Topic: Feed Back Please
BigGrnTractor's photo
Tue 10/27/09 07:59 PM
i have been on here for acouple weeks maybe i think. i was just wonderin if yall could give me some feed back on my profile and let me know what u think of it. things that u like, things that maybe i need to change or add. whatever yall think. let me know, thanks

samauribaby's photo
Tue 10/27/09 08:05 PM
Good job!

Good luck and happy mingleing!

writer_gurl's photo
Tue 10/27/09 08:10 PM
Awesome profile:thumbsup:

Keep the pic of the baby...Women are a sucker for babiesflowerforyou

no photo
Tue 10/27/09 08:11 PM
simple profile, straight to the point-good job

good luck

BigGrnTractor's photo
Tue 10/27/09 08:13 PM
yea thats my daughter shes my world and will always be there. plus i dont really have any pics of myself. thank u for replyin with ur comments

writer_gurl's photo
Tue 10/27/09 08:26 PM

yea thats my daughter shes my world and will always be there. plus i dont really have any pics of myself. thank u for replyin with ur comments

You are very welcome...and the pics you have on here are great:smile:

bingbing's photo
Tue 10/27/09 08:39 PM
Seems good to me.. And welcome to mingle!

no photo
Tue 10/27/09 09:03 PM
Welcome to the jungle. :tongue: flowerforyou

agbbieannie's photo
Tue 10/27/09 09:10 PM
Cute .... Love the song big green tractor : )

MelodyGirl's photo
Tue 10/27/09 09:13 PM
Edited by MelodyGirl on Tue 10/27/09 09:19 PM
HI flowerforyou

I am one of the people that believe children have no business on an adult dating site. First, the THOUGHT of introducing a child into your dating life should only come when you have known the person for a good 6 months to a year. Why start with this fact? For the sake of your child, slow down. Everyone will assume your daughter is important. There is another thread in the forum that discusses "turn-offs" in profiles and this subject was mentioned. The majority are turned-off by extreme "I HAVE A KID" profiles.

Since your child's safety if paramount, having pictures of a minor on the internet is a really careless act. You may think it's harmless but pedophile sites steal images of children all the time. If you don't think its possible then you trust strangers (and the internet) more than you should. Pedophilia does not make sense; don't try to justify why bad things happen but they do. Protect your child and don't use her to attract women.

You are an adult; show pix that reflect your being an adult. The details section of your profile indicates you have a child, therefore, droning on about it in your essay is not desirable. Why don't you find better use of that space?

These are things you might consider:

1 – Use SPELL check and proper punctuation (or try). If you are a parent then you should really set an early example anyway but what girl wants to date someone who can't communicate properly? The smart, goal oriented girls seek smart, goal oriented guys!


My name is Jon. Im 22 i like to have fun, parties, hangin out with friends. I am looking for a women i can hang out with and just have a good time with.


The message here is; I am not a grown up yet. Let's party! Oh, I only want to hang out but not take dating you seriously. You already mention in the details section that you are 22. Again, there is no need to repeat the same information over and over.


I have a 6 month old daughter she is my world. So if ur interested in me you have to like kids. If u dont then dont waste your time or mine.


Once more, we already know you have a daughter because you mention that in the details portion of your profile. Not all women like kids and -- trust me -- they won't waste your time. We get it! This is unnecessary text. For the girls that don’t date men with kids, the “Have children” question if the first place we look.


Im a country boy as well so i hope u can deal with that. If there is anything else u wanna know then message me and ask me.


You hope we can deal with that? What? Is that like a threat? My way or the highway? I think you can leave off the last part and just say, "I am a country boy." In the “Interest” section of your profile you already indicated a lot of country activities.

By saying, "if there is anything else you want to know", you are being lazy. This is YOUR profile! You are supposed to market yourself. How will you stand out among the thousands of profiles on this site? The next guy that has a well put together profile will get the contact.

Try to list some of your educational and career goals. You can’t really aspire to partying all the time, right? What are you looking for in a girl? Expand on some of your interests. Don’t use filler text but really throw something out there that will motivate a conversation.

You seem to be open, honest, and genuine. I hope to can use some of my feedback.

Also, join in the forums -- the people are great! :banana:

thunderstruck60's photo
Tue 10/27/09 10:00 PM
i'm a country boy too and i know what u mean w the deal w it aspect! we have pride n bein born and raised doin stupid *** sh^t and its a wonder we're still alive! i thought ur profile was pretty good! might throw n a few things that u want n a woman. take it ez and don't let ur meat loaf! u'll find some women on here.

BigGrnTractor's photo
Fri 10/30/09 06:29 PM
First, off Melodygirl, i have a daughter whom i love very much. and i will say that over and over again. she is my world end of story. i will talk bout her all day long if i please. Second, as far as the spell check thing goes, u need to learn proper grammar urself. i know i cant spell and all that ****, ill be the first to admit that.

Finally, Thunderstruck, thank u for ur feed back on my profile. ur right on the things im lookin for in a girl. i will change that. thanks for the idea.

Socratease's photo
Fri 10/30/09 06:47 PM
Have a look at the join dates of some,and know it is never easy or a sure thing...just be there and make yourself known in some ways.
And dont be shy with a profile you like of another,gotta take a chance and try for a lady,chances are if you email more than 5 you will have at least 1 respond and then go from there...if it works than fine,if it dont than you can always try again.Stay positive bud,gl

MelodyGirl's photo
Fri 10/30/09 08:59 PM
Edited by MelodyGirl on Fri 10/30/09 09:58 PM

First, off Melodygirl, i have a daughter whom i love very much. and i will say that over and over again. she is my world end of story. i will talk bout her all day long if i please. Second, as far as the spell check thing goes, u need to learn proper grammar urself. i know i cant spell and all that ****, ill be the first to admit that.



rofl Okie dokie! winking

Defensive much?

I was not vitriolic in my comments. YOU asked for feedback. Why snap back?

I am open to how you feel my grammar is flawed. Sorry to toot my horn but I have two bachelor's degrees -- one of which is in English. I also work part time as a copywriter; meaning, I proof documents for English and spelling error. You could say grammar is my business. I make mistakes too but for you to charge at me with that comment is laughable.

If you do not wish to hear feedback, don’t ask. Ignorance is not bliss. To paraphrase, "whatever yall think. let me know, thanks ." :laughing:

Enjoy the site. flowerforyou

PacificStar48's photo
Fri 10/30/09 09:58 PM
Reading your profile I would probably delete the last four sentences and write something friendly and positive about country boy values.

Congratulations about being a new Dad. As a non custodial Dad you are going to have a hard sell with many of the custodial parents. They have seen some kids used as "date bait" so kind of sensitive about it. I will give you points for saying she is your world because as a new Dad that is the right mind set even if you probably want a more diplomatic way to say it. Your ongoing actions will speak for themselves. The photos would be better if you are smileing. I didn't make the jump that you were going to include your baby in dates but that anyone you would be serious about would have to like kids because you plan on being a Great dad life long.

People will probably think you are more serious about that if you don't lead with the idea of partying and maybe make it clear that you are responsible and your idea of a good time is it is a safe, sane, sober good time. Dates that a quality young woman would want to share.

Might want to think about stopping smoking and redirect that money toward your child or better jobskills.

Working hard sounds kind of flip when identifying you really have a job would serve you better.

Hang in there. If someone gives you feed back on the forums resist getting defensive. Other wise if they know they can get your goat you will be eaten alive pretty much every time you open up.

Welcome to the playpen.


chillywillow's photo
Sat 10/31/09 08:01 AM
Well Big Green, i think your profile is fine, its simple and to the point, i think adding that you have a child is very important to stress upfront, women do not want to be surprised with that info later down the road. And as far as being a country boy, they are some of the best men a woman can find. loyal , passionate, and no bs. As far as your grammer, unless you want to meet an english major, and be corrected every 10 mins, I see nothing wrong with it, would be kinda endearing to the right girl, good luck to you.