Nuffing wrong wif swearing....it's sometimes nothing more than venting frustration...and NOT intended to be aggressive...perhaps the filters with which you veiw the world is what creates the appearance of aggression?

Culturally we aussies swear every time we open our mouths...and we rarely get aggressive...

Assertive is a whole different kettle of fish, though...

Thanks for the analysis Dr. Schmuck :-)

I guess you've got me all figured out.

Is 'Dr Schmuck' Americanese for 'Biaaatch'???...


Ironically, I have observed when someone must re-act in a derogative way....the reciprient of the derogation is usually spot on, hit a raw nerve, hit the nail on the head...was f*ckin' CORRECT!!!!!!!!



then again...........I could be wrong, and just a Dr of Schmuck...

Last night I invited this guy I have only been hanging out with for about a week to go to the races, he said he couldn't that he was working on his bike. No big deal, I continued with my plan to go. Later on in the evening he sends a text asking what I am doing, told him I was heading to the races, he wanted to know if I wanted to get together later, I did so I said I did. We met last year went out a few times he was just coming out of a relationship, I wasn't interested in being a rebound, we kinda just quit talking.

He sends me text through out the evening we agree that I will leave the races early and hook up. He sends a text asking if I am still at the races, tells me where he is. I send a text saying that I am leaving the races. After I have already left, 20 minutes passes and he sends another text saying "no hurry, I will call you later"

It pissed me off because I left what I was doing to go hang out with him and he blew me off. I sent him a text telling him that even though I like him I think that is ****ed up because I left something that I was doing to hang with him. He then sends me a text stating that he likes me too but he isn't looking for a committed relationship right now.

One we haven't went out long enough for me to even consider that, I do enjoy his company but I am also enjoying being unattached for such a time as this.

I sent him back a text saying I was not that woman, he needed to grow up and to not bother calling me again.

I thought he was rude, I am pissed at myself for doing something I never do which is change plans.

It seemed to me that he was trying to keep me around in case he couldn't find someone better and that he thought I might be a late night booty call.

Okay, I've held my tongue long enough. Let me get this straight: He texted you to tell you that he wanted to hang out, you were at a race and busy, he texts you to say he is available, you text him to say 'okay,' he texts you that he just wants to remain 'friends,' you text him that he is 'wasting' your time.

See, this is why bloody English is important. From what I can gather you jumped the gun not him, this would be totally different if somewhere in this you said that he didn't show or something, but I don't see that anywhere in here.