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ok, lets throw a different perspective on this since there are 2 threads going on this same thoughts. My sons are 25, 18, and 15. I don't spank, hit, never have, never will. My boys date girls that hit them..these girls have been hit their entire lives and the minute something goes wrong they want to hit and they are shocked that my boys don't engage in this behavior. I have gotten to know most of these girls quite well and they do have issues, they feel it is natural to hit, it's what they know, it's what their use to. They are also for the most part potheads and drinkers ( activities my boys don't engage in, at least the two younger ones) and have "daddy issues". From getting to know many of these young girls, it's fair to say they DO have issues from being hit. I realize I'm generalizing here..I'm only going on my experiences. Makes it hard for a nice young man who has been taught to be a pacifist to find a decent girlfriend.. I believe youDID say that you have sons that had women that HIT THEM! 
sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...lmao! 
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ok, lets throw a different perspective on this since there are 2 threads going on this same thoughts. My sons are 25, 18, and 15. I don't spank, hit, never have, never will. My boys date girls that hit them..these girls have been hit their entire lives and the minute something goes wrong they want to hit and they are shocked that my boys don't engage in this behavior. I have gotten to know most of these girls quite well and they do have issues, they feel it is natural to hit, it's what they know, it's what their use to. They are also for the most part potheads and drinkers ( activities my boys don't engage in, at least the two younger ones) and have "daddy issues". From getting to know many of these young girls, it's fair to say they DO have issues from being hit. I realize I'm generalizing here..I'm only going on my experiences. Makes it hard for a nice young man who has been taught to be a pacifist to find a decent girlfriend.. having been an adolescent counselor dealing with these issues...men don't usually choose women who are abusive unless they have issues themselves....but then again, I guess we all do, just some are in denial....and yes, I do make mistakes with my daughter at times, but for the most part I listen to other's perspectives and have tried it all to find out what work for me and her! 
Having been a single mother of 3 sons for 27 years I don't need counselors to tell me about them. I know my sons and they are nice young men..witches have been know to take advantage of nice men. You can understand that can't you? hummm It is not always, but there are many messed up young girls from being knocked around! Since one just turned 18 and one is still 15 I guess I have more time to teach them to stay away from such young ladies don't I.. And now you are angry with me and feel the need to slam my children more... |
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ok, lets throw a different perspective on this since there are 2 threads going on this same thoughts. My sons are 25, 18, and 15. I don't spank, hit, never have, never will. My boys date girls that hit them..these girls have been hit their entire lives and the minute something goes wrong they want to hit and they are shocked that my boys don't engage in this behavior. I have gotten to know most of these girls quite well and they do have issues, they feel it is natural to hit, it's what they know, it's what their use to. They are also for the most part potheads and drinkers ( activities my boys don't engage in, at least the two younger ones) and have "daddy issues". From getting to know many of these young girls, it's fair to say they DO have issues from being hit. I realize I'm generalizing here..I'm only going on my experiences. Makes it hard for a nice young man who has been taught to be a pacifist to find a decent girlfriend.. I believe youDID say that you have sons that had women that HIT THEM!
sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...lmao!
wow, talk about hostile...your quoting yourself while I'm responding..pretty anxious to go at it aren't you... Just wondering..how come your beating your head against the wall while your lmao?? Silly |
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I don't fight and I don't argue..after you have been here awhile you'll see that. Mingle is fun for me that's why I'm am here. You'll have to find another to fight with, you seem to enjoy it so..
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ok, lets throw a different perspective on this since there are 2 threads going on this same thoughts. My sons are 25, 18, and 15. I don't spank, hit, never have, never will. My boys date girls that hit them..these girls have been hit their entire lives and the minute something goes wrong they want to hit and they are shocked that my boys don't engage in this behavior. I have gotten to know most of these girls quite well and they do have issues, they feel it is natural to hit, it's what they know, it's what their use to. They are also for the most part potheads and drinkers ( activities my boys don't engage in, at least the two younger ones) and have "daddy issues". From getting to know many of these young girls, it's fair to say they DO have issues from being hit. I realize I'm generalizing here..I'm only going on my experiences. Makes it hard for a nice young man who has been taught to be a pacifist to find a decent girlfriend.. I believe youDID say that you have sons that had women that HIT THEM!
sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...lmao!
wow, talk about hostile...your quoting yourself while I'm responding..pretty anxious to go at it aren't you... Just wondering..how come your beating your head against the wall while your lmao?? Silly ya know...I'm not insulting your kids at all...wow...weird how people take things...I'm laughing because it's funny and I believe the beating the head against the wall means "frustrated" according to the emoticons...what can I say, I multi-task well!
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ok, lets throw a different perspective on this since there are 2 threads going on this same thoughts. My sons are 25, 18, and 15. I don't spank, hit, never have, never will. My boys date girls that hit them..these girls have been hit their entire lives and the minute something goes wrong they want to hit and they are shocked that my boys don't engage in this behavior. I have gotten to know most of these girls quite well and they do have issues, they feel it is natural to hit, it's what they know, it's what their use to. They are also for the most part potheads and drinkers ( activities my boys don't engage in, at least the two younger ones) and have "daddy issues". From getting to know many of these young girls, it's fair to say they DO have issues from being hit. I realize I'm generalizing here..I'm only going on my experiences. Makes it hard for a nice young man who has been taught to be a pacifist to find a decent girlfriend.. I believe youDID say that you have sons that had women that HIT THEM!
sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...lmao!
wow, talk about hostile...your quoting yourself while I'm responding..pretty anxious to go at it aren't you... Just wondering..how come your beating your head against the wall while your lmao?? Silly she was QUOTING ME! 
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Yep, ya do a great tag team..you'll be great friends I'm sure...
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ok, lets throw a different perspective on this since there are 2 threads going on this same thoughts. My sons are 25, 18, and 15. I don't spank, hit, never have, never will. My boys date girls that hit them..these girls have been hit their entire lives and the minute something goes wrong they want to hit and they are shocked that my boys don't engage in this behavior. I have gotten to know most of these girls quite well and they do have issues, they feel it is natural to hit, it's what they know, it's what their use to. They are also for the most part potheads and drinkers ( activities my boys don't engage in, at least the two younger ones) and have "daddy issues". From getting to know many of these young girls, it's fair to say they DO have issues from being hit. I realize I'm generalizing here..I'm only going on my experiences. Makes it hard for a nice young man who has been taught to be a pacifist to find a decent girlfriend.. I believe youDID say that you have sons that had women that HIT THEM!
sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...lmao!
wow, talk about hostile...your quoting yourself while I'm responding..pretty anxious to go at it aren't you... Just wondering..how come your beating your head against the wall while your lmao?? Silly she was QUOTING ME!
ok so BL4766...will you spank me??? wait....eekks wrong room...   
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I don't fight and I don't argue..after you have been here awhile you'll see that. Mingle is fun for me that's why I'm am here. You'll have to find another to fight with, you seem to enjoy it so.. your arguing now.................jus sayin......... ive seen it in other threads also.................jus sayin yep...when youve been here awhile you see alot, with alot of people. |
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ok, lets throw a different perspective on this since there are 2 threads going on this same thoughts. My sons are 25, 18, and 15. I don't spank, hit, never have, never will. My boys date girls that hit them..these girls have been hit their entire lives and the minute something goes wrong they want to hit and they are shocked that my boys don't engage in this behavior. I have gotten to know most of these girls quite well and they do have issues, they feel it is natural to hit, it's what they know, it's what their use to. They are also for the most part potheads and drinkers ( activities my boys don't engage in, at least the two younger ones) and have "daddy issues". From getting to know many of these young girls, it's fair to say they DO have issues from being hit. I realize I'm generalizing here..I'm only going on my experiences. Makes it hard for a nice young man who has been taught to be a pacifist to find a decent girlfriend.. I believe youDID say that you have sons that had women that HIT THEM!
sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...lmao!
wow, talk about hostile...your quoting yourself while I'm responding..pretty anxious to go at it aren't you... Just wondering..how come your beating your head against the wall while your lmao?? Silly she was QUOTING ME!
ok so BL4766...will you spank me??? wait....eekks wrong room...
bend over.............
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I don't fight and I don't argue..after you have been here awhile you'll see that. Mingle is fun for me that's why I'm am here. You'll have to find another to fight with, you seem to enjoy it so.. your arguing now.................jus sayin......... ive seen it in other threads also.................jus sayin yep...when youve been here awhile you see alot, with alot of people. didn't know ya cared so much beckie..following my posts and all... hummmm |
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Edited by
BL4766
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Wed 04/07/10 06:57 PM
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I dont, i have been in MANY OF THE SAME THREADS dear!
 I follow NO ONE!
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i'll take spank me for $100 alex......
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i'll take spank me for $100 alex......
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Spanking can be beneficial and have no long term effects when performed the right way. Spanking was found to not have any effects when:
1) Was not severe 2) Did not involve any implement 3) Was used less than weekly 4) Was used with young children two to six and possibly with children seven to twelve 5) Was accompanied by reasoning 6) Was used as a backup to other strategies 7) Was used by parents who were not violent with other family members "The process of parenting" (Brooks, 2008) p. 196 |
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