ok so yeah i'm handicapped been in a wheelchair my whole life. i have surgeries i can handle it.
what i can't handle is childish people. say a guy..and yeah i know he's just one guy but the thing is its been more than that this is just more recent and i'm tired of it.
you say you wouldn't be able to handle all the surgeries and stuff a person like me has to go thru. i handle it so why can't you? you don't even know the half of it.i've had too many surgeries to count. its not your body. do you not have faith? i mean God is on your side and the doctors are specialist they know what they're doing.
you asked me if there will ever be a surgery to fix my handicapped problem. yes and i will probably do it if God gave me the opportunity but even if i did i still have bladder problems that i've already had surgeries for and one of them was a 14 hour surgery. that problem will still be there.
i just wanted to let you know that you are really shallow because i then mention my scars and how even if i did have the surgery they would still be there and how i don't see how a man could accept or see the beauty behind and you yourself messaged me saying i was beautiful first off. and now you say thats why i don't think i could handle it. are you now saying i'm ugly and your just a liar? God saw that what do you have to say about that? if you don't care than its your loss because i keep a positive attitude and my last surgery was my freshman year of high school so its not THAT bad God does take care of me.
grow up and stop thinking your better or that you can't handle whats on your plate. God doesn't give you something you can't handle. more importantly respect a woman and how they have feelings. don't play games. try lookin at someone the way God would want you to.

VERY,VERY Well put. I dont know your whole situation. But i can honestly say that the way you stood up for not only God. But your self. i for one, without even know you. Im proud of you Great going.

I agree totally dear. People can be so shallow, as if you're not even there and they will talk about you. With my situation, 98 % of the men encountered will not even give me the time of day, consider it their loss. Sounds like you have a great relationship with God and yourself..

You handle it because you have to have them done, just because a guy can't handle it doesn't necessarily make him a bad guy, just means that he would have issues handling certain things thrown his way in a relationship with you.

This entire post is sort of preaching at me, God this and God that...and that is all cool, but it is intimidating to people as well. Of course someone telling me that 'God saw that' is a lot like saying 'Santa won't be getting you any presents this Christmas.'

I'm not sure entirely of what is going on. I'm sorry you are going through a rough time. But unless they were insulting and rude about it, some simply can't handle the situation. And that is their prerogative.

It's better they speak their fears upfront IMO.

You will find someone supportive of you. Hold out for that one.

I had a childhood friend that had spina bifida. She was an amazing person.

I have a three year old nephew who had to have heart surgery right when he was born. He's also had to have a shunt put in, and goes to therapy and drs all the time. I've helped take of him from day one.

I thank God for the doctors and other professionals that have been gifted to help and heal and for the miracles that God has performed (and still performs).

You seem to be a very beautiful lady from your pictures. I think that's awesome that you have such strong faith in Christ. I'm sorry that some people can't see past the wheelchair and surgeries that you have gone through and still have to go through. It seems that it has made you a stronger person though.

Keep your faith in Christ and be patient, someone who deserves to be with you will come along.

I know what you are going through, but in my situation its raising a special needs child. He has alot of medical issues and alot of delays developmentally. I have found over the last 6 years or so that alot of men aren't willing to deal with him. I would rather know right away if they can't handle him and his needs. I'll continue to stay single until the right person comes into my life who is accepting of both me and my son.

Keep plugging along and the right one will find you and love you forever.

So, what is your point here? Is that men can't accept you for what you are going through or who you are? Sounds more like you are preaching religion which could also be a big turn off to some people. No one wants to be preached to whether it is religion or anything else for that matter. Everyone is entitle to their opinion of what they want in a potential mate. Yes, its frustrating when someone tells me I am not pretty enough or I am too fat, but why get upset over it. I am not their cup of tea and I accept that. What you call shallow; others would call preferences; all depends how you look at it.

Well said, but I agree with navygirl about the preaching.

Sounds like someone had a bad day and just needs to vent.

Maybe we should have a venting section.

IF this guy can not accept your medical problems, I think you are better off without him. You are who you are and IF someone can not accept you the way you are, do you really want them? I say be strong and know that you do not need anyone to accept you..you seem like a very strong person, don't give this guy the time of day!!
Sometimes we all become very frustrated with our every day situations, I think that some of the people that replied to this thread were very rude. BUT you have to move on and not care what other people think, just worry about your health and keep on going!!
I myself, do not date due to my health issues, so I do understand where you are coming from. I have had many people tell me that I need someone to be there for me...I have made it a choice to be alone!! We all make choices and we have to be happy with what we decide to do!!
I wish you lots of luck and lots of good health!!
PS
God is a great thing, but not everyone thinks that!! You should never use God against people because he loves us even when we are bad!!

F&L Santa got ur # a loooong time ago