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Topic: It's Done...I'm single again...
hopefloating's photo
Tue 12/08/09 08:47 AM
So this past weekend I thought went ok.

I was expecting the worst...but in my mind it went ok. apparently in his mind...it was the opposite.

It is somewhat irrelevant exactly why we broke up this morning...other than his view of this weekend was horrible...and mine was not. I say it's irrelevant because he did not want to discuss things and work out why things happened they way they did. He just wanted to argue. He was not in any way shape or form wanting to work out the differences....so....I stopped him in mid sentence after about 30 min of the verbal diarrhea....and I said "look, I know what you want, you don't want to resolve this you just want me out....so there is no point in continuing this argument....let me get my stuff I'll get out."

So I got my stuff...and I left.

Right before I left I told him I am sorry I came back....I knew this would not work but I tried going against my best judgement....I tried...it didn't work...

....I'm not cryin about it....

Merry Christmas......I'm back on the Market!!! LMFAO!!!

Goofball73's photo
Tue 12/08/09 08:51 AM
Well, you did try. And, he wasn't willing to put the effort into the relationship like you were. So, looks to me like you did the right thing. flowerforyou

AGoodGuy1026's photo
Tue 12/08/09 08:51 AM
Edited by AGoodGuy1026 on Tue 12/08/09 08:52 AM
flowerforyou

at least you know you tried, it's difficult sometimes -- following your heart despite what your head says!!...

drinker

hopefloating's photo
Tue 12/08/09 08:53 AM
I'm more upset he owes me money.....I'm not sure i will ever see it again....

guys I helped him more than anyone in his life currently....so...if he wants me gone...ta hell with it...


Gator76's photo
Tue 12/08/09 08:53 AM

So this past weekend I thought went ok.

I was expecting the worst...but in my mind it went ok. apparently in his mind...it was the opposite.

It is somewhat irrelevant exactly why we broke up this morning...other than his view of this weekend was horrible...and mine was not. I say it's irrelevant because he did not want to discuss things and work out why things happened they way they did. He just wanted to argue. He was not in any way shape or form wanting to work out the differences....so....I stopped him in mid sentence after about 30 min of the verbal diarrhea....and I said "look, I know what you want, you don't want to resolve this you just want me out....so there is no point in continuing this argument....let me get my stuff I'll get out."

So I got my stuff...and I left.

Right before I left I told him I am sorry I came back....I knew this would not work but I tried going against my best judgement....I tried...it didn't work...

....I'm not cryin about it....

Merry Christmas......I'm back on the Market!!! LMFAO!!!


Your positive, good attitude in this post says it all! Congratulations on making a move that works for you...seems like you should have lots of boyfriends! :wink: flowerforyou

Jtevans's photo
Tue 12/08/09 08:55 AM

So this past weekend I thought went ok.

I was expecting the worst...but in my mind it went ok. apparently in his mind...it was the opposite.

It is somewhat irrelevant exactly why we broke up this morning...other than his view of this weekend was horrible...and mine was not. I say it's irrelevant because he did not want to discuss things and work out why things happened they way they did. He just wanted to argue. He was not in any way shape or form wanting to work out the differences....so....I stopped him in mid sentence after about 30 min of the verbal diarrhea....and I said "look, I know what you want, you don't want to resolve this you just want me out....so there is no point in continuing this argument....let me get my stuff I'll get out."

So I got my stuff...and I left.

Right before I left I told him I am sorry I came back....I knew this would not work but I tried going against my best judgement....I tried...it didn't work...

....I'm not cryin about it....

Merry Christmas......I'm back on the Market!!! LMFAO!!!



does this mean we can get it on?flowerforyou

Riardo's photo
Tue 12/08/09 08:55 AM

So this past weekend I thought went ok.

I was expecting the worst...but in my mind it went ok. apparently in his mind...it was the opposite.

It is somewhat irrelevant exactly why we broke up this morning...other than his view of this weekend was horrible...and mine was not. I say it's irrelevant because he did not want to discuss things and work out why things happened they way they did. He just wanted to argue. He was not in any way shape or form wanting to work out the differences....so....I stopped him in mid sentence after about 30 min of the verbal diarrhea....and I said "look, I know what you want, you don't want to resolve this you just want me out....so there is no point in continuing this argument....let me get my stuff I'll get out."

So I got my stuff...and I left.

Right before I left I told him I am sorry I came back....I knew this would not work but I tried going against my best judgement....I tried...it didn't work...

....I'm not cryin about it....

Merry Christmas......I'm back on the Market!!! LMFAO!!!
""FAILED"

Goofball73's photo
Tue 12/08/09 08:58 AM

I'm more upset he owes me money.....I'm not sure i will ever see it again....

guys I helped him more than anyone in his life currently....so...if he wants me gone...ta hell with it...




More than likely...you won't. But at least you will have your sanity back right? :wink:

isaac_dede's photo
Tue 12/08/09 09:00 AM
flowers

RoamingOrator's photo
Tue 12/08/09 09:00 AM

I'm more upset he owes me money.....I'm not sure i will ever see it again....

guys I helped him more than anyone in his life currently....so...if he wants me gone...ta hell with it...





Sounds to me like if you never see him again, it's money well spent.

no photo
Tue 12/08/09 09:00 AM
Go find someone better!

You can always make more money.

Pickofthelitter's photo
Tue 12/08/09 09:09 AM
Sorry things didn't work out, but until you deal with the grief from this breakup, you're not going to be 100% emotionally available to anyone else, and you're likely carry these hurt feelings into your next relationship.

I think you have a lot to offer to the right guy, and don't settle... but take care of yourself first.

Maybe I miss understood and you're only here to vent, and that's cool. This is as good-a-place as any.

hopefloating's photo
Tue 12/08/09 09:12 AM


So this past weekend I thought went ok.

I was expecting the worst...but in my mind it went ok. apparently in his mind...it was the opposite.

It is somewhat irrelevant exactly why we broke up this morning...other than his view of this weekend was horrible...and mine was not. I say it's irrelevant because he did not want to discuss things and work out why things happened they way they did. He just wanted to argue. He was not in any way shape or form wanting to work out the differences....so....I stopped him in mid sentence after about 30 min of the verbal diarrhea....and I said "look, I know what you want, you don't want to resolve this you just want me out....so there is no point in continuing this argument....let me get my stuff I'll get out."

So I got my stuff...and I left.

Right before I left I told him I am sorry I came back....I knew this would not work but I tried going against my best judgement....I tried...it didn't work...

....I'm not cryin about it....

Merry Christmas......I'm back on the Market!!! LMFAO!!!



does this mean we can get it on?flowerforyou



We could!!....or we could get it off.....depends on the mood i suppose...:smile:

Jtevans's photo
Tue 12/08/09 09:14 AM



So this past weekend I thought went ok.

I was expecting the worst...but in my mind it went ok. apparently in his mind...it was the opposite.

It is somewhat irrelevant exactly why we broke up this morning...other than his view of this weekend was horrible...and mine was not. I say it's irrelevant because he did not want to discuss things and work out why things happened they way they did. He just wanted to argue. He was not in any way shape or form wanting to work out the differences....so....I stopped him in mid sentence after about 30 min of the verbal diarrhea....and I said "look, I know what you want, you don't want to resolve this you just want me out....so there is no point in continuing this argument....let me get my stuff I'll get out."

So I got my stuff...and I left.

Right before I left I told him I am sorry I came back....I knew this would not work but I tried going against my best judgement....I tried...it didn't work...

....I'm not cryin about it....

Merry Christmas......I'm back on the Market!!! LMFAO!!!



does this mean we can get it on?flowerforyou



We could!!....or we could get it off.....depends on the mood i suppose...:smile:



not sure what "get it off" means but hey it sounds good :smile:

LewisW123's photo
Tue 12/08/09 09:16 AM
Look on the bright side:

You don't have to buy him a Christmas present.


Etrain's photo
Tue 12/08/09 09:17 AM
flowers flowers Things will work out for the bestflowers flowers

hopefloating's photo
Tue 12/08/09 09:17 AM

Sorry things didn't work out, but until you deal with the grief from this breakup, you're not going to be 100% emotionally available to anyone else, and you're likely carry these hurt feelings into your next relationship.

I think you have a lot to offer to the right guy, and don't settle... but take care of yourself first.

Maybe I miss understood and you're only here to vent, and that's cool. This is as good-a-place as any.




but thats the thing....the "grief" you speak of....not there.

I went back to him thinking he would try to make that emotional connection that he originally shredded up.

I left once....he begged me to come back...so i did...and because he had different views on things that happened this past weekend he wanted to go off on me and get rid of me...so..no giref about that hun.

He would have had to create a bond with me first....captured my heart somehow....and he never attempted to do so...so...

I'm ok.

I'm not even mad.

I have been single for so long that I'm used to it. I kinda like it. If mr.right comes along then great!!

But there are no tears for him....the way i look at it...he is the one loosing out.
He is going to die a lonely miserable man.

and I'm cool with that :grin:

hopefloating's photo
Tue 12/08/09 09:19 AM

flowers flowers Things will work out for the bestflowers flowers


thanks hun.

hugs!

hopefloating's photo
Tue 12/08/09 09:20 AM

Look on the bright side:

You don't have to buy him a Christmas present.




LMAO!

thats true!!

whats funny is I was thinking about what to get him for christmas yesterday...lol...don't have to worry about it now!!

HAHA!

Jill298's photo
Tue 12/08/09 09:20 AM

I'm more upset he owes me money.....I'm not sure i will ever see it again....

guys I helped him more than anyone in his life currently....so...if he wants me gone...ta hell with it...


Look at it this way... he doesn't owe you any money. You basically paid for him to stay out of your life. He knows he owes you money, and now he'll avoid you totally! Sometimes it's worth the price.

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