Ok here is the situation I have a female friend who I have know for about 13 years. She is pregnant right now because she is a surrogate. She is married and I have a girlfriend.

Ok now for the question, she is coming to California to have the kid because that's where the surrogates want her to have it. Her husband can't come due to work. Well she has asked me about 5 times to come in the delivery room with her because no one else is going to be there...I find it kind of strange...so does my girlfriend....but she has been a fried for a long time...so do I do it?

Absolutely, hold her hand.

I Say if she's really that much of a friend to you, and she needs you and trusts you that much to want you to be there in her time of need, i wouldn't let her down. Id go, but ask her if your Gf can come too it might be a good experience for the both of u

I would tell you to be there for her. I couldn't imagine going through that alone. Just be there and hold her hand and help her through it.

I totaly agree.

lol, I'm sure she wouldn't mind my gf coming...but my gf would run run run as fast as she could...she cringes when there is even 'labor scene' on tv lol.

I find it a little too personal, especially since I don't know her husband that well..even though she says he is cool with it...but I am debating it

I wouldn't do it because I'll probably drop dead but yeah you should- Is your friend after all

I will add,
If she is having a surrogate baby for someone else....and he Husband is cool with it... Do you really think he would mind you attending the birth

Is like saying.
Its cool if she has another mans baby, but theres going to be a divorce if she dare let another man in the birthing room.

Issac, I've had two children but would love to have the opportunity to see it instead of feeling it. If you want to support your friend, you should. I can imagine it being very scarey alone.

If you have any resevations about it at all, don't do it. Your presence and uneasiness will take away from the experience, not add to it. If I were her I wouldn't want someone who wasn't in there 100% for me.

it depends on how good a friend to her you are

if you are someone she can count on or not

if you are then do it

if you're not then don't

Do it. Then ask her for a cut from what she is getting paid.

If your worried about what her husband would think I would talk to him about it. If she is that close of a friend to you I'm sure shse would have talked to her husband about you and it shouldn't be a problem.

*rolls eyes* men r so predictable....

talking about lewisw123

never really thought about it that way thank you

Personally, I would rather be part of the conception!!

Darlin, U can be in there an be the friend she needs without havin to see all her business. Just help her thru the labor with the breathin, gettin her ice chips, sneakin her the occassional cookie an if need be the overbearin monster to the nurses when she doesn't get pain meds fast enough. When it comes time for the actual birthin of the child keep ur hinny at the head of the bed, turn ur back an hold her hand. Jeez, why do men think they're gonna see it all just cause they're in the same room.

Dude, she needs someone with her. She's your friend. Do you want her to have to go through that alone? I wouldn't let any of my friends go through something that scary by themselves. It would be one thing if her family could attend her, but since they can't, and YOU CAN, then do it. Friends are supposed to be supportive, and she needs that support now.

Like a previous poster said, it's not like you have to see everything.

forget it, i misread

No chance. Help her around town or after she leaves the hospital - but forget about going into labor with her - no way I would do that!