Frank, you want the truth or would you like me to blow smoke up your ***?

That's unfair 52.3% of all people do that.

I'm sorry but you are incorrect. The proper percentage is 74.31592. But we all make mistakes.

Usually when I am with a woman, my tongue is too busy doing something else to say something demeaning about her.

I believe it's necessary to have a realistic understanding of a situation before you get into that situation. To do otherwise is, at best, short-sighted, and, at worst, a recipe for disaster.

You call it "judging," I call it knowing what I want. We can argue semantics all day; the difference is, you're focusing on the potential prospect, I'm focusing on my own personal preferences. I just don't see it as particularly "judgmental" to avoid getting involved with someone with whom there is no possibility of my having a future. It's simply being realistic and aware.

So, are you going to tell the lucky girl that you're just settling for her or are you planning on lying to her about your feelings so she will be with you? Im just curious.

I was a majoring in math for 3 years (then I stopped I couldn't pay the college, not because I didn't like it) , so I'm going with numbers most of the time. So I use percentage and fractions a lot and when I got something so say I say it.
Yesterday- for an example- I made a profile somewhere else, and I got like 10 women interested within a few hours. Out of the 10, only one was a single woman who never married and had no kids. So I could have said 99%, but I was aiming to describe a bigger pool of people so I gave an extra 4% for giving that extra edge, so I don't come off sounding like someone who stereotypes.

Even then, I am attacked, and just because the word I used "settle", and just because I tried to be honest and say that single-never married women with no children is my preference.

I make mistakes 72.9% of the time. 58.2% of all people know that.

There isn't anyone, i was just thinking out loud. I didn't know settle would sound bad..reminder, English is my 2nd language.

Oh Frank, I just love your math LOL...

9/10 is 90% not 99%

There aren't half and quarter or 7/8 of a woman out there. 9 out of 10 is 99% for me.

That makes no sense to me

So smoke then? Ok, you fudged the numbers. Data is data, statistics are measurable. There is no extra credit for edge. Stating that you must settle for divorced women is not stating a preference. The word settle means many things but it most commonly attributed to accepting less than expected. As in "divorced women" are somehow less.

As a divorced woman and one with children at that (I know Lex, we have no future but we will always have Paris), I found your use of the word and it's connotation offensive. I stated that. I didn't attack you. I believe I clearly articulated my opinion.

They might settle for an apology... js.

Yeah. Usually a woman doesn't like for a man to consider her a last resort. She wants to be thought of as a first-round draft pick.

Yeah, i see your point. Actually, the whole "divorced" thing doesn't matter to me either way -- speaking strictly from a standpoint of fairness, hey, I'm divorced myself -- should I take that to mean "divorced" = "damaged"? (OK, sometimes I do feel damaged, but the marriage has a lot more to do with that than the divorce did!)

But as far as "settling" -- well, yeah, I don't think I've used that term, as it doesn't quite convey my feelings on the subject, but it's something I certainly COULD have done, had I posted something while distracted or whatever. I have issues with people who hone in on particular terms like this, and who then try to demonize people who use them -- "baggage" is another one.



I guess I focused more on the "with children" than on the "divorced" part. That's just how my own red flag system is set up.

I still less than three you, though!

Look, If i would have gotten a 100 emails, and 10 of them would have been single with no children, I would say 90%

But since I only got 10 emails, and out of the 10 , 9 were divorced with children, I won't say 90% of them were, because we are talking about a small pool of people (10).

Let's say if I got 20 mails and out of the 20 5 of them were single with no children 15 were divorced with children. Then I would have said 75% of the women emailing me are divorced and with children.

Let's say I only got 5 mails. If zero of them were single and no children, then I would have to say that 100% of the women mailing me are all divorced and with children. But that's wrong, I would still end up saying 99 or 95%, because the sampling pool (5 mails) is just too small to determine and saying 100% of the women emailing me are divorced with children is wrong, since the number of emails I got is just not enough to determine.

We might.

Atlantis, I was actually just thinking the language thing might be causing some of the problem here.

Awww geez, you guys are gonna make me apologize aren't ya?

There is no way and now how I meant that "divorced" is somehow a disqualifying or damaging attribute! I was just simply going with the whole thing how I only raise interest in women who were married already and have children. Anyone who knows me better, knows that I am not that type of a person who would slander others for previously married or something. My ex girlfriend I was with for 5 years was a divorced woman who lost a child due to an abusive *******.