Am I the only parent with an adorable little girl who is terrified of exposing her to the WRONG person? I am scared to put her picture in any public profiles for fear some perv may contact me with ulterior motives,.

I am scared , in some ways, to get involved with another male for the same reason.

I wonder how single moms deal with this fear when they are 'dating' or available to marry again.

I've only introduced my daughter to one man. I knew him as a friend for years before we dated. Even after we started dating I waited quite a while to have them interact. It's not easy to say the very least. Since I knew him so well I wasn't AS concerned about them spending time together - a 'stranger' will be a totally new issue.

YEah,, seems very difficult, because I want a man who will LOVE my children,,but not,,in the wrong ways and I worry if the difference would be immediately obvious to me because I come from a very hugsy, kissy family and it seems normal behavior to me(even with non biological family).

I just didn't date much when my boys were young..they never met anyone. Now they are old and big enough to defend themselves. When they were younger..yeah, I kept them safe and out of harms way, to the extent of giving up my own dreams at times.

I hear ya there. Kids First!

That may work if you were young when you had your children. Im a bit older than mothers of children the same age as mine. I dont have men to my house. I check the sex offender registry regularly. And, I use caution when I feel appropriate. I am not going to push my child infront of a bus. But I am not going to keep her in a bubble either.

I am much more concerned about what is going on in school when I am not there, than when she is safe in our home.

This is a very real concern! I have a daughter. I want the guys I talk to to know this from the onset so that they can't use that as an excuse. However -- I do not discuss her with them! She does not know about anyone I'm contacting either. And I see red flags as soon as the guy says 'where is your daughter now?'!! One guy --whom I've blocked now - told me he couldn't wait to wake up and kiss her good morning!! My perv alarm went off!! Fortunately we are in different states at the moment so there is no threat of that happening! She's not a baby. She's a teenager and I feel very protective of her in this process. I'm not about to have men in and out of her life when she is in that stage of life where consistency is crucial.

How are the rest of you dealing with this?

my kids are pretty much grown now, but i still don't bring anybody home to meet the family...it's sad that more mother's don't care and drag their kids from guy to guy...some abusive, some not...then wonder why their kids are f*d up...

Has the World really come to this....If you would just give people a chance you'd be surprized......

Well I'm 49 and still have one under age...I was one of the older moms too.

Hi,,lol
you put it most succinctly and accurately. I dont want to push her in front of a bus but dont want her forced to live in a bubble either.

Do you have children?