well i just got dev. in aug. and i lost most everything. she got more
then half. of everything. and she never worked out side the home. but we
were maried 20 yrs.and one busness was mine before before i new her.

It's sad when these guys get the worst of everything and don't deserve
it. I never understood people like their wives anyway. They just can't
seem to be happy with what they got. And from what I've seen, they had
it made with them. What the hell is wrong with them anyway? I hope you
guys find someone real nice like me for instance that would never do you
that way again. Now you feel like you can't trust anybody anymore and
unless you have that trust, you won't have a happy marriage. If you
find that you know you can trust them and know absolutely that you can,
there is a chance. I know from experience. Best of luck guys. I hope
I can find a guy that will treat me good and that I can trust and be
happy with someday too. GOD is watching out for all of us and will show
us the way. Another post made me think of that. You know in your heart
when that person comes along. My heart feels like that, but
unfortunatly he isn't ready for a relationship right now, plus he is too
busy working, so now I am having to date around and maybe find someone
else, but deep down, I feel for this other guy. Maybe it won't last that
long, I don't know, but it hurts. ttyl
My best to all of you and hope you find happiness.

I understand why people would find it offensive to require one, but
there comes a time in our lives when we have to take responsibility for
our own actions. I know that we don't enter a marriage anticipating the
end, but wanting to protect your own assets in the event of an
unfortunate ending, JUST a VERY responsible thing to do. Oh, and by the
way, Ontario, glad to hear you're still enjoying your lady friend, keep
busting out the tunes!!!!!

Sure I think they are a good ideal

Yes, if i ever get married again, LOL, I will sign one, or no marriage.




Izzy

I don't think I can get married...

Jess...not with that joey in your pouch you cant

OOOps!!! Knew I should have gone to the day care thingo first...

Hey do they do pre nups on gum trees?

jess i reckon your pre nups would stick well if you did them on a GUM
tree.

I reckon you are onto something there KariZ...sticky pre nups...

I think its a good idea. I cohabitated with someone for 7 yrs made the
mistake of letting him put everything in his name Even though I made
more money than him. I walked away with only my personal belongings. He
even got my 4 runner it was in his name.

I live in Louisiana, whatever I own before marriage and whatever I
inherit from my relatives remain mine if the marriage dissolves. What we
get together would be split between us. So I see no problem with a
prenuptial, it is the same as the laws I live under. You set yourself up
for a break up, when you think about failure instead of how to make a
marriage work. My parent's and everyone that I know in a long term
marriage, don't give up, but really work at their marriage. You are
bringing together two different people with two different thoughts, you
need to compromise. You can't change people so you take them for what
they are and you work with that.

If I truly loved a man, I would sign it..just to show him it didn't
matter what he had!! But true love should be equal on both sides...if
you are so worried about having to get a pre-nup maybe you should think
twice before you marry. Because in my own eyes- your more worried about
loosing what you have, enstead of what you gain when you marry the right
lady.

a pre nup to me is like an insurance policy.

i have been divorced once, not sure if i will marry again but i am young
enough that it is a possiblity. Of course i will consider a pre nup.
Common sense tells me i dont want to lose what i have worked hard for.

I too would get one I also lost most everything in my divorce and am
slowing digging out of that hole!

Hmmm, as far as prenups go, I think if you feel you have to sign one,
then you aren't ready to tie the not. Marriage has become devalued
because "divorce" has become as banal as "breaking up". What sort of
value can you have on something that isn't permanent.

The bottom line is this:

Fellas, my brothers, if you can't look your woman in the eye and say,
"Statistically speaking, there is a good chance that we may end up
divorced. If that were to happen, how much do you want?" Look gents,
unless you are willing to lose it all on a woman, then you aren't ready
to get married. Love is about being able to risk it all no matter what
the cost. Not only that, but love is willing to take the plunge again
after you've already had your heart-broken.

Ladies, you wonderful and sometimes confusing people, ignore everything
I just said. Marry, and marry often. As a woman you are entitled to 50%
percent from each and every man that you marry and subsequently divorce.
Now that means that those monies stack, making divorce one of the
greatest financial windfalls next to the lottery

Love doesnt have to mean you be down right stupid either.