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| Topic: Overanalytical and A Pain in my Asss | |
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I am talking about myself, of course. The other night, I went out with a few friends, including a guy I have known for ten years. We were engaged for five years, then we split. It was a mutual thing, not a bad breakup at all, and we have remained close friends ever since, with the occasional tryst when we are both single, just to help each other out. No strings, no "feelings", no awkwardness later...just sex. So anyway. We went out. Had a fantastic time, drinking, dancing, watching the drag show, drinking some more...end of the night came and for the first time ever, I get to hear these words: "I can't tonight, Jess. Its not you, please believe that. I just can't do this with you anymore, for more reasons than you could understand right now." Talk about floored. I don't mean to sound conceited or anything. I have been rejected before, and honestly, I just moved on, it wasn't a big deal. But this time.... I don't really know what my point here was. Maybe to just vent. Maybe to get some feedback on which direction my thoughts SHOULD be taking, because right now, my brain won't shut up. Ahhhh ok I'm done now. Thanks for listening, if anyone does read this lol. 
I would leave it alone for now. |
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allow me to rephrase...if it is an open relationship....whats the harm in ending it like a man?? he spouts off some dumb reason about how she wont understand then disappears?? i get the no strings attatched part but that doesnt give the guy the right to pull that.
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They aren't in a relationship.... they were a long time ago.
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Honey looks have no bounds in how U feel for someone!! I am a frog but have has some great ladies in my life!!! U know who U are and U know U are beautiful BUT life's expectations arent always the way we want!!! My heart goes 0ut to U BUT life can suck sometimes!!! U just keep on keeping on who U are and U will always be loved!!
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Sounds like he phrased it just right so he wouldn't HAVE to lie to you. Just left it completely open for speculation. It also sounds like he doesn't want you digging any deeper, maybe he will tell you when he's ready. 
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I do not think it does any good to speculate is all I am saying.....why torture yourself in a manner that is not necessary...obviously she still does have feeling in a FB type situation and that is never good either.
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Maybe, just maybe he got bored with being used.
Or maybe the sex just ain't that good he was drunk and tired and just wanted to go to bed. O |
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you wouldn`t expect him to just have sex with you to spare your feelings, right?
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I am talking about myself, of course. The other night, I went out with a few friends, including a guy I have known for ten years. We were engaged for five years, then we split. It was a mutual thing, not a bad breakup at all, and we have remained close friends ever since, with the occasional tryst when we are both single, just to help each other out. No strings, no "feelings", no awkwardness later...just sex. So anyway. We went out. Had a fantastic time, drinking, dancing, watching the drag show, drinking some more...end of the night came and for the first time ever, I get to hear these words: "I can't tonight, Jess. Its not you, please believe that. I just can't do this with you anymore, for more reasons than you could understand right now." Talk about floored. I don't mean to sound conceited or anything. I have been rejected before, and honestly, I just moved on, it wasn't a big deal. But this time.... I don't really know what my point here was. Maybe to just vent. Maybe to get some feedback on which direction my thoughts SHOULD be taking, because right now, my brain won't shut up. Ahhhh ok I'm done now. Thanks for listening, if anyone does read this lol.
Aren't you looking for a woman now? Is he not aware that you have switched as far as that ... I don't mean that disrespectfully. Maybe he isn't aware that your interests are now with women and he still cares and wants another chance with you. |
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communication ppl!
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Edited by
newarkjw
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Mon 06/14/10 04:26 PM
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Maybe, just maybe he got bored with being used. Or maybe the sex just ain't that good he was drunk and tired and just wanted to go to bed. O No chit. Maybe he was with hookers earlier in the day. Maybe he just wanted a sandwich............ 
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Sometimes a really good sandwich or a burrito as big as your head is better than boring sex.
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head size burritos
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They're not just for breakfast anymore.
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I thought that was just a Louisville thing?...........
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I thought that was just a Louisville thing?...........
boring sex????? |
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I thought that was just a Louisville thing?...........
boring sex????? No dude. The place that has burritos as big as your head.... 
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Aren't you looking for a woman now? Is he not aware that you have switched as far as that ... I don't mean that disrespectfully. Maybe he isn't aware that your interests are now with women and he still cares and wants another chance with you. He knows. That is part of the reason we decided to call it quits 4 years ago. But he also knows that he's always been my exception, if that makes sense. And no, I haven't been "using" him. The NSA sex has been a mutual thing, both of us wanted it each time it happened. I don't expect him to give me reasons to make me feel better. I'm a bigger person than that. I am just confused on what he DID say, and why things are different now. And the sex was fantastic for both of us, thank you very much. |
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Aren't you looking for a woman now? Is he not aware that you have switched as far as that ... I don't mean that disrespectfully. Maybe he isn't aware that your interests are now with women and he still cares and wants another chance with you. He knows. That is part of the reason we decided to call it quits 4 years ago. But he also knows that he's always been my exception, if that makes sense. And no, I haven't been "using" him. The NSA sex has been a mutual thing, both of us wanted it each time it happened. I don't expect him to give me reasons to make me feel better. I'm a bigger person than that. I am just confused on what he DID say, and why things are different now. And the sex was fantastic for both of us, thank you very much. ok...i didn't say anything about you using him.... |
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