however sexist it may sound (and i am somewhat of a sexist) i think that the man should be the main breadwinner of the family, and that the woman should be the main caregiver.

it's how i'm most happy in relationships and how the successful relationships in my family are run.

however, i realize that circumstances don't always allow for this and, providing the man makes some form of contribution while staying home (cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc.) then it might be an okay situation for some.

I know a couple who have that situation. The woman is the "breadwinner" while the guy stays home and takes care of the kid. To be honest, it came about because the guy was just too flat out lazy to get a job.

You are right to question it. You really don't know how his particular situation came about.

Honestly I would have a hard time with that one...I like to think of my man as the one who brings home the bacon. I don't mind helping but...JMO

Isay BRAVO! It really shouldn't matter which parent was there every day for the children, just that someone was there.

Arrangements are different these days. When I was married and my children were quite small, the ex worked afternoons and nights and I worked days thus minimizing the time spent in day care. So I was in charge of 'baby maintenance' from when I got off work until around midnight. As they grew up this included dinner, baths, homework, then later all the after school and wk-end activities too. Since I could get time off from work quite easily, I did the majority of Dr's appt's and school field trips. I was known as Mr. Mom.

When we moved to Michigan I started working Midnights-3 12 hr shifts a wk. leaving me 4 days off too, so I was in charge of the majority of housekeeping duties too. I would have preferred to have had a bit more time for myself at the time, but it really worked out well.

Since the divorce, I still do all the Dr.s appt, orthodontist's visits, the oldest child has turned 18 and moved in with me and the youngest may move in with me too. It's just they way things worked for us. Some guys get the role by default, others chose it.

At one point I thought it would be really neat to be a stay home dad, but being that i'm on unimployment right now, but starting my CDL classes. I have experience of being a stay home dad. It's not for me. I like working, but when i'm home as much time as I have been. I go nuts and winter doesn't help. It snows in UT and i'm getting caben feaver. I lived in Cali most of my life, so this is not for me.


Now take my living situation out of it. It still don't matter, I feel the same way. Yes it has it's good points about it and the time i'm spending with my son. Well, not today being on the net but I realized It makes me feel i'm not doinging anything really and I always been the type that has to work.