Benefits of listening to your date....

If you're not going on about yourself and if you listen and seem to be interested or even not actually listening, pretending to listen and pretending to be interested, you up your chances of gettin' lucky.

I discovered that as my head is bobbing up and down in my sleep, the dates take the closed eyes as a sigh of intense listening, and the bobbing of the head as nodding.

I'm currently working on how to explain my snoring.

I agree, do we know the same POS?

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When you get it, let me know.

Forgive him........I don't know how to do that. Wish I did...for myself. I never could grasp that concept.

It's like they hurt you, and you are angry, and you blame them for the hurt, and then one day you wake up and you're not angry, you don't blame them any more, but you still remember exactly how they hurt you.

In my family my mother used to make me tell my sister I was a bad boy and I was sorry when I had told her boyfriend about her abortion. I hated doing that, and in my heart I was still angry for getting spanked for it, but now I love my sister and vice versa. She forgave me. I don't know how it happens, or how many times you need to get spanked, really, but it happens. Just like other Shhht.

You mean I'm supposed to just wake up and let it all slide? Gee, now I know I didn't mention that he left me in CO. Yep, I got home from work one night and, he was gone. Left me with all the bill's. I was friggen lost! and ya know what? I still am.

You'll forgive him if and when you decide to. That's up to you. Only you know how you feel and no one else has the right to tell you that your feelings are wrong. Until you've lived someone else's life, it's easy to judge and say "oh you should do this" or "you're bad and bitter if you don't do this." We all deal with problems in our own way, and it's neither right or wrong.

Noone was implying she was wrong or judging her.

Holding anger is bad for us across the board. It is bad for our health and emotional well being. She is still angry that is obvious.

All I did was give her an idea of what would help her be healthier for herself and possibly her next relationship. If it helps great if not that is okay too.

You're right, it is bad. And, I know it show's in many way's. I want to let it go. I just don't know how.

If you are no longer together and know that you will not go back, you are not letting anything slide.

You are angry at him and it is only hurting you for you to be angry, it doesn't hurt him at all so why do that to yourself?

He did what he did, you learned the lessons you had to learn from it, right?

Lessons can be for example not moving so fast in a relationship next time, taking heed of those warning signs you saw early in the relationship next time, etc....

Once we learn from our bad experiences then we can let them go and forgive so we will be better and healthier people.

I have five failed relationships so breaking up is my speciality, sadly.

I do have to make a point of letting it go. It's hard. And, I'll never have anybody else untill I do. I know this.

I know it's hard, but I gain more pleasure hitting the delete button in my memory and forgetting they ever existed, than sharing this tragedy with the next girl, and either frightening her off, getting her angry, or boring her to tears. It's better for the next one to just forget she ever even existed. It was an alternate universe in a galaxy far far away, some things are better left unsaid, yes I know, it's a Hall & Oates song.

If a girl keeps talking about her ex's and ex's and all the bad they did to her, guess what??? She's a drama queen, and I'm staying the hell away! Seriously, life is hard as it is, why add more drama to it! And guess what if she complains that all her ex's were cheating, lying, drug dealing, and abusive people, that means she's probably only attracted to those people. So you have a choice now :)

If she is going to harp on about her ex's all night im gonna have to get really drunk and then make her pay the bill.

All my exes live in Texas, that's my story and I'm sticking to it, and that's all you'll ever hear on the subject.

A former boss of mine once told me that all of her children's fathers were drunks.

obviously..........