When children are involved, my parent mentality kicks in and says 'Whatever you do, do it for the kid'.

Unfortunately, I am a responible male who does'nt disappear on kids that get attached to him.

I say unfortunate because it is a weakness for me. Some single mothers that I have dated in the past have turned out to be less than stellar parents and I ended up staying longer than I should have playing the part of Daddy for a loser parent, thinking of the kid.

Then I realized, Hey!! I can't save the world.
What about my family??? Do I get to have one of those or is it just a myth and I have to settle on everybody else's past to build my future?

These days I'm less likely to date a single parent without them passing the checks I look for:

1. Must never place me above the child.
2. Just like with sex, get to know the person first and start a relationship and earn a ton of TRUST before meeting any kids.
3. Jumping into bed with me quick (if you can manage that) pretty much guarantees that I will never want to meet your children (obviously this means we both make bad decisions)
4. Using kids as an excuse. ie 'I could'nt call or send an email this week because I was sooooooo busy with the kids' BS I run two businesses and I can still manage to communicate with the person I'm interested in.
5. Swearing around your kid/kissing me in front of them = see ya


So it's not that us guys just won't date women with children, it's that when we see something we don't like and it's out of our control, we bolt.

I think alot of it with me about women with children favoritism I treat all kids in a relationship the same but in the past women don't seam to except other mens children as well< I guess it just means not the right one but I love kids and enjoy the fun they give.most guys are just looking for booty call not meany really looking for some thing real.

so should we talk softly secrectly and smoothly romanticalway?

After my divorce, I was a sole support parent. I raised my two daughters and my two nieces for the most part. They are grown and on thier own. Im done. I dont want to raise any more. I love kids and hope for a grandchild one day, but thats it. I just feel like that part of my life is over and its time for different things now. So at this point, I would never get involved with someone with small children.

Because its not theres. Most guys are afraid to accept another persons baggage which is what a kid and kids daddy is..

It dosnt scare us, not me any way. Some men jus don't want the added responsiblity of dealing with another child and parent. I man that is afraid of a woman is a coward. U might wanna change the kind of men ur meeting.

Because the men don't want to be parents yet (if ever).

A single mom has a better chance dating a single dad. Think "Brady Bunch".

I think some men are scared of the sudden appearance of someone elses children, not to mention the moms EX who may still be in the picture considerably.

It's a shame though! single moms do need the love of a partner just like anyone else does, i've never been one to veer away from them because of kids.

I think that men should stop assuming they're expected to be a daddy to their partners kids, chances are your not!
For the most part all your expected to do is show support to your partner and comfort her when she needs it, i'm sure she'll let you know of any help or roll otherwise she may need help with as far her kids go or anything else for that matter.

"Just be a MAN"..

Yes most definately you'll eventually have a role if the relationship goes well as an adult, you do have time from the beginning of the relationship to adapt to that idea.
If the idea in any given time frame scares you then! i think that's a whole different topic and matter.

Because of the way the child behaves when Mommy isn't around.
I know, because I have a child of my own.

A woman with a child is scary to a man because most men dont want the responsibility of taking care of someone else`s child,Not all men though.Me on the other hand don`t care if the woman has children because the issue to me is irrelevant if I care for the woman.Anyways,I think kids are cool

Scary from man...not true..infact the reason of scaring is the woman"s inner sin which guide her mind to choose from both either her son or a man..

Not saying all women with a child is like this But, some women are still dealing with the father of that child and all the drama that comes with it. Or they haven't really let go and moved on with there life to start a new relationship, and end up getting back with there ex because of the child. Some women are looking for a father figure and a lot of men don't want that responsibility or don't know how to handle being in a situation like that. There are a lot of reasons why, i just guess you would have to wait for someone that has an open mind and understanding.

Men with kids don't scare me unless they do not care for them responsibly! I love kids, couldn't have them when I was younger and likely will never have my own. I have helped raise my little sisters, nieces, nephews, god children, etc!

At family gatherings I am more prone to hang with the kids rather than the gossipy, complaining, pity-party inducing adults!!! I'd rather be shot a million times with a nerf/water gun than have to listen to one single idiot cry because their life isn't perfect knowing dang well that they are simply too lazy to work and make a better life!

With that being said, I don't want a man that expects me to jump into being "mommy"! He should be capable of caring for his children on his own. However, a good dad is one of the biggest turn-ons for me! I was daddy's little girl so I have an idea about how a man should treat his children! My dad wasn't always easy to deal with, but he was always active in my life and there for me. Sometimes he worked 3 jobs at a time and somehow, still made a little time for his kids.

I still remember the warmth of his touch while I was sleeping on nights he worked too late to see us before bedtime. Hunting, fishing, camping, working on cars & houses, road trips! Once we were returning to san antonio after visiting family near beaumont and he let my brother and I pick a trunk full of blue bonnets to bring back to my mom :)

well you women arent alone. i am a single dad and women think all i want is a mommy.im totally independant and i do work,lol. so all i want is a good partner. if you get the answer to this question that plagues us all let me know

Think its a personal think here..some men prefer living without kids not even there own kids,while some men kinda lazy to keep and check there kids,and kids are fun to be with and sometimes they could be the most scariest thing on earth,cos its not so easy to understand there ways.

Martin

I chose not to get involved with men who have or want children for many reasons over the years. Although I love kids, I never had any intention of being a parent. When I was younger it seemed the men I knew who had kids also came in a package deal with lots of drama, and that turned me off in a big way. I didn't want to have the awkward conversation that would inevitably come with dating someone who wanted to have kids - when I don't and never did.

For me, the decision not to date men who have or want kids didn't come from my impressions of what men who have/want kids are like, or my fears or preconceived notions about that sort of situation. It just came from my own preferences and lifestyle.

PS Single dads rule (my own brother is a single dad). But I won't date ya. :)

Reasons why most men are scared of single mommies is as a result of some of the women characters. Men needs attention and some care also, but most of such mother give the whole attention to their children and feel less concern about their men. I ve suffered it before. But yet i still love single mother.

one word,,, commitment most men find it harder to commit to a female because of her children, and its usually only because children are more likely to be accepting and honest most of us men cannot handle that.

one word,,, commitment most men find it harder to commit to a female because of her children, and its usually only because children are more likely to be accepting and honest most of us men cannot handle that.