some guys are just jerks !!!!
why do some guys get offended when u dont want to be friends? i mean are we in 5th grade lol

whats with the "friend" thing anywayz isnt this a dating site?
is it a fear of committing because u were screwed over b4?
if so sad times...

rejection is apart of life people! so lets take it easy

it's not JUST a dating site though. It's a way to interact with others....whether it be looking to make friends or relationships

Does this actually work meeting people. Because I've tried some other ones and they just want lots of money.

glad someone else broke the ice on this, to each their own, those who enjoy cyber friendships have made their choice to do so, personally I have cyber contacts and people I communicate with on all levels, but I'm not fool heartedly enough to consider them friends for the simple fact that 1. I take the word and it's meaning to heart, it entails much more than words on a screen to me, and until I meet the person and look into their eyes and see their mannerism's etc, how could I determine them "friend", the same as love, both words have lost their meaning in our society....that's just my own personal opinion, and as I say to each their own.

...and hold back your emails you send out. I got a proof of it that I tried other dating sites like years ago, and my email never arrived, so they can keep me hanging on their stupid dating site longer and squeeze more money out.

Never again!

I dont understand why people are offended if others dont want what they want either. This site has many people interested in many different things, from one night stands, to friendships, to long term relationships,,the point is to make contact with those who have a similar objective in mind.


That being said,
Its a dating site and a site to meet people. I dont think I could come to a site like this looking to be more than friends right off the bat until I had first made friends.

I personally, want to make sure there is enough compatibility to be friends, before I would want to move on to being more than friends.

I'm sorry, I just don't handle rejection from strangers well.

Some people are just weird.

Thats just how us dirty old men are

Seriously, I don't have one friend in my friends list, Not because I don't have friends.. just because I don't feel a need to announce to the entire world who my friends are.

As for why other guys would be offended.. because they are boys.. not men.

Not everyone is here for dating, some are just here for friends, or some have met someone special and stay to keep in contact with friends they've made. If a person can't take rejection and keeps harassing you, report them and block them. No one is obligated to date or befriend anyone, but many people seem to have missed that memo.

It's actually very cool...we get to pick who we want to be friends with.... what a concept!!!

Hopefully those we want to be friends with will like us back...as in real life, sometimes that just doesn't happen.

When I worked daycare I used to tell the children that no one was obligated to be their friend. They didn't understand that. However, these were 2-4 year olds.....

A good lesson to start to teach them even at their age...maybe something will happen and one of them will remember your words of wisdom...

I hope so. I like to think I made a difference with a few of them.

lets all hold hands

There is some positive in the negative: One could look at it as a train wreck avoided. Meaning they exposed their immaturity and or ill temper and by exposing themselves off the top...you dodge them.

I agreee!

Ps the guy was like 30 (time 4 him 2 grow up) and jst broke it off with his ex fiance like a year ago .... so I attribute his friend needs 2 his dark n twisty heart ...
He said in an email 2 me he wsnt ready 2 date but liked havng friends jst in case
Then said he wouldn't date a black girl anyways LOL
So maybe he was jaded and an *******!

I hate those jaded *******'s

brown sugar is sweet like white sugar

Those guys "wouldn't date a black girl" - stuff must have have been what hit you, because even if he wanted to be "just friends" he removed the option for you the possibility to become more than just a friendship.

I say move on.

Well I got called a 'fat azz' today by someone on another site. He contacted me first... and when I told him that I was currently talking with someone and want to see where that went.. he resorted to calling names.


So just block them... and just be glad to know that you avoided a jerk!