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Topic: Independent Women
sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Tue 07/27/10 09:29 PM
Aren't all single women are independent, save the ones who are in a relationship and aren't single and the under 18 who live home with parents? yes unless they are applying for college grants - then the yhave to be 24 , military, have kids or pregnant or married ( I think I've been putting in too much time at work)

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Tue 07/27/10 09:30 PM
Maybe it's time to come full circle and start having dependant men. I'm down. I'll take a rich woman anyday. I'll stay at home and play video games all day...no questions asked. LOL!!! spank where's dinner?

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Tue 07/27/10 09:32 PM
You're right some men do, it's inherent in them to take care of the woman.. It's not a bad trait if it's honed properly... i.e. a man can make her feel taken care of without forcing his preferences on her and she can still be independent... Relationships are about compromise and even independent women should be able to give in a little to her partner... (((((JOY))))) Love what you said....I am a protector, and not ashamed of that. But that is different than feeling the need to take care of her. I love independent women, free thinkers, strong in their convictions, growing for themselves and that carries over to the relationship. Lucky is the man and woman that can grow together, independently... good thoughts - togetherness is the thing I miss most since becoming single

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Tue 07/27/10 09:36 PM
.the independent woman hasnt been around as long as the house wife. I would say about 40 years, since the 60s. I don't think it's a fear of independent women..but more like the husband loosing his role. It used to be the guy who went to work and he felt responsible for the children and the wife too..kinda gave him an important role. I would say the high numbers of divorces also has something to do with. Since many women can live independently and not needed to be married or tied to a person..when that woman cheats on him, he even looses the role of being a sexual partner and that's the most devastating. Just think about it. "I'm not the one making the money", I'm not the one owning the house, I'm not the one feeding my child. And when you add "i'm not the one screwing my wife" , that's it. agree - at that time it's time to move on - but as a man and a father u still make a contribution even if you r not the only breadwinner - eve n if u r Mr. "mom" u still make a very valuable contribution -jmho

jadday Joined Wed 08/19/09 Posts: 4894	Tue 07/27/10 09:44 PM
Just think about it. "I'm not the one making the money", I'm not the one owning the house, I'm not the one feeding my child. And when you add "i'm not the one screwing my wife" , that's it. Why can't it be....."We are both making the money, we both own the house, we both feed our children"? And if either one is cheating then there really wasn't ever a "WE" in the equation was there? Why does it always have to be "I" in a relationship?

jadday Joined Wed 08/19/09 Posts: 4894	Tue 07/27/10 09:48 PM
(((((JOY))))) Love what you said....I am a protector, and not ashamed of that. But that is different than feeling the need to take care of her. I love independent women, free thinkers, strong in their convictions, growing for themselves and that carries over to the relationship. Lucky is the man and woman that can grow together, independently... IMHO that is perfectly stated

IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Tue 07/27/10 09:53 PM Edited by IndnPrncs on Tue 07/27/10 09:53 PM
You're right some men do, it's inherent in them to take care of the woman.. It's not a bad trait if it's honed properly... i.e. a man can make her feel taken care of without forcing his preferences on her and she can still be independent... Relationships are about compromise and even independent women should be able to give in a little to her partner... (((((JOY))))) Love what you said....I am a protector, and not ashamed of that. But that is different than feeling the need to take care of her. I love independent women, free thinkers, strong in their convictions, growing for themselves and that carries over to the relationship. Lucky is the man and woman that can grow together, independently... (((Mike))) thank you sweets.. I so get what you're saying and agree..

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 07/27/10 09:55 PM
Some men need to feel needed. If the woman is too independent for them and doesn't need them, it makes them feel less manly.

Mayhem_J Joined Mon 07/21/08 Posts: 14265	Tue 07/27/10 09:55 PM
Maybe it's time to come full circle and start having dependant men. I'm down. I'll take a rich woman anyday. I'll stay at home and play video games all day...no questions asked. LOL!!! spank where's dinner? A heaping helping of Ramen noddles coming right up. Do you prefer chicken or beef flavored?

Phuque2 Joined Thu 11/20/08 Posts: 4927	Tue 07/27/10 09:58 PM
Maybe it's time to come full circle and start having dependant men. I'm down. I'll take a rich woman anyday. I'll stay at home and play video games all day...no questions asked. LOL!!! spank where's dinner? A heaping helping of Ramen noddles coming right up. Do you prefer chicken or beef flavored?

Jhavez Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 15557	Thu 07/29/10 01:41 AM
Why do some men have a problem dating an independent woman? I am not saying all men are like this, but a lot of the men I know are. Why do they feel they have to take care of us? What is so wrong with a woman being able to take care of herself? I really need some insight on this! It is called "Manly Pride" Many men suffer from this syndrome. Is it really that bad, that a man wants to take care of the woman he adores, admires and loves?