How 'open' have your relationships been?

How 'open' will you allow your relationships to be?

Does it mean exclusivity?

Does it mean open and honest, in every intention, and action?

Does it mean being transparent?

I ask because I have an open relationship.

We are extremely open and available, and honest with each other, and even when one of us finds ourselves momentarily infatuated with someone, we discuss it....we share that information.

Does it mean we can sleep with other people, if we so chose to?

Yes, it does, however, that doesn't mean that we are disrespecting each other by that action, it means we both RESPECT each other completely, to be honest enough to express that desire.


And ironically....the desire to go elsewhere disappears.


I don't own him... I am open to him...open hearted, open minded, and open in my respect for him.

and he is the same.

My relationships are exclusive, because that is important to ME. I respect everyone has their own personal priorities , none better or worse than any other. I just believe in the exclusiveness of true intimacy. Sharing my physical self with someone is an act of love and commitment and something more special than just entertainment or feeling good. I cant imagine loving someone and sharing that part of me with anyone but them so i couldnt be happy with anyone else that didnt have that particular priority. Although I know many people dont view sex as the special bonding that I do.

Emotionally, I prefer them to be open and honest. A partner should be someone that you can go to and share your thoughts and feelings with and still feel secure and loved. Should be no secrets or deceptions.

No open relationships for MirrorMirror

what an interestng and different way you've gone about it...

i prefer exclusivity for various reasons, among them is that any possible insecurities either of us may have might fester and magnify over time, the threat of STDs in this day and age, and the "specialness" i want to feel as being his one and only and vice versa

He is afraid to have kid/s and STD's.....

Everyone has there own views on what a relationship should be or what is comfortable for them. I want only an exclusive relationship with a man, that is my personal preference.

open relationship are you refering to have someone else on the side where she wouldnt mind

if so i can tell you this much..ARE YOU FREAKEN CRAZY

my ex hubby way before we ever got married wanted to have a open relationship, i couldnt say anything but he knew i was mad and he went to bed with someone i went to school with, he knew i was mad and his statement was we agreed. i didnt agree to jack 's hit

it does nothing but tears the realtionship apart
and if i ever meet someone else that wants to have a open relationship. guess where there heading.. out the freakrn door and out of my life. and of course a kick in the jewels

i actually did kick my ex hubby in jewels way before we got married i had enough of his crap and he deserved it

We all have our own personal needs in a relationship.... and one of those for most is exclusiveness.


If I had have asked myself the same question ten years ago.... I would have responded the same way...

What I have learnt is when the 'taboos' are removed, and an honest accountability takes it's place, a lot of the insecurities disappear.

I have met so many people in my lifetime, so many that have been very special, and I find I develop an infatuation, a 'crush' on them...in the past I would suppress that, and be mortified at myself.

With Him, I have from day one, mentioned when I have found myself developing a crush on someone, and rather than recriminations, and accusations he said he could understand why....and listed the person's qualities.

He wasn't made to feel inferior, he didn't get insecure....he taught me, that it is ok to acknowledge other people are special also....and that by finding yourself infatuated, or crushing on someone is only a reflection on the qualities you admire.

He also shares when he has met some fantastic musician, some incredibly clever, talented, articulate or beautiful woman...and why he has found himself crushing...I dont feel inferior, if anything I admire him more....

for if he sees these women as 'great' or 'crushable'...I must be something pretty amazing, to be the one he chooses to love.

Well heck, we dont die when we fall in love. Its perfectly normal to still find others attractive, maybe even to 'crush'. That kind of openness is fine, I have had that too. Its just the open relationship where I am not the SPECIAL or chosen one because there are so MANY, that I am opposed to. If there is no physical contact and no disrespect of your partner, attraction is perfectly natural.

Ahhh...however, he couldn't be monogomous to save himself!

I say that with affection, not disdain...he's a musician, and travels a lot... he is constantly in the spotlight....and if he goes elsewhere for sex, then so be it.

ALWAYS the primary relationship (ours) is protected, ALWAYS he has used condoms.... and is extremely careful to let the other know he is in a long term relationship PRIOR to having sex with them..

I know it is difficult for many to understand.... I am not delusional, I am very clear minded on what this is with us....

and I must say that as we both mature, and become much more solid in this relationship, he has not seemed to have found the urge to go elsewhere there.

(For those that do not know, we have been connected intimately and romantically for 8 years, with a three year break in the latter part)

it takes every bit of my concentration and attention to keep up with just one woman

two would drive me nuts

and as far as I'm concerned papersmile can see any other man she pleases

if she wants to see him get his azz beat to a bloody pulp that is

lol...i feel ya

lol...i feel ya

to each their own

Im open when it comes to honesty but I would have a problem being ok with someone sleeping with another person. I believe I would have to smother him with a pillow or something like that!!

yeah i like having just the one guy has to be exclusive an honest you should be respectful with the person you are with faithful. open relationship i don't think is good not at all..

stab him with a cheese knife???

I would like my exclusive, attentive, playful, respectful, loving, honest, communicative, emotionally available man to open doors and pickle jars

its the best weapon of choice!!!