You know ive come to realise all my past relationships fell apart at the seams due to my own goals. I mean alot of women talk about how they want a solid guy who no matter what is gonna do what it takes to get what he wants "life goals specifically". and so far ive found only 2 types of women (please take no offence to these statements) Ive found the type that try to break u and mold u to what they want u to do, or the type that simply just doesnt care and wants ntohing to do with your personal interest or opinions...

Why cant I just find a good women (women not a little girl who thinks she is) who will respect me as I would her and just be there for me... I guess this is sort of a unload for me. My most recent relationship fell apart cause she was just a cold cruel person, no personallity and no compassion for any one but her.

I know I have my own flaws I know im not the greatest looking or most intelegent, but im so sick and tired of feeling like im secound best or that every thing depends on me, and that every thing I do theyll take offencive and as if im trying to hurt them...

Why cant I just find one that lets me be me!

Keep looking. So many of us are in the same boat we just don't take the time to introduce ourselves to each other.

Normal people are out there, or so i've been told.

All I can say is get used to it. Your 21.. you may not find anyone whos right for you, even when your 51.

I dnk I guess ive just really grown tired of the secound best thing... O_O theres normal people out there? WHY WAS I NOT INFORMED *cracks whip* U HAVE FAILZ ME FOR THE LAST TIME! BAD COMPUTER BAD!

you have to sort through alot of nuggets to find the gold,..

just keep seeking what you want to find,..

the world is only your reflection

The person for you is out there

Somewhere.....

It might not even happen online

For me it was right in front of me for years and I did not see it

Just don't look so hard

Relax

Now I'm curious...how long did it take you to realize she was cold-hearted, cruel and had no personality? Seems like that's the sort of thing one would notice BEFORE they started dating someone, not after the relationship is over, right?

stay true to yourself,..and what you seek,.and you will find

I guess I don't understand why some one so young would worry so much about such things...

wooooow thats deep... I like that LOL see why cant I find a philisophical women!

If you are trying to find women that want a man that "no matter what is gonna do what it takes to get what he wants "life goals specifically" ", then of course you will end up women that are cold and cruel.

Most women who want a healthy relationship are going to want a man who can be more balanced than that.

Experience has taught a lot of women that men with that kind of ambition tend to walk all over people and will sacrifice family/romantic time for the sake of their ambitions.

The more cold and calculating (and not in a good way) women do want men like that because men with that kind of ambition then to be beneficial to their own ambition.

what do you mean by,. "it was right in front of you"

may I ask ?

lol,...they`re over 40,..

Well It started after one of my x's was raped, well she never liked my x (that I can understand) but like I was still really good friends with my x hell itd been 3 years sence we dated...well I went and saw her in the hospital and when I get home shes just going off about how im going around cheating on her and how my x is a slut etc and I told her hey dude shes laying in hopital bed after being raped and beaten u could show some sympathy even just on a person to person bases dnt have to like her but damn... and it just got worse, like she kicked me out of MY apartment because she dint want to go to her moms and left me high and dry... there was alot of stuff.

He was my best friend!

Helping me through a personal crises we found a deeper relationship

Nuff said

I'm just wondering if she was like that before you got together, or did she change personalities after you were dating?

I never have been like every one else I guess for my age range, even growing up I never had fun cause I just didnt see what they did as fun id rather readf and learn some thing I guess. Now days I am a fun person but Im philisophical and I think about things I shouldnt for my age..

i likes my men a lil mean and egotistical its kinda sexy

maybe when you quit looking she will find you.

She changed after we started dating, she was the guilt trip sort, made me feel bad about things I shouldnt have. No im not the kind that I let my ambition run over people eather.... I guess my problem is I care to much for every one...were as years ago I was cold and very different.