This topic has probably been posted before, what to you is real love, I believe real love is not just about physical attraction or infatuation,I mean lets face if two people are together for a long time a lot of that stuff fades over time or becomes less intense,the best relationships are where both parties are also good friends as well as lovers,also I know a lot of us start missing out on the chase and the intensity of a new relationship,which can cause some people to stray from their committed partner, I think when one goes into any type of a committed relationship, they need to be first realistic and pragmatic, so many times we confuse infatuations as being real love, what happens after all these intense emotions fade, do you still want to be with this person, the purpose of this tread is on the subject of loving someone and being in love with someone, I myself feel this being in love is only the first stage to real love, someone told me once you better have some things in common with the person you are committed to, after all the intensity fades and know you still want to be with this person.