Yep, this has happened many, many times. I've replied to emails with "I'm not interested. Good luck in your search." and have gotten nasty replies. I don't do that as much now.

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i was giving up on love and dating soo many heart breaks or people htat i did click seemed at end like players or just were messing around or too far ... but my boyfriend lives 2 hours away and we make hte effort every single day... we keep in contact and text its jsut great once you find that one when u least expect it he or she comes..

I have the same issue at another dating site. I take my time to write something thats real and true, nothing sleazy. After taking my time to come up with something I think will give me a response, there is none. It would be easier if a woman wrote back saying that shes not interested, then I can let it go. If someone asks a question they expect an answer, same with writing an email on here.

LOL at the "are they so scared of who's on the other end".

No answer IS a response. They aren't interested. Also, nobody is required to answer your emails. Sure it's nice, but not a requirement. I have constructed an response mail praising them and how they are too good for me and please fight the urge to write back as it will only break my heart further to communicate with them

Here's what you should do. Go to your sent box (if they have one here) and delete all the messages you send. Then you won't ever have to know if she read your message or not. You'll be better off.

One thing I learned fairly quickly is that it's a waste of time to write anyone first....I don't bother anymore.

So a woman is saying that its a waste of time to bother writing an email. Guys are saying women is stuck up if they dont respond.

Dating is hard enough, why play these games?

Well, to tell you the truth,,I would NEVER go on the Internet to find a woman,,,,And I damn sure would NEVER in a HUNDRED YEARS
join a single's site,,,,,,so I have no ideas, what you folks think you would gain by THAT?????

Thats why I come here to the daily news center,,,and talk with all you nice people in person,,,, Have a good day....

I do answer all my emails, I dont' think this has anything to do with a persons intentionsl. I have heard some horror stories about the abuse women get when they do answer witha thank you not interested.

I am a bit skeptical now, since last month I was off the net more than on I had h1n1. Mind you I had to read them all when I got back, 3 emails from a guy in the space of 10 days. The first was a nice intro email, the second was a hey why haven't you responded to the last one that called me every name in the book and told me to get over myself. I am like WTH...

Think of the internet as shopping do you buy every pair of shoes you try on, of course not, the same with all the emailing you do.; You are shopping trying to find the perfect fit.

dude its just a huge waste of time! Who wants to spend there free time answering emails to be polite? I don't know I think it's more expedient to just ignore! I guess for some pen pals are cool, but for me it is just boring unless i am interested in her! So don't take it personal if they write back they are interested and if they don't they are not. Pretty simple really!

The best responses that I've gotten are from nudges, no really.

If I get a nudge back then I'll start up a conversation.


If somebody gets offended by something as simple as a nudge and does'nt reply then they have saved me the wasted effort in writing them. Very rarely will I send an actual first email instead.

so if i nudged you would that change your opinion....

only if I nudged back

Okay... how 'bout, this instead:

Find them
Feed them
Fondle them

or

Fake them
Fantasize about them
Federalize them

or

Finden Sie sie
Fressen Sie sie
Fergessen Sie sie

Because they are Lizard People

agree...real life dating is easier than on line....

I was waiting all day long for this. I have the perfect answer for you, young man.

I have found the holy grail of getting replies from women on sites.

Insult them.

Not badly -- don't be rude, don't use swearwords, don't berate them. Just insult them gently. Find 1 misspelled word in their copy and tell them about it. This always gets a reply. Or you try to help them by telling them to drink less. Or to ease up on the donut situation. These ALWAYS, 100% of the time, get a reply.

Not your cup of tea? No problem, there is more in the bag.

Write them extremely nice, sucky, grovelling letters how beautiful, gracious and etherially dreamy they are. Or their eyes, or their demeanour. Try to use some French-original words. Don't go into nasty details. You cannot wonder to other body parts away from the eyes, the youth, the spriteness, the whatever. Don't say "hey, you've a beautiful face." A face is not something you mention. Stay away from naming the breasts, but if you have to, call it some dignified name like bosom. Legs, no, butt, no, belly-button, only in a cute joke, hands, yes, upper arms, no, because it makes you sound like a perv psycho. (I am an upper-arm man, and I carry and harbour this terrible secret penned up all inside, in fear of the reaction of the townsfolk if light came to my special preference.)

Anyway. You can come up with the most blatant lies, but as long as you make it into a semi-believable romantic compliment, they will write back to you, send you a rose, thank you kindly and happily. Women have some code of grace; a compliment is a compliment is a complimen. A complimented woman knows that it's not her role to be a judge to say whether it's true or not. She knows that the only good and proper thing she can do that will raise no issues is to take the compliment gracefully and run with it. Some see through them, some don't, some believe what you say, some don't, but they will all accept. In other words, a rose is a rose is a rose. Even going overboard or over the top is allowed, but only to a certain degree.

You must not write afterwards again. In both instances. If you write again to a lady who just sent you a reply to your insult, she'll get you banned from the site; if you write to a reply by a lady whom you had just complimented, you're ruining the whole effect. All of a sudden you'll feel like a wanton, dirty man who only put her on a pedestal so you could drag her off and into the mud. You won't actually feel that; it's her who'll think you ought to feel like that.

I think if you write anything in between: a kind letter, a good letter, an insightful letter or a witty letter, you only chances of getting a reply is presenting your very good looks. If you ain't dashing, then stick with the insulting and with the wildly complimentary letters.

So this is it. If you want a reply, and you can be happy in and by itself with that, you've got the recipe above.

Thats atually good advice and they say we are shallow!

WOW insults! Now I know what I've been doing wrong.

I hear ya on this one, I got a message yesterday from someone I wasn't interested in and I did not reply,he said "your being very rude and I'm just being nice" I understand that but for the same reasons stated above, I got rude replies back from my "Thanks but I'm not interested" also. Sometimes you just can't win with some of these people, I guess some can't handle rejection?

That's why it's best to block them after they send their initial email. I can usually tell who will be a whiner; just add them to your block list and when they send their follow-up "you're a b!tch and I'm a nice guy" email, it won't matter because you won't see it. Problem solved.