I am sure what I am about to write will not get me any sympathy but I am all about telling the truth tonight. For almost 3 years I have been living an online lie. We all have at some point suspected people of using fake/someone elses photos and I am ashamed to say that I am guilty. I have used (w/her permission) pictures of a much more attractive cousin. 3 years ago I joined a similar dating site to this one with a profile using photos of myself and also a seperate profile using my cousins photos. I met a man on the other dating site and we have talked off and on for 3 years. He has no idea what I really look like because he thinks i'm my beautiful cousin. During our conversations (online and by phone) some of which have lasted longer than 12 hours i've spilled my heart to him and told him things that i've told noone else. I feel immense emotional attachment to this man and he expresses the same attachment towards me. Last night he said the timing was right and he was coming to visit me. Now I can't just let him come and be suprised I would NEVER do that, but I do not know if I should tell him the truth. How could he ever feel anything for the real me(he is way out of my league). I feel so ashamed for doing this to him and have tried everything I can think of to get out of this. I know the right thing to do is to tell the truth, get it over with and move on. I have never felt so much regret in my life because I know whatever I do it will hurt him.


I'm posting this here because I truly do want to hear some feedback and perhaps i'm a glutton for punishment. I've given up getting a date here looooong ago.

simply and honestly,
you screwed yourself.

I have to say that I would be mad if someone lied to me even if we got along great before meeting. How would you feel if the roles were reversed? You, at least, owe him the truth before he comes to visit

Oh yes I know that and I wouldn't allow him to come here without telling the truth. I totally expect him to be mad... furious even and I would feel the same way.

thats why you shouldn't lie...but maybe it won't matter, if yall connected good...some guys would understand. what if they lied and it's really a girl?

lol Well I know he hasn't lied i've seen him on webcam and we've talked on the phone.

Not Cool. Who's your cousin?...........

wow, yeah... you really put yourself in quite a predicament haven't you. You shot yourself in the foot and just need to tell the truth so just do it and move on. You'll never get to know if he was into YOU, the girl behind the words and voice in all those conversations.

Do what ya need to do....there is no sense beating yourself up. Put a picture of yourself up, be proud of who you are, don't sell yourself short...pfft, out of your league, you deserve whatever ya want.

Good luck and best wishes to you as you work through this

I feel like i'm in that movie The Truth About Cats & Dogs only I don't think i'll end up w/the happy ending.

You just need to make it right. You are just young and stupid.....

Hey, you are from Kentucky....

Send him this thread and just wait, but send a apology along with it.

Good idea Shasta.

That is a great idea Shasta. : )

That way brandynicole you can just let it all go and things will fall into place as they should. When you do the right things life has a way of working itself out.

Well obviously it's time for the truth to come out. It sounds like you have some serious self esteem issues...speaking from experience. You need to be proud of yourself for what you are and stop pretending to be someone you are not. But like moe said, maybe it wont matter that much because you already have a connection. Hope it all goes alright in the end.

^^ That sounds like a good idea ^^

you need to be proud of yourself. If he isn't the one then move on to the next one.

what does your cousin think this?

Nosey Rosey............

I tried to convince her to meet him for me but she is getting married next weekend lol.

I think he could be the one if he wasn't so shallow. During the time that we have talked he has dated lots of attractive women and he is a really good catch.

I haven't talked to him today I think he may know something is up because last night during a conversation that didn't end until 8am this morning he kept saying that this was to good to be true and he just wanted to know that I was real.

soooo.....about this really hot cousin.can i get her digits?




will she send me boob pics?