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| Topic: Would you date a person who was 10 years younger then you? | |
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Like just go have fun. Hell, so what she is older. As long as you don't take it too seriously things should go well. If you get serious things will get weird. Life is too short to suffer with the "what if I" this and "What if I did that?" kind if garbage. I know and agree, and I do want to see her regardless, been a long time anyway as I've said. Kinda curious though if there's any chances of anything more, but only time will tell. |
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Would I date a guy in his early twenties when I was in my early thirty's? Yea I did. He was a truely nice guy that after a year was very hurt when it just didn't take hold and move into the hoped for permenant family scenario. Why? Because it was just too hard for me to back track over the decade difference in life experiences but it still hurt a lot to face it. So my advice is get yourself someone who is more your peer and save yourself the misery. Interesting.......I suppose it can depend on the person though as far as whether they can really handle the age difference. |
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Lovely friend do it if could get a chance i would surely do it.
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I have dated 10 years younger than me... And up to 15 years older... Age really has nothing to do with it. If you have chemistry, and are pretty even on maturity, It can work. I don't really agree with the whole age has nothing to do with it thing. However, it will depend on the person. As for maturity, the younger the guy gets, generally, the less mature he gets. But, that's not always the case..  .
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I don't think 10 years older or younger is a big age deal, now. I have dated both, I am 33. Just start out casual and see what happens, don't put pressure on yourself or expectations on her though.
As for getting out more, I know its hard when you are chained to your computer, I was like that after my divorce, but you really should force yourself to get out. Start out small, a trip to a walking trail and walk a little, or borrow a dog and take it on a walk, or even window shop around the mall? You will then feel better about yourself which makes it easier to meet people :) |
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I don't think 10 years older or younger is a big age deal, now. I have dated both, I am 33. Just start out casual and see what happens, don't put pressure on yourself or expectations on her though. As for getting out more, I know its hard when you are chained to your computer, I was like that after my divorce, but you really should force yourself to get out. Start out small, a trip to a walking trail and walk a little, or borrow a dog and take it on a walk, or even window shop around the mall? You will then feel better about yourself which makes it easier to meet people :) I sort of started to do this today actually. I had these coffee shop flyers I had been given a few weeks back to put on houses around the neighborhood (wanted to help the lady out), and.....after my friend and I had spent one morning hitting a bunch of streets near me, I got lazy about it for a while and they just sat here. It didn't help that my friend hasn't been around either, as usually if I ever do go out, it's to meet him and do something and even that hasn't always been that often. Finally though, I decided I had to force myself to get some of this done today, couldn't keep putting it off as I tend to do a lot at times admittedly, and I went out and did one block that I had been meaning to do for a while. Wasn't much but it was something at least, baby steps you know? |
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Anyway, would you date someone 10 years younger then you are? I would actually prefer someone 10-15 years younger, provided she didn't have kids and didn't want any. |
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I don't think 10 years older or younger is a big age deal, now. I have dated both, I am 33. Just start out casual and see what happens, don't put pressure on yourself or expectations on her though. As for getting out more, I know its hard when you are chained to your computer, I was like that after my divorce, but you really should force yourself to get out. Start out small, a trip to a walking trail and walk a little, or borrow a dog and take it on a walk, or even window shop around the mall? You will then feel better about yourself which makes it easier to meet people :) I sort of started to do this today actually. I had these coffee shop flyers I had been given a few weeks back to put on houses around the neighborhood (wanted to help the lady out), and.....after my friend and I had spent one morning hitting a bunch of streets near me, I got lazy about it for a while and they just sat here. It didn't help that my friend hasn't been around either, as usually if I ever do go out, it's to meet him and do something and even that hasn't always been that often. Finally though, I decided I had to force myself to get some of this done today, couldn't keep putting it off as I tend to do a lot at times admittedly, and I went out and did one block that I had been meaning to do for a while. Wasn't much but it was something at least, baby steps you know? baby steps are great!!! Like I said I have been there and done that and its hard to get out and do stuff, especially alone but you will get there. Each day just push yourself a little further |
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Just an update on things, I finally did go out and see her yesterday afternoon. She needs people to do massages on as she goes through her massage therapy courses, like 6 a week. I offered to help her out, so I went and got a back massage from her yesterday as the first of these.
I was nervous about going on my own, never having bussed out to where she is, and was nervous about seeing her again after so long. I wasn't sure what to expect with the massage either. I got a little sick on the bus over in fact, but she didn't even notice nor care much when I told her what happened later as she was taking me home. It was really nice, I needn't have worried. I hadn't seen her in 2 and a half years or better, but you wouldn't know it from how we got on upon seeing each other again. It was like we just saw each other yesterday, I had a good time, was very relaxed, she put me at ease very fast. We talked, we laughed a lot, was just a real comfortable setting, and the massage was nice too. I'm planning to go on a weekly basis to help her with this as I can, now that I know I can do it. I really can see something happening with her, though I'm not gonna broach the topic just yet, but depending on what happens now I will soon. She has a dance recital next weekend, I might see if I go along to watch it, since I'll be up there again that afternoon anyway if all goes to plan. But yeah I had a good time, was glad I did it and was great seeing her again. |
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In this area, most people in their 40's aren't nearly as active as I am...
In this area, most people in their 30's aren't nearly as active as I am... In this area, most people in their mid 20's aren't nearly as active as I am... So yes. |
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Shshs at this point and time sure I would prefer someone around my age but most of the time the ones my age or older don't appeal to me. I have dated 6 years younger and hell he acted older then me
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Shshs at this point and time sure I would prefer someone around my age but most of the time the ones my age or older don't appeal to me. I have dated 6 years younger and hell he acted older then me ....
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Shshs at this point and time sure I would prefer someone around my age but most of the time the ones my age or older don't appeal to me. I have dated 6 years younger and hell he acted older then me ....
so funny
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I have actually dated someone 13 years younger and we were together for over 2 years. I broke up with him because he wanted to have a child and I couldn't...so I set him free to do that. He actually still calls me and we have been split for 11 years now.
I say take your time and be friends...if it is meant to be, it will happen 
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Just an update on things, I finally did go out and see her yesterday afternoon. She needs people to do massages on as she goes through her massage therapy courses, like 6 a week. I offered to help her out, so I went and got a back massage from her yesterday as the first of these. I was nervous about going on my own, never having bussed out to where she is, and was nervous about seeing her again after so long. I wasn't sure what to expect with the massage either. I got a little sick on the bus over in fact, but she didn't even notice nor care much when I told her what happened later as she was taking me home. It was really nice, I needn't have worried. I hadn't seen her in 2 and a half years or better, but you wouldn't know it from how we got on upon seeing each other again. It was like we just saw each other yesterday, I had a good time, was very relaxed, she put me at ease very fast. We talked, we laughed a lot, was just a real comfortable setting, and the massage was nice too. I'm planning to go on a weekly basis to help her with this as I can, now that I know I can do it. I really can see something happening with her, though I'm not gonna broach the topic just yet, but depending on what happens now I will soon. She has a dance recital next weekend, I might see if I go along to watch it, since I'll be up there again that afternoon anyway if all goes to plan. But yeah I had a good time, was glad I did it and was great seeing her again. A lot of good has been said on the thread, and I am on the "go for it with baby steps, and don't care about the age as long as you click and both are fine with each other" team. But the reason I'm writing is to warm of the "friend" danger... of course it is not a danger if you like to be her friend, but if you like more, you have to signal to her that you want more. I know you're going baby steps, but if you just sort of fall into a pattern where you help her out and is all friendly, well, maybe that's how it will all pan out. Argh, I don't feel I'm expressing myself too well here, because of course you should be friendly to her, and help her out (and get a message). All I'm saying is, if you like her, you got to let her know, plain and simple, otherwise nothing might happen, where something could have happened. Of course do you let her know your feelings, you might get a rejection, and that's tough. On the other hand, I've experienced that letting someone know you have feelings for them and desire them, can awaken or strengthen their own similar feelings. Anyway, sorry for the ramble, it is way past my bedtime. Good luck with it all! |
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Hit it fast.....hit it strong! 
Seriously. Just go with the flow right now. See how things move along, try to get a good feeling to see if she wants to date you and all. lol the quick hitting not so much my style.
Yeah, my head is just kinda going all over the place at the moment. I really do want to see her again though, even if just as friends. Need something more productive to do then sitting on a computer all day, seems that's been the story of my life for a while, need to get out, active and motivated. Rip into it like something you love to eat(food wise) Smile. Seriously, look at all of what you feel and put it all in perspective. Don't go out and be hasty and make a decision that you will regret. If it will be,it will be. Keep your head on straight and look at all angles. Good luck with it!!! |
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I have dated 10 years younger than me... And up to 15 years older... Age really has nothing to do with it. If you have chemistry, and are pretty even on maturity, It can work. I don't really agree with the whole age has nothing to do with it thing. However, it will depend on the person. As for maturity, the younger the guy gets, generally, the less mature he gets. But, that's not always the case.. .
Exactly! Why is it that people feel the need for perfectly-delineated "right" and "wrong" answers to this question? Sometimes big age differences are a problem, sometimes they aren't. Seems easy enough! |
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Kinda illegal for me, the girl would have to be 16!!
Creepy too for her...Maybe I will feel diffrent in 2 years,lol. But doulbtful. |
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The kid would be 11!
Maybe if I was older I would think otherwise. |
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Surely! I could go for a young 20 year old sexy lady about now.
 
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