I have a friend that believes 100% in the institution of marriage and has been married several times. The last time she got married (about 2 years ago) she admits there was no bells and whistles but she felt they were compatible. So far things have gone fairly well, I think anyway. Would you settle for someone that you were just compatible with? What are your thoughts on this ?

Hell, at this point, I'd settle for someone who wasn't ****ing crazy.

That's definitely an odd way of showing belief in the institute of marriage..lmao

I wouldn't settle..no. I still want fireworks and passion, I don't want to just be with someone, anyone. If I were going to just settle I would have already done it.

A friend of mine did that a few years ago, she says's it's just ok. Nothing great, nothing bad. I still want great!!!

LOL, yes, what I should say is that she feels she needs to be married, it is important to her personally to be in a marriage versus a LTR or some other arrangement.

No. I prefer to be alone than to be in a relationship for the heck of it.

If I do invest work and time in a relationship,, the LEAST I want is some chemistry AND compatibility.

She may 'believe' in it but she obviously doesn't respect it.

I would never settle. I want the real deal and I plan on making it last forever.

Good Luck to you Angel, I think that is the goal many of us have.

No setteling !

Thank you Daytime. I really don't think it's very hard to do when both people communicate together. I did some research on this for my book and found that around 70 years ago the divorce rate was less than 5%. Everyone takes for granted today that it's a part of life, get married, get divorced, but I take the marriage vows seriously and plan to make it work. I really don't see why for so long mankind always found a way to make marriages work, but now all of a sudden it's not doable? I don't buy it, sorry.

It was those damn hippie feminists from the 60's and 70's..convinced all the women they didn't need a man.

70 + years ago, divorce wasn't really an option, especially by women. It was a taboo, and the women especially were usually shunned, if they could even get a divorce. Even if the husband beat the cap out of them.

Talking had nothing to do with it, unfortunately.

I wouldn't settle, though I don't necessarily believe in the institution of marriage.

i don't think marrying someone with whom you are compatible is settling. that would be high on my list of priorities.

passion's overrated - in fact when i think of passion, i think of people who are quick to anger, quick to assumptions, quick to demand and expect.

i'll take a man who's good to me, who's good to my family, and his family, has high morals and values, someone with whom i'm compatible and have a great rapport, someone with whom i feel comfortable in a room filled with silence, and someone on whom i can depend and someone who keeps me smiling.

I do'nt think thats setteling Papersmile It is what you are looking for .And hopefully what you found that with you know that guy thats on here all the time !

Would I settle?

I don't know

maybe in a dating situation.....

Marriage

no

but I am not planning on a second marriage

i have always held out for the truly exceptional ones
there are many many truly exceptional ones

no need to settle

Well, I won't get married for one. I don't think I would settle though, but then again, I'm pretty carefree...so I don't even know what options I would have to settle with, let alone what that would mean anyway.

uhmmm.... if she believed 100% in the instituation of marriage, she would still be married to her first husband....

*sigh*

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