Am I a snob?

I'm on another site. It's a free for pretty-much-nothing site .. or $15 or less a mo for full bennies.


WHYYYYYYYYYYYY do guys get on there, say they can't respond because they are not paying members, can only send flirts & try to "code" their emails so I can take the time to figure out their 007 hints, or are even more stupid and say to email THEM on the site with my email addy, when you aren't able to even SEE who emails you (or read the email itself) if you aren't a member ..

and worst of all .. think I would be interested in DATING them?

Geesh .. if they can't afford the friggin miniscule fee to get to know me, how in the world are they going to be able to afford to take me out????



Fellow chicas .. does this bother you?

Guys .. whyyyyyyyyyyyyyy????? would you do this?

Don't ask me....I'm just a girl.

I tried a pay site for 3 months back in 2006 -- $24.95 a month --

I was really surprised at the number of messages I got there -- 174 in the 3 months, mostly from locals, none of whom were even remotely compatible or datable.

I learned something from that -- throwing money at something doesn't create any sort of miraculous compatibility.

As it stands now, I can't really imagine myself behaving in the way you've mentioned on any of these sites -- if I was really serious about meeting someone on a pay site, I'd shell out a few bucks just to see if there was anything to it.

I tried a pay site for a month, once.

I got 14 messages. 13 of them were 13 of them were from Russian scammers who seemed to think that I had ' gullible loser who's totally desperate ' stamped on my forehead.

Only one of the messages came from a real person who happened to live relatively close to me.

EXACTLY!! Thank you Lex


Goof .... "As a man sees himself, so he is"

I signed up for a site like that, said it was free until I got all the way to the end and couldn't do ANYTHING (except for have a profile). All I could do was put in the headline that I could receive messages but not respond and if they wanted a response to send me their email

Maybe they are like me and felt duped by this "free" site. For me it's not about the $ more about the principal.

Ok, being serious.

Looks like a total mind game here. Ya know, to see if you will do what they want you to? I really don't get it either. If you are on a site like that, and you know that in order to get more benefits out of it that you have to pay a fee, then either do it or just leave. Sounds simple enough, but I guess it just goes back to the old line of "games that people play".

I've seen a lot of these sites where it's "free" to sign up, but you really have few, if any options, after that.

You make a profile, maybe you can send "winks" or some other sort of pseudo-communication (which can't really lead to anything unless SOMEBODY pays some money), and you sit there.

The site I was on, they set it up so that paying members could contact anyone, AND non-paying members could contact paying members (that's how I got contacted -- I never sent out a first e-mail my whole time there). So that was an incentive to try it out, because I knew anyone who wanted to could write to me.

But if it was non-paying member trying to meet up with another non-paying member, you'd have better luck trying to bump into that person at the bus station.

Of course you are

I paid for a membership on another site. Sure, I got a few emails but none were compatible with me or they had different objectives than I. Would I try it again...maybe. I'd give ya the time of day...lol

Tried a few of those sites things runs pretty smooth but Alot a spamming going so i quit Guys in my country\Area just wanna know what's my bank book is like no fun

i've tried a few different pay sites and did pay for them
i had a couple of hits and sent a couple of messages back and forth, but nothing substantial ever came of any of it.

can't see the point of paying for any of the sites anymore. lots of scammers on those sites.



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You are tooo kind LOL ..

I would never pay for it...........

Well I've used online dating sites for years. #1 medium for me to connect with available guys. For the most part they've been productive.

But this one seems a pure waste of time .... I'm gettin the hell outta Dodge

men like you never have to

And I totally get that. It's cool.

I just think it's hysterical if a guy is making 75K a year yet won't dish out $15/mo for a chance to meet his dream woman. LMAO..

puhleeeeeeeeeze

I've been on paying and free sites in the past. As far as dating goes, it isn't any different whether you pay or not. I will stay here though I like it MUCH better

They obviously just don't take it seriously at all. I usually don't. This site is great but I would have never paid for it.

The other potential problem I've heard re: the pay sites is that they really have no incentive to ever match you up with anybody -- they risk losing a paying customer that way.

There are even unconfirmed rumors of some sites sending out bogus e-mails to free members in order to entice them to sign up for the pay option. Then they sign up, only to discover that the contacts were completely fictional.