Lives short, Start living it.

Here is how I see it. I'm thinking she was simply looking to find out where you were. Maybe her current relationship went sour and she wanted you to fall back on. I mean you took her shat for 3 years and she took every advantage of you... she had no problems taking your money, had her space to do what she wanted for a month with your money while you were out working, helped you use instead of helping you to stop, wasn't affectionate and to top it off you spent thousands on a house that's her's...so heck yeah she's gonna come back looking for ya..I could be wrong but when you get back on your feet and things are looking up again for ya that's when you just might see her at your doorstep...my advice...be strong, don't answer the door, she had her chance and blew it...you deserve better.

and try not to overthink things with her...take it as a life lesson, don't give her the power to stress you out...you're better then that.

just relax..better theing are to come.

Ummm.....do you guys have defacto property laws over there?

I suspect that this is more than guy/girl break up...

Three years.... and three years proof of financial support, and three years of renovations to her property....


If I may be so bold, seek legal advice... I suspect you have a right to a share of her property if your defacto laws are similar to ours...

Here is how I see it. I'm thinking she was simply looking to find out where you were. Maybe her current relationship went sour and she wanted you to fall back on. I mean you took her shat for 3 years and she took every advantage of you... she had no problems taking your money, had her space to do what she wanted for a month with your money while you were out working, helped you use instead of helping you to stop, wasn't affectionate and to top it off you spent thousands on a house that's her's...so heck yeah she's gonna come back looking for ya..I could be wrong but when you get back on your feet and things are looking up again for ya that's when you just might see her at your doorstep...my advice...be strong, don't answer the door, she had her chance and blew it...you deserve better.

and try not to overthink things with her...take it as a life lesson, don't give her the power to stress you out...you're better then that.

just relax..better theing are to come.

So true!! The day that you turn her away will be a new beginning for you. It's like a de-programming. You will feel so empowered and in control of yourself it will be amazing. You're strong, I can sense it, and you can do this.

Contact a lawyer and see if you can get some equity(money) out of the house.
Then get back on the river and leave this all behind.

Good Luck

i wish i could.i mean its her house,but i payed alot of money to get it into the state its in now...its very nice.i even had the cieling textured with glitter in the texture mix...even the stoppers in her brand new beautiful sink costed me nearly 75 dollers a piece[no ****].

And quit throwing your money around. Dang. I don't get that with people. What's the whole brag thing about money.

I'd try and get in touch with a lawyer, do you have the receipts and stuff? Does anything fall under common-law marriage?

And quit throwing your money around. Dang. I don't get that with people. What's the whole brag thing about money.

I'd try and get in touch with a lawyer, do you have the receipts and stuff? Does anything fall under common-law marriage?

There is not much to say that the woman was a gold digger and most people don't think seriously about picking up a mate in a bar. You put yourself out there to get hurt by practically waving your money around.

Don't think that because you did that much for a woman that she is supposed to reciprocate with affection, love, and honesty. You bought her. Next time, don't be so quick to dazzle a woman with gifts as ways of proving anything to her. First, find out if there is chemistry that isn't bought and paid for with your cash. Second, see what she is bringing to the table.

I've only got one piece of advice, I got it a couple of weeks ago when my last girlfriend broke up with me.

"B1tches Be Crazy and there's no way to predict them."

Who knows what's going on in her head. I can tell you this much, it is no longer your concern. If she wants to talk to your folks, let her, just let them know that you don't want them to give her any information about you. Drop her like a bad habit, and don't ever look back.