when do you become uninterested in a FWB? I mean a FWB that is agreed upon to be monogimous What has made you lose interest??

I don't think I was ever into FWB. just not my thing I guess

I have a short attention span...oh look a shiny penny...

When I found out that she did porn.

yea i agree not mine either.. however i have been in them.<or it>.. not intentionally... started out that i cared more he did. turned into it after that<agreed upon with both parties>.. i dont go out and look for them lol!

When your no longer kissing and some what being passionate

so because she wasn't just with you only? or because she just did porn?

do you think something else could loose it? if so what?

What causes me to lose interest is when they start showing interest or start acting like we're a couple when we are far from it!! I look towards a FWB who can never be anything more to me than that. They know this from the beginning. I don't play head games. Usually a FWB is someone who I'd never find an interest in like marriage, etc other than a physical attraction. I know sometimes a FWB sounds bad to some. But, unless it turns into more which doesn't happen often it's a a way to be with someone you like intimately without having all the strings attached & doesn't make you feel like you're tied into a relationship. No emotional bonds, I love you's, or Honey do's. The expectations aren't like those in an actual relationship. Yeah, I've had them & most have worked out well.

really.. well i guess some things, i differ on.. like i did care... not when i agreed on it.. still cared about the person but in a different outlok.. yea then later he tried to pull on me what i was asking for when i was interested... more time together.. what does one do? when you dont want to spend all your time with a Fwb? and want a "real relationship and he tries to tie up all your free time?

to me fwb is just their way of sayin your good enough to screw but not good enough to settle down with ,which is a put down in a way...if i find it leaning that way i stop the benifits and see how much they like hanging around then...
might as well just call it a one nite stand and move on..

I guess that's when you leave that relationship if neither of you are content to continue & either find another FWB or enter a more meaningful relationship with someone else. If the relationship takes on a new turn & you both start to care take it to a higher level. When a FWB friendship starts turning into a relationship that's when I back away. I've only had this happen once. Wasn't me who started to care & that's the worst thing about a FWB is sometimes even though it's been discussed,etc sometimes someone get's hurt so I've never stayed in one long.

I became uninterested when he began to have feelings. That was NOT part of the deal

i remember that... back then.. i did feel that way.. only not a one night stand.. but used for a few months... but also realized in ways he wasnt for me in a relationship afterwards... for me.. i dont like to sleep around.. but when you have no grudges and already was with them.. why take more chances?

Yeah, basically you're right on target. But, if both parties agrees & sticks to that then nobody get's hurt. JMHO

i keep hearing "feelings" so what makes you all think they had feelings? or what feelings did you think they had? and why?

He wanted a relationship. He was quite younger than I, I just couldn't go there.

not entirely true...

yea but what made u think that?

mine.. was a lot younger.. i liked at first like i said... but he did not want relationship.. once i was good with that he kept calling me more often.... and then later on wanting to see me more... like he did not want in the first place when i did lol!

someone always does....its just a matter of time...and fwb is for people that have intamacy issues(really lettin another person in and CONNECTING). its a form of detachment from humanity...if you really think about it