Someone contacts you via your email and you read their profile before you return the mail and they are the complete opposite of what you thought you specified in your profile.

Do you go back to your profile and reread it trying to figure out how you messed up and lead this person to believe they would fit you? I do it all the time.

Then you have to go back to the mail and....

I always write back and ask if they read the profile first off and then if they say yea

How do you let them know that you already know that it ain't gonna work?

I usually respond anyway. I don't mind chatting with new people. Who knows.. you could make a new friend.

I always say

I don't think we are at all compatable

thanks for writing though

hope ya find what your looking for


Sometimes it works

sometimes the guys an *** and won't give up!

If they understand that there is no romance in the future first that is cool.

In my experience, they always claim they've read my profile even when it's obvious they haven't.

Since the only people who ever contact me are people that are not viable dating prospects, if they seem to be thinking in that direction, I ask them to go back and read the profile, very carefully this time.

If someone contacts me and I read their profile, it's usually only 5 or 6 words anyway, so it only takes a second and I've got nothing to work with. I will write them back but I'm not going to waste a lot of time on someone who has absolutely nothing to say and no skills to say it with.

I usually write what I am looking for again in the mail and ask how they feel about it.

Sometimes it works and sometimes not.

Most of the time I'll just delete the message after I read it, no need to respond if the person is not what I'm looking for. Every once in a while I'll go back and forth with friendly responses for a couple of messages, but then I'll get bored and it'll stop.

I do the same thing.

I have that problem all the time as well. I actually just wiped out my entire profile and said if you really want to know about me send me an email and I will send you the unedited version of my profile.

If they ask for it and then don't read it, well then I don't need to respond.

I do not respond, my profile is very clear about what I'm looking for, so either they are stupid or they are playing games, either way I'm not wasting my time.

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Or, as I have replied in the past, "Thanks but I don't think we are a match" they become rude and abusive. I avoid the possibility of these confrontations. Fool me once; shame on me. Fool me twice; then I am an idiot. I learn quickly!

I just delete and move on as I hope they do as well.

I try to answer anyone who writes me. I think it is rude otherwise. If they cannot be civil, I block them.

When I was new to this internet dating thingy, I thought Awww how sweet and tried to respond to all the mail I recieved.
It really turned crazy!! I found a polite "no thanks" often ended up with someone latched onto my leg like a horny poodle or sometimes they would even get nasty.

Ive learned my lesson from this and if Im not interested, I simply dont respond. It saves hurt feelings and a lady has the right to refuse.

What Patsfan said

Haha, I tried that once, same thing , I do not believe we would be a match but Thank you for writing to me...well I got a nasty note back...so F' em they get no response.

If I'm not interested, I make sure it's just about being friends and that's it. This is only if I think they're interesting and think we could be friends. Anyone else I'm not interested in I'll just politely reply and let them know I'm not interested.

I am not on to find dates so I try not to jump to any conclusion about why someone contacts me, I generally will respond according to the tone of their email. If they ask what I am looking for, I tell them just friends. If they say something kind, I write back with a simple thank you for the compliment. I usually send no answer if I find the email offensive or juvenile,,,,I guess it just all depends,,,

I pretty much will respond to anyone that e-mails me. Since I am not single, those are few and far between but that's ok...I have fun in the forums and most of the e-mails I do get turn out to be funny in a strange, demented way.