Too many times i've seen women falling for some latin lover type from another country. these guys have a different sense of whats right and whats wrong, customs may also be different and both their value and view of women in their society!? you could be taken for a ride by some unscroupulous individual who will promise you the moon and the stars, all to get a passsort and free entry into your country, then disappear like a rat down a sewer. what do you know about him? do you even really kno anything? words can be shallow....

I think in some way you are totally wright! But in some things i think totally differently. But that is ok.
That is why i ask my question here. I wanna know what you all think about this. This is a datingsite isn't??
So i think it is possible you meet someone here who you have a click with. And if this site to upset people then i am away here very fast!
I know that there are a lot of people who are here or anyweher else as scammers....but a little trust in people is good.

you said in your profile that 'love conquers...' ? sometimes it doesn't and you have to accept that. he lives in sweden!? is that not the sex capital of the world? :p lots of blonde, drop dead gorgeous, legs up to their armpits women who are sex mad and looking it twenty four hours of the day from some swedish hunk - possibly like your boyfriend?:) who could resist that temptation....? have you ever thought of going blonde? he may like that.....

Sorry but i don't think you are in the wright topic!!!!
Don't you work??

No, you'll find that i am in the right topic... i was just quoting from your profile that love conquers all... thats what you wrote! ;)

of course i work! i'm on a break and so able to write my comments to you. do you work??? :)

then i would continue on with a 3-year (to date) love affair that hasn't lost any passion and still feels as fresh as day one.

however, a long distance relationship is not easy, either on the people or on the pocketbook and i wouldn't advise you to continue if you are a needy, dependent, jealous person who doesn't have a lot of money with which to travel (same for the other party).

You're a beautiful woman and for the life of me can't understand why you don't have guys falling over themselves closer to home!? you're worried about one swedish guy, and there must be about a zillion equally good looking guys where you live who would be more than happy to marry your cute behind!? you must have a very long queue outside your front door of love hungry guys all desperate to steal your heart and gaze into those baby blues of yours!? :p

reading through the rests of the posts, i realize that you haven't met.

i'd do a few (or all) of the following to give you a greater sense of surety that he is who he says he is:

- buy a cam (and buy him one if necessary). they are cheap; don't fall for the 'i can't afford one right now'. if he can't afford a cam, he can't afford to fly to see you.

- ask for an address; send him a small, token gift. once he receives it, ask what it is. at least you'll have some address where he can be reached. it might not be HIS, but at least it's a start.

- talk on the phone. get his number and you call him. it might cost you something, but at least your own number will remain private if he turns out to be a creep. call him at odd hours during the day, night and weekends just to ensure you that he's available to take calls, and isn't curled up in bed with a wife.

- i'd arrange to meet. often there is a lot of intensity online but the chemistry just doesn't exist in real life. i flew first to visit my guy - i wanted to meet him away from my home, my family, just in case he turned out to be a weirdo! and that gives you a chance to meet family, friends and coworkers which further ensures that he is a single man.

i hope this helps and that it works out for you, in whatever way is best.

But after three years with your long distance lover, is there any indication from him that he'd like you permanently in his life and not just as a flyby....? :( do you envision spending the rest of your life with this guy, or is he simply a stopgap until somebody else comes walking by? and if someone else does catch your attention closer to home and who also isn't a strain on your pocketbook... what happens to your distant friend? thrown to the kerb...??? :(

our private lives, and future decisions, are not something that i publicly declare and discuss on a website with people that i don't know.

Thank you very much!!! Really helpfull!! We understand each other

I agree!!

good luck

No.. it is not love that prevails.


I married someone from online who lived in England.


We saw eachother before were were married in person.

We were together over a year befor we married.


Asking questions, and trying to get to know someone is not just the way to know someone. You have to SEE someones life in action on a regular basis.


He turned out to be abusive in every way.. especially physically.


You dont know a person, and have no way of knowing someone until you live close to eachother, and both are local. Until that happens, youll be in "love" with a stranger.

at least you're on the same continent. arrange to meet somewhere neutral. get separate hotel rooms (even different hotels would be good). plan to make a weekend of it and see if the sparks are there. if so, start thinking about where you want to take things. if not, go home and try again.
i traveled to Belarus in an attempt to meet with a woman. she canceled last minute but i went anyway and had quite the adventure.

sometimes you have to be willing to work at love.


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yeah I thought I did but it doesn't work..they usually feel free to mess around when they think that you're not looking because you're far away so who would know??? Well people do find out and it still hurts!

papersmile and I met three years ago. She is in Canadia and I am in Texas

we talk to each other on the phone and on yahoo and on here every single day

we get together every few months and spend a couple of weeks together. Each time is like the first time

it's not easy but she is worth the wait and the difficulties

It can be done if you find the right person and are willing to put some effort into it

yeah I've been doing that as well and as soon as I thought I really found the one I logged off, quit the site, but then curiosity got the better of me and I wondered if she was still chatting it up...and sure enough!!!