It's been my experience that there are those who can't differentiate between "I'm not interested in people who ________" and "People who ___________ are all bad and should be sacrificed to Molech."

The ambiguity of alternative interpretations....

Maybe it's not only me now who gets crucified, after that. lol..

it`s so funny to me that such 'settling' would need to be announced! yes, i`m easily amused

I can differentiate just fine. It was the word "settle" that was offensive, not the fact that he has personal prefrences.

I'd prefer not to settle for a man who thinks being with me is settling. *looking for the giving you the finger emoticon*

Is there a problem with dating a divorced woman who has children?

If there is, then the problem is probably you.

I've been getting it for ages -- you should see some of the e-mails I get -- if you don't want to live the way THEY think you should live, you're a worthless piece of pyrite or something -- meanwhile, they can't spell any words that have more than 5 letters, and I'M the moron because I don't want to live THEIR lives....!

Whatever....preferences just MIGHT be there for a reason, folks -- you don't have to agree with those reasons, and you certainly don't have to change your thinking to suit those reasons -- just don't try to impose your choice of lifestyle on those of us who are quite comfortable making our own decisions on THAT one....!

Here honey...............

Or maybe we've just been through enough to know what works for us and what doesn't.

Thank you Jeff.

I don't believe that it's OK to pre-judge a woman because she is divorced and has children.

And for the record, prior to meeting my late wife, I was with a divorced woman who had 4 kids, two of the kids being handicapped. The kids weren't a problem for me; their mother was. She was messed up, but her kids were not at fault.

I guess I have to settle for a vibrator.

My dearest Lex, you know I have the utmost respect for you and your right to opinion and preference. But you and Frank are mixing apples and oranges here. You clearly state you are not interested in dating women with children. You don't preface it by saying "divorced" women as if they are somehow damaged, nor do you say you will not "settle" for a divorce woman w/children as if they are somehow beneath you. You state your preference.

The topic of this post is settling for divorced women with children. So to that I say....please refer to Newarks' emoticon (on loan with his permission)

it Chrissy. (this coming from a woman who is neither divorced or has children)

Look at the bright side. An enemy is better than an enema.

Why? I'm still here.

I'm honest..I'll tell straight up what's going on. It's not meant to be offensive, I just would prefer someone who has no children and not coming with a baggage from a previous marriage.
Don't ask why..it's just the way I am. That's my first preference. It's not because I don't like children, actually I'm jealous..since everybody around me relatives, friends, have children and I am jealous of them having their family and living the life that way.

My first observation was, with divorced women, and especially those who have children (95% of divorced has at least one), is that they don't want anymore. Some of them don't want more because they have like 4, and that's understandable, others with 1 or 2, just chooses not to have more.

That just doesn't fly for me, no matter how hard I try to imagine myself who will never have children, due to being with a woman who doesn't want one.

Another thing is marriage. Most divorced women (as I observed) do not want to re-marry. Fine, they had a bad experience and think it's horrible. I can understand that too.

It's not that I want to marry at all costs. But the "what if" comes up and she has already locked this option completely out. Same with not having children.

So I'm supposed to change my entire mind about dating and relationships, because I "may" have found someone who is fitting and we love each other, but those little preferences about children and marriage will be still there.

And no, I wasn't really thinking that "that's it I give up looking for a single woman with no children" I was just thinking out loud yesterday, after getting flooded with mails from another site, and they all shared the common traits of being divorced, with 2-3 children.

Not meant to offend, I was just disappointed that not one out of the hundred thousands were single women with no children.

Oh yes but you see you're a man with compassion and a sense of humor.... that simply wont do. Come back when you're into demeaning women and then we can talk

I will never settle for a man who uses undocumented, random statistics to compensate for the use of judgemental demeaning language stated as a preference. Since we're just stating our preferences here.

what undocumented random statistics? demeaning language?

Is mingle2 is a hate site now or women just hate me here now on? I noticed several refuses to even reply now.