if you're a religious person, are you open to dating someone who is either a different religion than you or is agnostic/atheist?

why or why not?

do you have preconceptions about other religions or people who are atheist/agnostic?


personally, as long as they're not fanatical i can deal with it.


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as long as they don't tell me my beliefs are wrong,i won't say anything about theirs

I know as a person with agnostic beliefs, a red flag goes up for me when I see the Bible or praying listed in someone's profile. I would date someone who belonged to an organized religion as long as they weren't fanatical or preachy about it and respected the fact that I also have a right to form my own opinions.

same here.



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bump

i was hoping for more responses. c'mon people, don't leave me hanging.



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I am not a religious person at all. I have no problem if others are, however I could only date a religious person if they did not preach to me or try to get me to think the way they do. Some people are very good at keeping their religion a personal thing, rather than trying to convert others. Others are not so good at it. So it's just going to depend on the person.

I would not have a problem with it as long as they respected my views and beliefs. I am someone who believes your religious preferences are very personal. I don't preach to everyone or try to convert anyone and I would expect the same from whoever I am dating.

Even If I preach Pervology?

but do you, when initially looking for someone, give people with different beliefs the same opportunity, or do you disqualify them immediately?

i started this thread because on some sites you can customize your searches with various filters, one of them being religion. and i've noticed that many people only consider others from the same or similar beliefs. i'm curious as to how important is it to find someone who shares the same beliefs?


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No I do not immediately disqualify someone based on their religious beliefs. Nor anything else for that matter. If we start chatting and it becomes apparent that their beliefs (religious or otherwise) require them to live in a way that I know I would have issues with, then of course, it becomes a factor in whether to continue or not. Considering I do not have children and cannot have them, religious beliefs kinda rank low on my priority list in general. I was raised Baptist but do not consider myself a religious person...more spiritual I guess. Both my ex's were Catholic but neither was actively practicing so it was a non-issue. Obviously there will be topics for discussion if I meet someone that is devoutly religious but it would be more because I have never lived that way and the need would arise for both of us to evaluate how our lives would change to integrate them together. Not specifically because he was Catholic, Baptist, Muslim or etc....

I've tried to be fairly open about dating Christians, but later on it usually becomes a bone of contention. I prefer pagans, agnostics, and atheists, so long as they aren't rabid in their views. While kids aren't at the top of my list, I would want them raised similarly to how I was, in an atheistic household with the freedom to make their own decisions.

I will be honest. I have dated women who believed in God (as in the Christian God). It has always worked out that way for me. However, I am open to meeting someone who didn't believe in God (or a God) because I am just not a shallow person in that respect.

Now, I would think that it could create problems in a relationship, which is primarily the reason most people tend to date within their own belief system. Me? I am more open minded to how other people feel and believe, and I don't push anything on anyone. And I would expect the same in return.

Look, I will drink with them. Dance with them. And screw em but, I know better than to pretend like a relationship can be built without them eventually shoving that crap in my face.

If they are half dedicated to their beliefs, they are obligated to try to save the rest of us. So, it is only a matter of time before they start tightening the thumb screws and applying pressure.

It's a tough one, because I always tell myself I shouldn't let my beliefs keep me from being with a wonderful person. However, people are usually strong in their religious beliefs and eventually it could become an issue. I know I have dated someone of different religious values, but she didn't try to convert me nor I her. Neither of us were weekly church goers, so that probably made it easier.

Hmmm, I really don't know, I guess it would depend on other things.

I agree for the most part. It's one of those things I know can start off small and end up a deal breaker later once you are already invested into the relationship.

i'm curious at to whether those who do filter their searches do so for compatability reasons, or because they feel those of a different belief may have drastically different morals.


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Well, I don't filter by religious belief, maybe I should. The only filter I have is age, I don't want to date someone older than Mom or younger than my neice.

I'm more with RO here.

I don't -intentionally- filter by belief, but both having personally dealt with (the guy who was a "good Christian" and married) and knowing the hypocrisy of those who claim to be Christians and don't follow it, it does tend to shadow who I'm looking at. In general, I don't believe in different moral beliefs, and it irks me no end to meet those who seem to think that atheists and agnostics can't have a moral code, and pagans are out having orgies and sacrificing animals.

I guess it worked when I told you to put that knife down, let that goat go, and put your clothes back on Kendra!

Well, I put the knife down and let the goat go, but I like dancing 'round bonfires naked!