These are thoughts I have gathered (as a married husband) about how I managed to keep my relationship alive for over 15 years. This is something you can think about and see where you might have to work harder on to create not only a great friendship but a meaningful long term relationship.

1. Lend a Hand

Nothing gets a woman hotter than getting down on your hands and knees, getting sweaty and … scrubbing the grout in the bathroom. Man up when it comes to household duties; it pays off.

2. R-E-S-P-E-C-T

Be respectful to your in-laws. They may not deserve it, but your wife does. Do it for her.

3. Hand-Holding

Hold her hand. Often. And if you ever lose your hands, hold elbows.

4. Work at Your Marriage

"Marriage is not a noun; it's a verb. It isn't something you get. It's something you do. It's the way you love your partner every day."

5. Confide Carefully

Sometimes when times are tough, you've got to talk to someone, anyone other than your wife, just to get perspective. But keep in mind that your friends are there to support you, not provide perspective, and don't say anything you can't take back once these troubles are behind you

6. Don't Write Off Counseling

Everyone should be in marriage counseling because marriage is hard. If your car is having problems, you take it to a mechanic. Don't give up on a relationship you value without exploring every possible avenue for healing first.

7. Make Time for Sex

Never underestimate the importance of sex to marriage

8. Surprise Her

Do something nice for your wife, with no provocation, no less than once a week. If you have to put it on your calendar, if you have to tattoo it on your forehead, make it happen. Your life will be longer and happier for it.

9. Apologize

Be the first one to say "I'm sorry" or "I was wrong," even when you're not sorry and you weren't wrong.

10. Give Her a Hug

Hug her. They dig that.

11. Don't Try to Change Her

Every new husband thinks he can change his wife. Every experienced husband wishes he could have back all the time and energy he spent trying to do so.

12. Be Open To Changes

People change as years go by, and so do marriages. Be flexible.

13. Fight Fair

When you fight — and you will — fight fairly. The causes of a quarrel will fade from memory, but cruel words are remembered for years, smartie.

14. Remind Yourself Why You Love Her

Marriage is a choice you make every day, not just at the altar. Once in a while, it's important to remind yourself why you chose this woman, and why you still choose her.

15. Treat Her Right

Put her above all others. That includes your parents, your children, and yourself.

He/She can be alternated throughout. This works both ways.

And fuzzy handcuffs takes care of it all. Hehehehehe!

Good article Smiles...

Sometimes I hand the toilete brush to my wife to see how she reacts. lol

Your wife is one LUCKY women! Most men never take the time to learn these lessons and they would be so much happier if they did!

You are a very smart man!!

Well thank you for the kind words. :)

Nr. 16 - Lube.

I will second that.

But honestly, how many men AND women actually can follow these guide lines? They make way too much sense!

great post

I can't believe that everything needs a "guide" now, or even a user manual.
I wonder when we gonna see guides for things as :

-how to eat with a spoon
-how to walk upright
-how to form sounds that resembles human speech

etc. etc.

So nice and true!

I've found that working two jobs so she doesn't have to and can have an American Express or VISA Platinum card works as a suitable substitute in a pinch. Never underestimate the awesome raw potential of BuySexuality. :)

-Kerry O.

This is fabulous! The only thing I'd add is learn what to overlook as in choose ur battles wisely and as infrequently as possible

I was married for 17 years, and it was when we stopped doing the things on ur list that the marriage went down the tubes! Speaking from experience, this is a great list

not needed if u know what ur doin'














srsly tho






it can't hurt - and lube is fun

same here! I was never first with my ex - I would never marry again unless I felt I was first with Mr. Second Time

Yanno, whatever floats your boat. I really don't get that excited if my guy helps with the housework. He's got other traits I may not have and that's cool with me.

Just as long as it all evens out yanno?

Now ... if he can fix my Beamer without a hefty garage bill .. oh ya baby. I'm all up into that

Wow.. Excellent post!

Your wife is so lucky to have such an amazing man in her life.

Thanks.

!.Dont be a whiner.
2Don't be lazy(offer to help)
3.Compromise
4.Communicate
5.Don't hide your needs
6.Speak up! We women do not read minds.
7.Stop acting like boys
8.When the tough gets tough stick around around like a man

Also good points. Lol!