Topic: It's Done...I'm single again...
Pickofthelitter's photo
Tue 12/08/09 09:30 AM


Sorry things didn't work out, but until you deal with the grief from this breakup, you're not going to be 100% emotionally available to anyone else, and you're likely carry these hurt feelings into your next relationship.

I think you have a lot to offer to the right guy, and don't settle... but take care of yourself first.

Maybe I miss understood and you're only here to vent, and that's cool. This is as good-a-place as any.




but thats the thing....the "grief" you speak of....not there.

I went back to him thinking he would try to make that emotional connection that he originally shredded up.

I left once....he begged me to come back...so i did...and because he had different views on things that happened this past weekend he wanted to go off on me and get rid of me...so..no giref about that hun.

He would have had to create a bond with me first....captured my heart somehow....and he never attempted to do so...so...

I'm ok.

I'm not even mad.

I have been single for so long that I'm used to it. I kinda like it. If mr.right comes along then great!!

But there are no tears for him....the way i look at it...he is the one loosing out.
He is going to die a lonely miserable man.

and I'm cool with that :grin:


You care about the relationships you engage in so of course there's grief. If you didn't care you never would've mentioned it.

This is just the first phase in the grief process. Denial

I don't mean to give you more grief here, just trying to be a supportive friend.

no photo
Tue 12/08/09 09:49 AM

So this past weekend I thought went ok.

I was expecting the worst...but in my mind it went ok. apparently in his mind...it was the opposite.

It is somewhat irrelevant exactly why we broke up this morning...other than his view of this weekend was horrible...and mine was not. I say it's irrelevant because he did not want to discuss things and work out why things happened they way they did. He just wanted to argue. He was not in any way shape or form wanting to work out the differences....so....I stopped him in mid sentence after about 30 min of the verbal diarrhea....and I said "look, I know what you want, you don't want to resolve this you just want me out....so there is no point in continuing this argument....let me get my stuff I'll get out."

So I got my stuff...and I left.

Right before I left I told him I am sorry I came back....I knew this would not work but I tried going against my best judgement....I tried...it didn't work...

....I'm not cryin about it....

Merry Christmas......I'm back on the Market!!! LMFAO!!!


I have room in my dungeon for you.... oops..I mean I have a spare room:wink:

hopefloating's photo
Tue 12/08/09 10:28 AM



Sorry things didn't work out, but until you deal with the grief from this breakup, you're not going to be 100% emotionally available to anyone else, and you're likely carry these hurt feelings into your next relationship.

I think you have a lot to offer to the right guy, and don't settle... but take care of yourself first.

Maybe I miss understood and you're only here to vent, and that's cool. This is as good-a-place as any.




but thats the thing....the "grief" you speak of....not there.

I went back to him thinking he would try to make that emotional connection that he originally shredded up.

I left once....he begged me to come back...so i did...and because he had different views on things that happened this past weekend he wanted to go off on me and get rid of me...so..no giref about that hun.

He would have had to create a bond with me first....captured my heart somehow....and he never attempted to do so...so...

I'm ok.

I'm not even mad.

I have been single for so long that I'm used to it. I kinda like it. If mr.right comes along then great!!

But there are no tears for him....the way i look at it...he is the one loosing out.
He is going to die a lonely miserable man.

and I'm cool with that :grin:


You care about the relationships you engage in so of course there's grief. If you didn't care you never would've mentioned it.

This is just the first phase in the grief process. Denial

I don't mean to give you more grief here, just trying to be a supportive friend.


I was hurt the first time I left.

This time I feel fine. I went back against my better judgement. I should not have.

so....if thats denial....oh well....it feels pretty damn good.


livelife68's photo
Tue 12/08/09 10:35 AM
I went through a similar situation recently.

I like your positive attitude.

thanks flowerforyou

hopefloating's photo
Tue 12/08/09 12:34 PM

I went through a similar situation recently.

I like your positive attitude.

thanks flowerforyou


aww....sorry to hear it....but...I'm sure we are both better off without them!

Goofball73's photo
Tue 12/08/09 12:58 PM
Hey. Does he have any PS3 games? If so, you can go steal them, and then ship them to me.bigsmile laugh laugh

RKISIT's photo
Tue 12/08/09 01:02 PM

So this past weekend I thought went ok.

I was expecting the worst...but in my mind it went ok. apparently in his mind...it was the opposite.

It is somewhat irrelevant exactly why we broke up this morning...other than his view of this weekend was horrible...and mine was not. I say it's irrelevant because he did not want to discuss things and work out why things happened they way they did. He just wanted to argue. He was not in any way shape or form wanting to work out the differences....so....I stopped him in mid sentence after about 30 min of the verbal diarrhea....and I said "look, I know what you want, you don't want to resolve this you just want me out....so there is no point in continuing this argument....let me get my stuff I'll get out."

So I got my stuff...and I left.

Right before I left I told him I am sorry I came back....I knew this would not work but I tried going against my best judgement....I tried...it didn't work...

....I'm not cryin about it....

Merry Christmas......I'm back on the Market!!! LMFAO!!!
so do ya like florida men?drool flowers

Goofball73's photo
Tue 12/08/09 01:04 PM


So this past weekend I thought went ok.

I was expecting the worst...but in my mind it went ok. apparently in his mind...it was the opposite.

It is somewhat irrelevant exactly why we broke up this morning...other than his view of this weekend was horrible...and mine was not. I say it's irrelevant because he did not want to discuss things and work out why things happened they way they did. He just wanted to argue. He was not in any way shape or form wanting to work out the differences....so....I stopped him in mid sentence after about 30 min of the verbal diarrhea....and I said "look, I know what you want, you don't want to resolve this you just want me out....so there is no point in continuing this argument....let me get my stuff I'll get out."

So I got my stuff...and I left.

Right before I left I told him I am sorry I came back....I knew this would not work but I tried going against my best judgement....I tried...it didn't work...

....I'm not cryin about it....

Merry Christmas......I'm back on the Market!!! LMFAO!!!
so do ya like florida men?drool flowers


I love it. She is single less than a day and already RKISIT is working it.:laughing: :laughing:

RKISIT's photo
Tue 12/08/09 01:10 PM
i try to pull up quick to retrieve itlaugh drinker

isaac_dede's photo
Tue 12/08/09 01:19 PM

i try to pull up quick to retrieve itlaugh drinker

baby got backdrool:laughing:

hopefloating's photo
Tue 12/08/09 01:20 PM
ok...you caught my curiosity....

now i gotta perv your profile.. :p

yellowrose10's photo
Tue 12/08/09 01:21 PM
I have learned to listen to my feelings. I'm sorry you went through that.

Welcome back to the dark side laugh flowerforyou

hopefloating's photo
Tue 12/08/09 01:28 PM
lol....yeah the dark side....nawww

We will just light some scented candles...set a sensual mood...grab some wine...

yeeeahhh.....

this lady is going to have a fun night tonight...candles....girlfriends....and wine....

....I might pop online while drunk....make some drunk posts..lol

Goofball73's photo
Tue 12/08/09 01:29 PM

I have learned to listen to my feelings. I'm sorry you went through that.

Welcome back to the dark side laugh flowerforyou


Hmmmmm. Imagining Yellowrose as Darth Vader.....Kind of HAWT!drool drool :laughing: :laughing:

yellowrose10's photo
Tue 12/08/09 01:31 PM

lol....yeah the dark side....nawww

We will just light some scented candles...set a sensual mood...grab some wine...

yeeeahhh.....

this lady is going to have a fun night tonight...candles....girlfriends....and wine....

....I might pop online while drunk....make some drunk posts..lol


been there...done that...went back the next day and saw my posts and laughed laugh

yellowrose10's photo
Tue 12/08/09 01:32 PM


I have learned to listen to my feelings. I'm sorry you went through that.

Welcome back to the dark side laugh flowerforyou


Hmmmmm. Imagining Yellowrose as Darth Vader.....Kind of HAWT!drool drool :laughing: :laughing:


Goof....I am your FATHER pitchfork

Now put away your light saber before you poke your eye out laugh

hopefloating's photo
Tue 12/08/09 01:32 PM
goofball.....if she is darthvader....then who am I?

yellowrose10's photo
Tue 12/08/09 01:34 PM

goofball.....if she is darthvader....then who am I?


princess Lea (sp)

Goofball73's photo
Tue 12/08/09 01:39 PM



I have learned to listen to my feelings. I'm sorry you went through that.

Welcome back to the dark side laugh flowerforyou


Hmmmmm. Imagining Yellowrose as Darth Vader.....Kind of HAWT!drool drool :laughing: :laughing:


Goof....I am your FATHER pitchfork

Now put away your light sbaer before you poke your eye out laugh


What's a light sbaer??tongue2 tongue2 rofl rofl

hopefloating's photo
Tue 12/08/09 01:44 PM




I have learned to listen to my feelings. I'm sorry you went through that.

Welcome back to the dark side laugh flowerforyou


Hmmmmm. Imagining Yellowrose as Darth Vader.....Kind of HAWT!drool drool :laughing: :laughing:


Goof....I am your FATHER pitchfork

Now put away your light sbaer before you poke your eye out laugh


What's a light sbaer??tongue2 tongue2 rofl rofl



sbaer.uca.edu


idunno.....is she trying to tell you your not edumacated enough?