Topic: Friends Before Lovers | |
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I was wondering, Do Best friends make the Best Lovers?
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being friends first is important i think yes..
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I am sure of it :)
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oooooh ya thay do lol
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i would hope so for my sake
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yeh I believe in the concept of friends before lovers. You're very
comfortable with the other person too |
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That what I'm saying Friends don't have too stress it, when making love
too the best friend... Because they care about each others feelings... |
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Yes they do... It is something about that connection. I know with my
own best guy friend... but the major thing is make sure that it doesn't turn into "friends with benfits". He and I were the best of friends - then it turned into something more - he wanted to put distance and I wanted more - so I decided on friends with benefits... we made the rules but somehow in the track of things he accused me of trying to make him jealous when I wasn't... he cared and I cared... but in the end... we haven't talked to each other in 6 weeks and I have no idea wha happened. All I can say is the rules must've changed and it didn't on my part. |
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No, I do not. Been there, done that. He ruined a 10 year friendship
thinking that he was in love with me. We were together for about 6 months before I had realized that I couldn't stand him as a lover. I guess that I should have known better from his past relationships but, I didn't think that he would be that way with me. And, when I tried to get rid of him, it had gotten really ugly. He knew all of my friends and family and would try to get them to talk to me so that he could get me back. He played that game for about 4 months before I had moved and told my family not to give him any information about me. I would not recommend for anyone to go there with a good friend. |
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I'll take a side of friend and a side of lover. Oh and 25 pounds of
chocolate. |
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no, they don't.
there's no guarantee that just being my friend will also provide aptitude for pleasing me. |
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I've been in both the "friendship/lover relationship" and the
"passionate relationship". I do honestly feel that you have to have the friendship. The passion will dissipate; the friendship is the glue that will hold you together. |
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I really do agree to you SEXYAZZKAY b/c it does ruin a lot of things.
As I wrote before even if I didn't clarify it completely - it does ruin a friendship if things are not eye to eye or something becomes sour on one end. I have not heard from my friend in 6 weeks and that really does mean something to me even though we had these "rules"... it can ruin a friendship if it is not on the same wavelength. |
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thats tuff, my wife and i were best buddys, 5 yrs got married it was
over in 2 yrs . i dont know the answer.? |
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Well "Caddie" have you sent your close friend a card and explain too him
that it takes 2 too make a mistake... I think best friends Should stay best Friends... If you want a friend with benefits, then it should be know right at thee begining.... |
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Yes we knew it right from the beginning. We both made the rules and I
stuck with them... best friends will be the best lovers as long as it is MUTUAL... We were mutual until the rules changed and I haven't heard from him since. BUT MY PARENTS ARE THE BEST OF FRIENDS - MARRIED FOR 30 YEARS... I ONLY HOPE TO HAVE WHAT THEY HAVE... THEY ARE NOT ONLY LOVERS BUT THERE IS AN INTIMACY MORE DEEPER THAN THAT. |
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Best lovers are also best friends.
Best friends are not necessarily best lovers! |
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yes yes yes the best
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I totally agree with you s1owhand
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Gwen & I were best friends long before lovers. Then lovers & married,
we let life get us to busy & taking eachother for granteed. Went thru some very rough years, got help & found our friendship again. I think we let the marriage license allow us to take eachother for granted, quit EARNING the relationship. We were married, didn't have to work at it. WRONG. Marriage means you need to work harder, not less. Taking eachother for granted happens to easy, just sneaks in. To the lady wondering what happened, ASK. Never let a question go unasked. Our minds give us to many stories. |
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