NOPE!!! DEFINITELY NOT!!! and btw...we're just long distance friends, as per his request not to end the friendship...seeeee...no SEX involve...DAMN...I definitely need to be an ALCOHOLIC so my life be much easier

I like what you say!!!

I would never allow someone to dictate who and what I can do in my life. I am great friends with my EX and well if someone I was dating told me that he didnt' want me to talk to him anymore.

The first reaction would be don't make me choose, second would be pity.
They must have such a low self esteem issue that they can't realize I am with them because I want to be, and I am not with my EX because I don't want to be.

People who try to dictate my life or relationships would fade in my affection very fast to non existent. I get being respectful of a persons since of committment but either he trusts me or not and I would find that very insulting.

Not to say what anyone should do with thier life.....

I know this to be fact........

any moron who is gonna waste my time yammering on about a failed relationship can go right back to the motherf***r that either dumped them or who they dumped cause ONE of em just wasn't good enough.

Besides........it is rude, selfish and inconsiderate in the extreme.

Something like that can be mentioned once.....maybe third or fourth date.........after that......it becomes clinging to a failed past and dragging some poor sucker into a bad relationship that THEY didn't cause or earn.

That's what I thougt...

No one, not even my ex, is a real distraction from my current interest, who doesn't appear to have the least amount of jealousy, probably because she knows I'm owned. In fact, as my ex, who is currently suffering from her mental illness called in a very bad mental state, right in the middle of my day, I got a text from my current, and simply said what was going on. Her response? "I'll pray for her and we'll talk later". After that, we resumed with texting, and talked later, no harm, no foul, no negativity, no greedy whining over spousal support, simply put, not a threat. I complimented her over this situation and in fact, am proud of her for that. It's no accident that she has fresh flowers both here and where she lives, always. She deserves them.

I have an ex GF who I consider my best friend, so no she stays. My other ex. hated any girl that would talk to me, as a matter of fact she would threaten any girl that would talk to me. I hated that relationship more than anything, and even though this girl was magazine quality, this is when I learned looks will never be the sole determining factor of a relationship for me ever again! That type of jealousy drove me away far away! lol

If you want to keep your relationship healty, keep your ex's out of it.

Having to deal with them because a child was involved is one thing. Having them around as friends is another. It says alot about a person, and not in a good way. It shows alot of insecurity and inability to accept closure.

I've known my best friend for over 10 years and I have never been involved intimately with her. If I had, it would not be the same.

Well everyone thinks different, I'm not the jealous type at all, so I never cared. I'm very secure about myself in relationships and know if a girl is going to cheat she will cheat, by becoming controlling I feel I'm putting my own self esteem down and letting her win!

Guess I won't allow this because I treat all w/the same respect I expect. I cannot fathom asking anyone to stop talking to another person - let's get real, if someone is going to do you wrong, cheat on you or whatever, it's gonna happen. End of story.

But then again I guess I see thing thru rose colored glasses, but I like what I see

Damn...is this the same girl we talking about? just kidding...sounds the same 2 me...but 1 problem..she still call my home phone and threaten me daily (I wouldn't keep it,if it's not 4 my dsl line), one different tho' this girl is reaaaallllyyy ugly and undesireable (don't even want 2 sleep with her if I am lesbian), but she still call like a STUPID IDIOT..make it worst, she sent mails 2 my house telling me 2 stop being friend with him or else (he's d 1 who calls, NOT me..she FORGOT that)

shame this woman is acting the fool - if she has a beef at all it's not with you but with her man. Were it me, I'd let her know not to call again as I would report her telephone calls as harrassing and threatening to the cops.

another question, why isn't your friend handling this?

It depends on if you can convince both of them your not sleeping with them at the same time..

lol

or not. Do what you think is necessary ... it's all situational.

I am keeping loyalty to all my wives and g/friends, former and current, always no matter what.

I did report her calls and mails, but doesn't do any good ,maybe one day it will...who knows; I don't know why he doesn't want 2 handle this problem...I beg him 2 do so, but he's just a BUTT-HEAD I guess, or maybe he told her we're sleeping 2gether I don't know; no..no..I don't sleep with him, even if he wants 2...just can't...the distance doesn't let him (unless he got a realllly long one )and he's realllllly FAT now...I don't think I can breath under him and if I'm on top he'll have a heart attack ...don't worry...I'll have my shot guns ready incase she shows up just kidding

Ohhhh...I can convince both of them that I don't "WANT" 2 ever sleep with him anymore alrite....he's too damn FAT and not desireble anymore anyway , when I was inlove...okay..he looked great no matter what, but now..eeeewwww...I regret ever slept with him...damn...what did I think...slept with an ugly man???