dating site should try to get a spokesperson with a reputation for successful relationships, someone like Mike Tyson or Elizabeth Taylor.

And like eharmony a nonperforming pay site!

They lie about performance like the Yellow Pages!

heck we dont need to go to a site to find psycho stalkers and all those others we can do that out here n the real world.thats why i just stay here have met a few and were great folk's and have become close friends and they knew up front i just want friendship for now i have raised my grandson allmost 14yr's by myself and then i might consider a relationship and think i might allready have one just time will tell. good luck to all of u searching for that special someone keep faith good things come to those who wait

Maybe those sites hook you up with a psychotic lunatics because you guys are psychotic lunatics.

If I'm going pay $30.00 to meet up with psychotic lunatics I might as well go to a bar, at least you get beer...