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Topic: Not me, but a friend.
boxturtle247 Joined Wed 02/07/07 Posts: 213	Fri 10/09/09 10:25 PM
A friend of mine has been seeing a woman for about a year now. He lives in NJ. She lives in Canada. He wants to pick up and move to Canada. (become a Canadian citizen etc.) Surprisingly, the distance isn't the greatest issue in their relationship. My friend in 22. This woman is 59. Personally, I think this is a bad choice for my friend to make. Throw in the fact that this woman has a son who is OLDER than my friend with the SAME NAME and the weirdness factor kinda grows. How do I tell my friend that I think this is a bad choice? Is it a bad choice for him to make?

HawaiiMusikMan Joined Sat 11/08/08 Posts: 3548	Fri 10/09/09 10:26 PM
Hmmmmmmm............ stranger things have happened I guess.

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Fri 10/09/09 10:27 PM
toughy. it's his life and he has to make the choice....good or bad. all you can do is just tell him your fears but let him know you are his friend no matter what he decides

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Fri 10/09/09 10:29 PM
yeah... a bit of an age difference there I would think since I am ten years younger than her and have a son older than 22.. odd, but for them to deside.

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Fri 10/09/09 10:30 PM
A friend of mine has been seeing a woman for about a year now. He lives in NJ. She lives in Canada. He wants to pick up and move to Canada. (become a Canadian citizen etc.) Surprisingly, the distance isn't the greatest issue in their relationship. My friend in 22. This woman is 59. Personally, I think this is a bad choice for my friend to make. Throw in the fact that this woman has a son who is OLDER than my friend with the SAME NAME and the weirdness factor kinda grows. How do I tell my friend that I think this is a bad choice? Is it a bad choice for him to make? Just because you think it is a bad choice doesn't make it a bad choice...just something you wouldn't personally do...don't do anything, let the guy choose his direction in life.

Modela Joined Fri 09/19/08 Posts: 2535	Sat 10/10/09 03:48 AM
Wow! oh my, is all I can say....

Englishrose2 Joined Sat 09/26/09 Posts: 1145	Sat 10/10/09 03:53 AM
As a friend you can only point things out but at the end of the day he will do what he wants to do, he will either grow as a person or fall on his sword at the end of the day the choice is his. Anna x

catseyes1 Joined Fri 06/19/09 Posts: 1459	Sat 10/10/09 06:14 AM
A friend of mine has been seeing a woman for about a year now. He lives in NJ. She lives in Canada. He wants to pick up and move to Canada. (become a Canadian citizen etc.) Surprisingly, the distance isn't the greatest issue in their relationship. My friend in 22. This woman is 59. Personally, I think this is a bad choice for my friend to make. Throw in the fact that this woman has a son who is OLDER than my friend with the SAME NAME and the weirdness factor kinda grows. How do I tell my friend that I think this is a bad choice? Is it a bad choice for him to make? I know he is your friend and you are looking out for his best interest, but he is 22 and he needs to find out for himself if this is what he wants or not.

newarkjw Joined Sun 05/25/08 Posts: 17172	Sat 10/10/09 06:16 AM
If it doesn't work out he will be better because of it. I wouldn't sweat it........

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Sat 10/10/09 10:10 AM
Maybe the woman is extremely immature or he's extremely mature? Who knows why people get together? Let him work it out for himself, if he's like a lot of people, he'll just get pissy because you're meddling...

johnboy072472 Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 4874	Sat 10/10/09 10:13 AM
Maybe she is filthy rich??????

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Sat 10/10/09 10:13 AM
Maybe she is filthy rich?????? Or that....

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Sat 10/10/09 10:16 AM
whoaaaaaaaa!!!!

johnboy072472 Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 4874	Sat 10/10/09 10:17 AM
Maybe he has grandmother issues????

johnboy072472 Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 4874	Sat 10/10/09 10:17 AM
Maybe he has grandmother issues????

4974 Joined Mon 01/19/09 Posts: 1621	Sat 10/10/09 10:20 AM Edited by 4974 on Sat 10/10/09 10:21 AM
i like em younger...but not that much of an age difference ...the mental picture is less than lovely.

tombraider Joined Wed 09/12/07 Posts: 5042	Sat 10/10/09 10:24 AM
...just because you don't feel it's the right thing to do doesn't make it so..let your friend make his own decisions,you voiced your opinion leave it at that..the most important thing is that your friend is happy is it not,as far as what may happen down the line,well no one can foresee the future..the worst place to be when it comes to affairs of the heart is in the middle...wish your friend well and hope that it works out for him..jmo

Riding_Dubz Joined Wed 05/21/08 Posts: 22110	Sat 10/10/09 10:24 AM
Tell em American bacon is better

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Sat 10/10/09 10:29 AM
Tell em American bacon is better Ya right!!!

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Sat 10/10/09 10:39 AM
A friend of mine has been seeing a woman for about a year now. He lives in NJ. She lives in Canada. He wants to pick up and move to Canada. (become a Canadian citizen etc.) Surprisingly, the distance isn't the greatest issue in their relationship. My friend in 22. This woman is 59. Personally, I think this is a bad choice for my friend to make. Throw in the fact that this woman has a son who is OLDER than my friend with the SAME NAME and the weirdness factor kinda grows. How do I tell my friend that I think this is a bad choice? Is it a bad choice for him to make? yeah,kinda weird