Unfortunately, people throw around "I love you" without meaning it. Chances are, if they're saying it before meeting, it's not sincere. Just as if they're saying it right away in a relationship. If you're not sure if they're being sincere, watch their actions and don't just go by their words.

To many times some throw the I love ya's out like it was candy. No concern or thought what it really means nor do they care. Those that throw it out so easily have no idea what those 3 little words mean. They only do it cause they think that is what the other person wants to hear......

It is sad that some have no clue what those 3 words really mean nor do they even care.

All I can say if they throw them out that fast is turn and run away....

But remember there is a difference between I Love You and I'm In-Love with you as well................

You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love, saying it over and over don't make it so...... Ya know it's love when ya run across yard into your lover's arms, and they laugh....with you, if you trip.

Love to me is a misunderstood but very desirable malfunction of the heart. It makes the brain weak, causes yer eyes to sparkle, yer cheeks to glow, blood pressure to rise and the lips to pucker.

I do tell some women I love them, and......"they" know in what context i mean that.....The woman I tell that to with all my heart and all of my soul will also know exatly what I mean.

MMMmm, by the way I love the ladies on the thread.

Welcome i say i love you to people i don't know but under a few circumstances
Maybe the person feeling down i show empathy to that person

Or just to make somebody know i care

But i don't randomly go out of my way to say it to somebody

In my case is that a bad thing ....

"Everyone says I Love You" ...

... It becomes real when the walk defines the talk ...


It is a special, rare and precious cord that none can force, a gift ...


Present in the presence ... ... OR? Not ...


NO in betweens ... no grey, no neutral ...

Thank you for your condolence...I see that people can be sincere when they tell you "I love you" without ever looking into your eyes and that there are degrees of love as you pointed out. But as you also pointed out, there are many insincere people here as well who will use those words with disregard and with malice. I am new to this online dating game and I just want to know the ground rules...Thanks again!

Thank you...my concerns exactly...great advice!!

Awesome reply my friend...thanks for your input!!

You sound as though this has happened to you as well...is this that common? Wow...a lot of scary people out here!


Thanks.

exactly

This is something like what I was pointing out...That the "I love you" should be saved for people that you truly have a heart for...It should not become common place as it so often has become. I tell my friends that I love them because I truly do, but strangers whom I have never met it is impossible for me to love them. Too many people on these dating sites are hiding behind bravado of anonymity. They many times use a false injury or illness to seek attention to play on the sympathies of people who have a heart...I have seen this quite often. So please be careful of who you say those three very strong words to...

You must also watch out for many times the ones that tell you I love you within e-mails and you have only exchanged a few e-mails watch out they are scammers...... You never know who your talking to but a clear sign is they have a picture to die for posted, language is very broken and no matter what you say they try to get you to go to yahoo to talk. Why in order to get you off of sites that will get rid of scammers.... They tend to throw the I love ya's out quickly or your all they are looking for therefore they move really fast from hello to I love you.....

As the old saying goes if it looks too good to be true then most likely it is...............

When my dog Cherokee gives a big sloppy kiss after our walk I know she loves me!! People on the other hand, not so sure!!

I can only speak from personal experience here, but, in almost every case I've been involved in, their "I love you" means "I have to change you."

I think that is so stupid!! Not saying you're stupid I understand what you mean. Why say you love someone & then try to mold them into someone or something else!!! I hate when guys tries to do that crap!!! "Oh, honey you'd look so much prettier with some makeup on", Or "You're not fat just a few pounds here & there you could lose"!! Yeah, right!! Take me as I am or I'll never be yours!!!

I don't really understand it, either -- I mean, what's the point in getting involved with someone, knowing the whole time that you're just going to want to change everything about them?

But it's been totally predictable in the vast majority of my relationships -- they wait 3 months, then they try to get me to become a person I can never be -- all the time saying "I love you" as if that's supposed to generate an incentive to transform into a completely different individual....?

I would say "true love" means placing your spouse's/partner's happiness above and beyond everything else, including your own happiness. When someone is willing to make selfless sacrifices to ensure your happiness, that might indicate "love." When someone forfeits, gives up, or shuns something that they want and could have, just to be with you, that might indicate they love you.

When she says it and cries happy tears.

Amen to that. Those scammers from Ghana, Russia, and third-world countries write long-winded, adjective laden, love soliloquies--when they don't even know your name, what you look like, or anything about your character!!!!! WATCH OUT.

Do what I always do...take the words with a grain of salt, side of lime, and a tequila shooter.