As title explains I have just left a long term relationship and as I have always been in a relationship since I was a teenager its an all new experience for me.
Having trouble coping a bit as not used to being on my own, bored out of my skull but taking the oportunity to try to better myself. But have to say I have no idea whatsoever on how to look for a relationship. I was always approached by others for relationships and now I decide to go looking I realise I have no clue what to do lol.

Making light of it but feeling very isolated and need to know how to start finding someone.

Anyone? Ideas.

I know how that feels. I just left a seven year relationship and prior to that I was not single very long. I don't even know how to be single. Or should I say I don't know how to date. My past relationship had me basically in a relationship with myseld. He recently hit me with I love you but I am not in love with you. I have tried to break up with him this past year but always took him back until now. I finally feel strong enough to walk away. Although I still find my self feeling like I can't breathe. He keeps telling me that we are not over but he has another thing coming. He lives his life for his friends and they are the only ones he has time for. I think he jus gets pleasure of hurting me to bad I am moving on

Hi did post a reply but vanished for some reason so to the best of memory was:
I have hear that one I love you but am not in love with you so many times and are yet waiting to find out what hat actually means. My interprotation was I care for you but im going to break your heart because Iwant to do my thing and it doesn't include you anymore.

Ouch I think im being a little harsh but I know what it feels like all to well. Im glad you are also getting out of this situation it is not a nice place to be but you live in hope it will improve although it never seems to.

Spelling mistakes sorry about that was typing faster than my fingers could keep up.

hello and welcome

Good luck and have fun

I know the feeling, I just left an 11 year relationship. Is strange to be single again.

its been 22 yr for me

Im not sure how you all seem to cope and stay positive. Im normally quite an optimist but it seems to be slipping from me.

I hear you dude... Grab a drink and commiserate with a friend.
tomorrow, you'll feel better.

I know how that feel's. Luckily im so busy until the primary election's are over Tuesday I don't realize how single I am and how depressing it is.

15 year relationship for me, she decided to sneak around behind my back with her girlfriend. I'm in the same boat, I don't even know where to begin to start dating again.

I understand the lonliness. After 15 years of marriage it was hard to get back in the swing of things and being by myself. So just keep your head up and something will come along. I am interested in making friends because it seems that all my friends from high school has moved away.

I was in that position 3 1/2 yrs ago. It felt good to be free, but took alot of adjusting. Take this time to spend with friends & family, enjoy the time that you have to yourself.

Gosh I was in the situation not to long ago myself. Now I have came to realize that I LOVE LOVE LOVE being single!!! I think everyone just dwells on the bad parts of being single and they leave out all of the great things about single life. The first thing I would say to do is a lot of soul searching to see exactly what you want and who you are!! That might require a lot of "Me" time because sometimes we really lose who we are.
Heck before you know it, you might actually LOVE being single!! Good Luck!!

Join the boat!

Sounds like me with always being in a relationship..I was the same way until I was 32..then I had 2 short term ones, that didn't last more than a few months, and ever since I got nothing..only a date here and there in a blue moon.

I don't think it's only your (or my) fault, I've never seen so many of my friends gone divorced in the last few years. Something is going on with the women too..I guess everyone is looking for security and so on and many guys have doubts about their job security and income and so on and if you ask me, the women I have met lately are so confused, it's a miracle that they don't trip over their own feet.

pffffft

The women are confused..most people are confused these days, I don't think it's a gender thing. During these trying times I'm so glad I'm not material, makes it so much easier not having stipulations on the men..gives me more options.

Just imagine women who (were?) are supposed to be planning for a family...

Do they exist or only in the comic books and movies from the 50s?

Why is everyone so hel-bent to get back into a relationship? Why aren't ya'll taking the time to enjoy being by yourself, doing things on your own, relaxing and getting out with friends, family etc. without the desperation of needing to do it all with someone?

Yes, it would be great to be doing it all with a significant other, but I'm not going to cease living because I don't have anyone. By getting out and doing things, it makes you a more interesting person with stories to tell. Then when you finally meet someone one, you have stories to laugh over rather then whining about the ex who did you wrong, or being so needy to have someone, you'll take anyone. You will know yourself as a stronger better person for learning how to like, if not enjoy, the alone times.