felt dissapointed in yourself for not being in a rush or assertive before? again i think im too shy.... and i tend to be missing out on some good things.. or what i think could of been good because of this ... so my answer is yes...and i think im gonna change this about myself...

not that i feel the need to rush things however i do miss out on a lot.. because of this..

Never mind, I have nothing to say.

Whether you rush or are a slow mover, Take your time with things when it's right for you thats the best choice.

Never second guess the feeling in your heart/Or your mind.The first thought.Second guessing

well i was slow to meet someone locally that was wonderful <so i felt> and now he is gone found someone... kinda bummed. i hope the world for him though!!

i guess its not all that bad.. i did need to change a few things for myself... however... im sure i missed out because of this.. banging my head for not having myself together yet! or soon enough!

I met someone who everyone thought was no match for me complete opposite kept telling me oh my God you're 19 you don't need all that baggage, He was like the male version of me but it can never work it's too bad he has a past that he wont drop and wanted me to be an addition to it, and i want a future to build with someone make my own memories. So i am sad to lol

Well I have done both before, it really depends on the other person. You sometimes have to take chances. Casual flirting always did it for me...if they were receptive coast was clear. However if they weren't I just toned it down some.

been there!! u are smart for realizing that!!!!! and only u know not others.... they can guide u but u make your own decisions... in the end though.. if he wanted u to be his past... he wasnt for you... even if everything else matched up for you... for you desire the future... i hear you there!!!

Yes. I find I'm too passive when it comes to dating. I realize you have to play the game to get some action, but until I find someone who's not just playing, I'm not letting my guard down

Never go backwards in a relationship, my girl told me that and it's very true!

peccy i have been a big chicken in the past... im like omg... why does he pick me? even after many nice phone calls.. then poof im too late found someone he likes... that wasnt shy or picky obviously...

I have a magic cyrstal ball I use to see into the future, so fortunately this is not an issue for me.

right well he has an ex wife that he still is in contact with and trying for custody of his kids. Wanted me to play step mom but i'm not their mom they have a mother, He has a family and i want my OWN someday not another. Unfortuatley heis stringing me along waiting for mew to breakdown live with him so i can be nothing more than a conveinience for him while he doesnt lift a finger. But what he doesnt know is i'm young but not stupid lol

so u r saying... that get out there anyway?.. i guess im like u i have found so many players i decided to take time for once.. unlike my past and get involved too fast... now i missed out becasue i changed that pattern! and feel im losing because of it...

so will u read it for me?

I have had this happen before. Long time ago. But I am all about seizing a moment, ya know. Nut up, and just go for it. Yeah, I know that is easier said than done, but the hell should I whine about what was, and miss out on something that can be awesome. So, if you feel that itching within ya to go for it, then force yourself to do it. Yeah, it might not work out. It might not be what you thought it could have been. But then again.....it could be heaven on earth.

My advise to you would be to go for it next time. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, right? I have a hard time myself with this advise though since I'm a bit of a recluse but I think it's true.

well i had that before... i think it is important to be a part of the childrens lives... its a package deal... however i was not mom... but a important part of those childrens lives.. too bad i was the only one!!! i had 3 at home still of my own. then took his 2 as well.. sure i already had my own family before i met him... but we all had love to share... and some jealousy as well lol! but i had to deal with it as a parent to my kids and as "daddys wife" for i took on the challenge... communication with an ex that is a parent of your child is very important in my eyes... if they both are involved with the child a part of you... yet it should be.. just that for the child to be civilized... no mush mush talk.. furthermore u and the ex should be able to communicate as well in a civil manner... if u choose to take this on... mine that i married did not lift a finger as well.. he hid in the damned bedroom! while they visited! i made all the plans for things to do as well with them... might i say? never again!!! i had a bf as well... who did lift a finger with his 3 kids.. and did some planning as well... i think your problem is more like my first situation i posted with mine that i married... i felt sooooo used! and it is not the kids fault.. its the guys!! he doesnt want to be a parent... that is the problem i hear