I have been in a few reltionships and i tend to like women a little on the heavy side. I find it very attractve when a women has a big but! When i talk to guy friends about this they are almost always in agreement with me. Yet women seem to not know this and feel self concious about there weight. So i am curious where the actual feelings are coming from? Is it trully men, maybe it's other women, or is it the media? I ask because sometimes the lack of confidence over rides the physical attraction and then it doesn't work out. So what are peoples true thoughts?

more often than not men don't like women that are over weight. Quite a few do tho, I'm not saying ALL. But if you put a big girl and a skinny girl in a room of men, the skinny girl will get hit on far more often. Then that leads to lower self confidence. So it kinda spirals from there.
I'm a thicker girl and I'm happy with me :) I'm making changes based on what I want and need and keeping myself healthy. It took a long time tho to get high self confidence.

oh and theres lots of junk in this trunk

I think it's a bit of men, media and our own selves. A lot of time with that weight in the booty lol comes weight in the mid section. That's probably what some of us don't like.

While I'm not far off from my own personal comfortable weight, I still tell myself I am beautiful because yeah...I know men like self-confidence in a woman. It is sexy! I can't stand a man without it either!

You know i have witnessed this myself! Except i also see a stark difference in there confidence! You know i have seen confident women that where not real thin also command a room so i don't know if it is really the weight?

yeah i agree with you the stomach part throws it off a bit but the alternative is not as attractive! But i agree i think it is a lot of things not just men! I constantly had to reinforce My ex's confidence and she was extremely beautiful and it just drove me nuts! I just don't get it!

time for a giggle party!

It really depends on the person. Sometimes when people are overweight, it leads to depression, which leads to lower self confidence. It's a cycle. Some people walk up in the room like everyone in the room is renting from her and she owns the place.

I prefer I nice tight tiny heiny

your not the first to tell me that. I think it's preference! But you know it's not a majority i think, i don't know?

I don’t care how my body is perceived by anyone but me. I happen to be a fitness freak, and I strive to have muscle tone and low body fat. I still eat like a champion if I feel like it though. I am not shy around food as long as there is more output than input. I’ll attract the kind of guy that finds me beautiful.

There are so many womanly body types that are adored by a variety of men.

Women should be comfortable in their own skin and not worry if anyone will be attracted to them for having a certain body type.

A confident woman -- regardless of her “weight” is gorgeous!

One more thing...I always thought heavier women had prettier faces!

have to agree with that a confident woman is very attractive! I am a bit of a fitness freak myself and when i was younger i got up to 250 pounds and often people would comment i was too big and i should lay off the weights.....lol But you know i never cared i really enjoyed it! It really never shook my confidence!

I never noticed???

I've always like bigger women more than skinny ones. Whenever I see a skinny woman, my first thought is usually, "Get this woman some pie,STAT!"

you either like me or you don't... I'm no longer scared rejection. Especially from someone I don't even know.

Ditto......while I feel the need for self improvement, I'm more interested in finding someone who likes me just as I am. Those that don't are just basically missing out on a great woman. I too am no longer scared of rejection.

Hey guys & girls :) I most definitely have an opinion on this topic as well! I have always been a curvy woman, and I love it. There is a such thing as over doing it, but as long as it's not a health issue, I say there's nothing wrong w/it. If a man is only after you for your body, then it wont work anyways ; ) btw, if i wanna big mac..no man is gonna change my mind lol love yourself & the rest will fall in place

I can't stand SKINNY guys it is discusting................ So the same goes for women!