Well, hello everyone.
What am I doing wrong? I know i work a lot (15-16 hrs a day), but that is what pays the bills. I have, and will treat my girl like a princess/godess. WHY CAN'T I MEET ANYONE!!! I think it is because I am a recluse... I work then I sleep, then I work (well u get it) Anyone out there that has advise for an overworked man w/o a plan?

Join the club darlin'.. I'm told something about having to make the time, etc...

join a dating site

Well if you hope to meet someone and maintain a relationship you're going to have to make time... if you cant then its really not fair to someone else

Working those kinds of hours doesn't leave much time for a relationship. Try taking some classes so you can get one better paying job so you don't have to work so hard & leaves time for a relationship.

Just finishing culinary arts school in May. I love what I do but Don't think there is anyone out there that can deal with the random hours... i.e. wake up on monday at 4:00am to cook breakfast, then wednesday go to bed at 3:00am after work... so random

BTW thank you ladies for your insight on the matter. =)

You have to want it... No matter what your school/work schedule is it's up to you to make the time... If you don't then you really don't want it... I know b/c I don't make the time...

That seems to be so true, so true. I do want it but I just feel that I can't find it with any girl that I try to date I guess I am kinda twisted huh?

Not twisted, just have a lot of other stuff going on... sometimes a relationship has to take the back burner so to speak. Maybe it will be better timing after you graduate.

I guess we shall see...

Time for each other is very important in a relationship, if you never see or talk to each other, I don't see how it can ever work. And if you're working 15-16 hours a day, the only time you have left is for sleeping and eating. You literally have no time for anyone else, and if you don't get enough rest, you're not going to be very good company.

That's why so many people cheat, they didn't get what they wanted from the other person, so they look for it elsewhere. If I were you, I'd wait til I had more time to spend with someone else, rather than expecting them to understand. Because it probably sounds selfish, but I seriously doubt if very many people will. Personally, I'd never date anyone that worked that much, I'd feel neglected, and I'm not very good when I feel neglected. Good luck to you though.

May isn't too far off. Will you have more time once you finish? I know you have to make a living as well as have someone to love. Got to find some balance between the two.

I will have more time once I am done, but i am still a bit sketchy about having random days off, If it is possible to have a relationship with only monday and thursday off, or tuesday and saturday off etc...

I actually used to date a chef and he also had very random days off... it can work.

It's possible to have anything you want with the time you're willing to give... Of course they have to accept it but isn't that the type you'd want, someone who is willing to accept your hours and occupation?

Forget what everyone else is saying. (haha)

The reason is simple:

We're all collectively playing a game of hide and seek.

I've dated with eratic schedules & it's worked out. A woman just has to understand that you have to work to pay the bills & if she can't there's always a gal that will understand & be ok with what time you have to offer.

Nice guys finish last

You have to get out!!!!!

Sitting in front of the pc is not gonna find ya love

it happens....

But not really often

ya need to get out in the world with freinds...join groups.. Hobbies.. Even a simple thing like grocery store puts you In contact with the world around you!

Being a recluse is not a good thing!