i would assume that when you join a dating site you would want to put your best self out there to be seen. Not meaning to be a snot but i am not finding what i am looking for and i feel that some things should just be basic.


i am trying to be the positive on this but finding a few things that need to be made clear.

1 if you can't spell or put a complete sentence together please don't contact me. i may not use capitals all the time and tend to have a run on sentence, those items i can understand. (ie sentence above) its the incapability to spell camping correctly for example. if it is a passion of yours give it some some respect and spell it correctly!

2 i understand the need to feel wanted and intimate on the computer and all the reasons that people feel freer to ask "adult" questions but if i was looking to hook up i would just put it on my profile. goodness i don't need to be asked if i want to have phone or email intimacy with you before i know your name! if i wanted to be treated like a blow up doll or the bar slut at the bar, i would have my profile say that.

Feel Better? Welcome to the internet!! you are going to meet all kinds- Do you think they really read your profile? Some do and most don't.

This is why it's called the dating "game." It is a game- you just have to learn to play it-You learn to weed out the garbage before you meet someone of substance.

Buuuuut in the meantime- why don't you join in on the forums and let everyone get to know you- you will meet some really great people and probably make some great friends.

Best to you!

i understand the struggle to attempt to read through sentence after sentence composed by those who can't spell and/or have poor grammar skills; however, i have to say i met one of the nicest people here whose email i still don't always understand. sometimes people need to be given a chance.

believe me though, you will build up an immunity to those sorts of email once you've received hundreds of them and hitting 'delete' without any thought at all gets really easy.

finding someone of substance is like looking for bigfoot.


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not everyone can spell

Give them a chance!!

We all get the sex ones.....

Just block them!!

There are all kinds out there. Just deal with them accordingly!


( there are a lot of people of substance here)

when i look at a woman's profile and she can't spell basic things i usually just stop reading and move on to the next one. but what really irks me is when they have no grasp on the english language. all spelling errors aside, you can see how a person talks by how they write (gross generalization; i tend to write a lot better than i actually talk but that's just because i have to dumb down my speech to communicate with the neanderthals that reside here in the midwest).
it's one thing to misspell their, there, and they're. it's completely different to say "i seen ..." instead of "i saw ...".
that's just one example and it's probably a minor infraction compared to some of the unintelligible things that some people write. but what i'm getting at is this; if you can't take the time to write something about yourself in a way that will help you shine, don't expect to be noticed by quality people. how you communicate is as much a reflection of your self as what you say.

good post OP.


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i don't get the sex ones.
why am i being left out?


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You don't ????

nope, people like me for my brain, not my body. once they get their intellectual stimulation they toss me aside and look for someone to provide their physical stimulation.


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so would you like us to send you some sexy email- a little solicitation perhaps? We wouldn't want you to feel left out

no thank you. no false interest please.


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I love the topic that you have chosen !!!
Me myself english is not my mother tongue but as you said I try my best to write something at least readable !!

Today someone sent me an eamil with 20 mistakes and he was trying to say : I am an english gentle man !!!!
Imagine what should I answer him back ???!

Few days back , again another crazy man wrote me :Do you want to be my "LIVE" partner ? I said no thx , he replied : do you want sex ?!

thanks to everyone for their input. it puts my mind at ease knowing i am not alone in these thoughts.

And i agree with Drew. i am not trying to look down on people for their spelling abilities just the way they project themselves. society as a whole in this day an age. . . we have become lazy. We need to work towards are goal.

If you say you want certain qualities hopefully you can project them yourselves.

And i am enjoying the forums. i just don't post as much as i read.

In all honesty, in the 24 hrs since i had re-opened my account i had been bombed with too many characters who think every woman is to be their next hole to be plugged. since there is more than one orifice i will spare you all the details of the comments i received.

"nope, people like me for my brain, not my body. once they get their intellectual stimulation they toss me aside and look for someone to provide their physical stimulation."


Hey drew,

maybe you should dumb it down and instead of lifting a book you can lift a weight.

sorry i am being bitter, but you get the idea.

make that "and" instead of "an" i rushed. i can self critique.

typical midwestern woman's response. flex some muscles instead of your brain. we at least know how to deal with the dumb jocks.
and they're easy to control; just give 'em some sex and they'll do whatever we want. that doesn't always work with you smarties.


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i guess we are all just looking for balance. no one can control another. dumb or smart. it is trying to find someone to mold to your liking that is the problem in the first place.

yeah, why can't people be more malleable?


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well we are from dirt. :)


oops that was written poorly. i meant we shouldn't try to find people to change but find a person who meets our ideals or at least does not have flaws we can't live with.